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in love with a girl i cant/shouldn't have.

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Green Batty

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IV been interested in this girl for a good few years now but in the last 3 or 4 months i think that interest has turned into love as we have spent more time together and got to know each other better. the thing is that she is my dads girlfriends daughter and shes a few weeks off being 17 and im 19 (she is mentally and physically very mature). our parents have been together for a good 6 years and we at the moment we all live together. i cant be sure of her feelings towards me but im pretty sure there is some interest there its just she thinks it would be wrong. The worst thing is that our parents are getting married in september! What should i do? i cant stop thinking about her :?
 
Tough luck, but find someone else. Ugh that sucks.
 
Its tearing me apart man, its even stopping me sleep agonizing over it. im going travelling around spain and morocco in august so hopefully that will help me take my mind off it. maybe even find a holiday romance! i hate these stupid taboos, its not as if we're blood related or even related by law yet, thats not how society sees it tho. siiiiiigh
 
I feel you, but it is what it is.

In my experience these kinds of feelings, as intense as they are now, tend to lessen over time. This is especially true without any regular contact or any real reciprocation of romantic love.

Unfortunately, you will have to move on for the time being I think. It will be what is best for the overall health of your family.
 
thats a shitty situation, but dont do it.

girls come and go, you only get one dad

plus that would be awkward to the max, sounds like a TV sitcom
 
Well you aren't blood related, so I'd say go for it. That's just me, but the thrill of it all would make it more exciting for me.. a step moms daughter.

It'd probably be better for your family if you guys remained friends though,
 
My mom has a cousin who married their step brother.

I guess it wasnt that big of deal...they have a few kids and are still together.

I say fuck it, whats the big deal
 
The weight of socially conditioned/sanctioned morality is the big deal. Try to consider the greater social circles upon circles that Mother and Father would have to navigate future. It isn't right to impose our morality on others when no physical harm is being done to anyone, but that isn't pragmatic or realistic in this case and in my opinion.
 
Im just going off the one case I know of that's similar (identical, nearly)

Although, Idk what their parents had to go thru after that.

The tale does end with a relativly happy ending, though.
 
There are always rare exceptions, and exceptionally brave people that aren't afraid to live against the grain.

:)
 
Its sort of funny hearing my grandparents talk in retrospect about them sharing tents while camping in the backyard and so forth..lol
"Man! Those 2 get along so well for siblings"
 
the family were talking about her doing a fundraising bike ride for her trip to Thailand and i said i couldnt remember her doing it at all. then her mum said "well u didnt pay as much attention to her back then did you" in a half joking way. aaaawkwaaaard
 
Kissing cousins all night long I bet, shlong. One night offs in a tent is a world away from the public outside of closed zippers.
 
Do you always speak like that, Cheerio?

They were step-siblings, not cousins...if that matters.

Curious, OP, how does she feel about you?
 
Dude just think about it, how cool would it be to go on a double date?

WOOAHHHHH
 
My childhood best friend dated his father's long-term girlfriend's daughter, and no one truly thought it was strange. However, it's good advice to consider how it would swing the dynamic w/ your father and step-mother.

Personally, I don't think it is taboo unless you grew up together from a young age, and truly felt a psychological sibling bond. You can basically see her as an exchange student who was around while you were sexually maturing. Really, again, the big hurdle/barrier may be your father's relationship. If that's not a problem, I'd say move out and then go for it.
 
I have a friend who dated this guy, then her mom started dating his dad and they moved in together, so they all lived together. It was a unique situation. They have broken up since then but I've seen it happen.

Anyway, be careful, whatever you do. Try and hang out with other girls, maybe put your interest somewhere else, see if that's possible :)
 
Green Batty said:
IV been interested in this girl for a good few years now but in the last 3 or 4 months i think that interest has turned into love as we have spent more time together and got to know each other better. the thing is that she is my dads girlfriends daughter and shes a few weeks off being 17 and im 19 (she is mentally and physically very mature). our parents have been together for a good 6 years and we at the moment we all live together. i cant be sure of her feelings towards me but im pretty sure there is some interest there its just she thinks it would be wrong. The worst thing is that our parents are getting married in september! What should i do? i cant stop thinking about her :?
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My sister has been dating my step brother for nearly a year. It can work, but it's obviously going to be hugely sticky if it doesn't work. Fortunately it's working for them but they are 28+ and emotionally mature.
 
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