i dont really care much about what people do, its about what people are. if someone has an innate ability to rationalize and justify any wrong act, be it against me, anyone else, or only them-self, and do this repeatedly, I need no "hard evidence" or discrete point at which to pull out. its not difficult to derive the inner machinations of those whom have a personal philosophy which bends, twists, shifts, and breaks at the will of convenience. obsession over a discrete set of rules is for the soap operas. a deliberate and intentionally manipulative lie about how the vase broke is just as malefic as a lie about why one has to work so late into the evening. i dont have any lines to draw, my whole life is rather nebulous. if i felt my interests and well being were being willfully ignored, id immediately free myself of any such relationship.