Divorce

[Perpetual Indulgence]

Yeah one of my friends here doesn't seem to pleased. I think he is being selfish. He is also a man who took back his husband twice after cheating. He moved out for 8 months while the other man moved in! Fuck that. That is the point of no return for me. My husband had a metal breakdown. I can forgive that and help in his recovery which he already proactive about.

 

[slushy muddy water]

im happy for you lady
when i first heard you guise were getting le divorce i was shocked because you both seemed so relaxed with each other
so lovingly comfortable in each others company
making you laugh was his business
when many would have been hurt and retaliated with name calling and stuffs behind the others back, you had understanding words of compassion
not to say you werent pissed, but your concern for him was more than obvious and i respected it

much love to you and your returned love

 

[purplefirefly]

Yeah one of my friends here doesn't seem to pleased.

It can be frustrating, given the circumstances that your friend has been through in his own relationship, but I recommend giving him the benefit of the doubt. I know we are all happy for your happiness but I would be willing to bet that a lot have some concerns at the same time too. It can be hard to forgive someone who hurt one of your friends or made them cry. I am sure that your friend is coming from a good place rather than from one where he is trying to bring you down.

Keep on keeping lady. You know your husband the best and if you are happy then that is the most important.

 

[shimazu]

my parents got divorced when I was 14 and in the months leading up to it there was a lot of arguing. I dont hate them for it or anything it just kind of killed any emotion I had towards them as I would just try to not be around a lot. The whole business of shuffling children back and forth for visitation seemed stupid to me so I just stayed with my father. In the 6 years that have passed my mother seems to act like it never happened which bothers me. I dont really interact with either of them much anymore since I moved out but Id say their divorce influenced me leaving as I just wanted to get away from both of them. Just food for thought from the child's perspective (teenager w/e).

 

[addictivepersona]

^ Makes me so glad my parents split when I was an infant (the divorce was official when I was 3-5 years old). Apparently my brother (2 1/2 at the time of the initial split) would ask when Daddy was going to come live in the new house. :-/ Visitation was lame, but thankfully it was encouraged, not mandatory--After I got a job at 15 I quit going for visitations except once or twice every two months, and that diminished farther 'til when I was 17 I'd pretty much only go for major holidays. Now, at 24, I haven't been to my father's house since I was 20 or 21; and I have absolutely no desire to go for a visit.

It has helped having a mother who had a similar situation growing up.

 

[Johnny1]

Congrats, PI!

 

[Perpetual Indulgence]

when many would have been hurt and retaliated with name calling and stuffs behind the others back, you had understanding words of compassion not to say you werent pissed, but your concern for him was more than obvious and i respected it

THIS

Thank you. Being like that was easy to do. He is my partner. He is the fairy tale man that I thought was so bullshit. If something makes you feel so good why are you going to let it ago? You don't. You help each other to make it through and have laughs in the next chapter.

I cannot wait to get f**ked

 

[modern buddha]

When my parents divorced, my dad made it mandatory in the agreement that I was to have at least a 24 hour visit every week. It really helped my childhood, since my mom was always at work and I was a latchkey kid during the week. I don't think I'd have as good of a childhood if it wasn't for the weekly visits to my dad's house. Seeing my only biological brother (my dad and stepmom's son) at the time helped me to learn some things I needed to learn as a kid.

It also helped my relationship with my dad, since my mom never had anything nice to say about him to me. If I wasn't forced to go visit every week, I think I would have grown up with unnecessary resentment to the man with which I have to thank for half of my genes.