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Divorce

well PI normally I would beware, but you are an independent, inspiring, intelligent, and beautiful woman who no doubt knows exactly what her wants and needs are!!

you go you!!
 
The anger subsided. Money is just money. Not having any sucks BUT I got used to it. My friends and co-workers have complimented me on my zen like attitude on the whole thing. Everyone is happy for me. No reason to let this go to divorce court. That would be me being stubborn and stupid. He is a good person with a side order of mental. I can handle that. Of course, he gets the best deal here. He gets to have me and he is well aware of how close he came to losing everything.
 
PI - one of our mains goals in this life is the pursuit of happiness - it seems as though this decision has filled your happy-tank to overflowing. This is awesome :D I'm absolutely happy for you <3
 
Perpetual Indulgence said:
He called Sunday afternoon crying. I could not understand him for the first 10 minutes. It was awful. Poor bastard. He admitted he fucked up and was so sorry. He has felt this for a couple months. I asked him why did he call earlier...he felt he needed to suffer and deal with the consequences of a stupid decision. I always understood he was desperate for good mental health and would do anything to achieve that but I also knew he would not be any happier living close to his family. I forgave his wrong doing long before this phone call. I was ready to take him back if he wanted to come home. I wished that one day I would come home from work and he would be there. The only bad thing about our relationship was that it ended. He still isn't fully back together mentally and I admitted I don't want him back if he is a mess. With the hope he has knowing that I will take him back where he belongs I wish he will get back to his old self quicker. The isolation must have been terrible. We are going to therapy when he gets settled back here. He told me he knows he does not want children. He is not equipped to deal with a child nor wished to pass on his mental defects. He takes responsibility for his actions but said his therapist in Sept over multiple sessions said perhaps not having a child was the cause of his returned anxiety. My thought of getting a divorce has vanished. I don't want that. I am over the anger. I want my man back. My heart is lifted and I feel the best I have in awhile. I can be a toughnut but I know my future lies with him. I expect him home by end of this month.
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I truly hope it works out for you, PI. That must have been a hard phone call to take and an even harder decision to make.
 
Perpetual Indulgence said:
at first I was cold like thinking get it the fuck together man and rollin my eyes
what a bitch :)
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LOL I'm that way too: dammit! BE A MAN! lol

Part of me wants to shake you and say "NOOOOO!!!!!!" but man, I can't even imagine what it would be like to get that call. I've had my "in love" moments when I wanted so much for that person to walk in the door. Hell, during that denial stage of Rob's death, I had that stupid hope it would happen and that the whole thing was a stupid joke.

Good on ya. Tell him if he pulls any of those stunts again, this pink haired BLer will come up there and beat his ass myself. :D
 
you ladies are awesome with your tough-sentiment... very nice to see. the world needs more strong women like you two :)
 
My divorce was finalized on March 27th of this year. My ex and I were together over 13 years in all; 7 of them married. She gave me her reasons for wanting to go, which frankly I think were mostly bs since she just had a kid 3 days ago. I didnt want kids, but that was never mentioned in why she wanted to leave.

Really,all I wanted for her was for her to be happy, and when it was obvious I wasnt and couldnt do that anymore, it didnt hurt to let her go try to find that happiness on her own. Our divorce was pretty painless: no kids, alimony, pets, or homes to fight over. We split the property the day she moved out.
 
PI, I really hope this works out for you. <3 He needs to realize that he needs to do his part as well, even if he is occasionally mental (aren't we all? ;)) I hope communication is on the top of priorities. If he's feeling out of whack then he's gotta tell you rather than flying off the deep end and making rash decisions.
 
purplefirefly said:
I hope communication is on the top of priorities. If he's feeling out of whack then he's gotta tell you rather than flying off the deep end and making rash decisions.
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until that breach in July we were excellent at expression and communication
lack of communication was the break down and we both understand that

KID A
Hugs. Your ex wife having a baby is closure to your relationship. Enjoy the next chapter in your life. Focus on what you need. What makes you happy and pursue it.
 
pi: at first discussion of your announcement i was shocked and felt protective of you and your wellbeing; but after a nights sleep and some time to contemplate; know how happy, compatible and content you are in lifestyle with one another; and wish you both the best. <3

take care of you for us please, and one another. this is fantastic news and i look forward to better tomorrows for you both.

...kytnism...:|
 
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