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Can't identify with emotions of others?

Biovail

Biovail

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Can anybody relate? I'm not really into drugs (only pot occasionally and psychedelics here and there), so I'm not suffering from blunted emotions or anything. I actually feel my own emotions just fine. Rain makes me feel peaceful. Jokes make me laugh. Hikes and nature make me feel happy. I can feel loneliness, confidence, anxiety, sadness, even gratitude. But with other people, I just don't get it. A friend gets a job, or accepted to an awesome foreign school, and I should feel happy for him, but I don't even know what that means. A friend breaks up with his girl, and I know I should feel something, but there's nothing there. I say sorry because I know that's what people do, but it's just a hollow statement. Recently a girl who graduated to the same school as me died, and my only response and only feeling was "oh". I didn't even feel a hint of emotion.

What gives? It seems like most people aren't like this.
 
Biovail said:
Can anybody relate? I'm not really into drugs (only pot occasionally and psychedelics here and there), so I'm not suffering from blunted emotions or anything. I actually feel my own emotions just fine. Rain makes me feel peaceful. Jokes make me laugh. Hikes and nature make me feel happy. I can feel loneliness, confidence, anxiety, sadness, even gratitude. But with other people, I just don't get it. A friend gets a job, or accepted to an awesome foreign school, and I should feel happy for him, but I don't even know what that means. A friend breaks up with his girl, and I know I should feel something, but there's nothing there. I say sorry because I know that's what people do, but it's just a hollow statement. Recently a girl who graduated to the same school as me died, and my only response and only feeling was "oh". I didn't even feel a hint of emotion.

What gives? It seems like most people aren't like this.
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You may just be rational. Mourning is a disgusting facet of humans. You probably just don't play off bullshit shallow dick stroking culture of America; and that is a good thing.
 
If a doctor told me I was autistic, I'd probably believe him.

The problem from my view is that this makes it annoyingly difficult to hold a conversation. I mean, you listen to a woman talk on the phone and she can talk for hours about nothing. And it's all "Oh I know I fell the same way, I'm so happy for you, blah blah!". The only time I can talk is when I'm drunk because I just joke about shit and fuck the haters and everyone loves me. Even then I can't converse with people. It's just me talking but it's usually fine because I'm entertaining.

I guess I'm lucky enough to have an ego.
 
a centain % of the human race does not have an "empathy gene".

met one the other day too, it sux cuz he was a beautiful dreaddy head.
 
Spud like a rational person with a low tollerance for trivial bullshit like me. And you know 98% of most peoples lives is trivial bullshit.
 
I think DXM kinds belongs to the pycaldelicas. Even though its a disiosiative (sorry for my horrible spelling). After the 6th time using it, I had no emotions for 6 weeks after wards. I could hear my self speak and it was just a low pitch of nothing in my voice. Drugs do these kind of things when you havent taken them long enough. I sugest you jsut take a break from everythings including weed. Then if your really in need for something smoke weed again but drop the others for atleast a year and see if it gets better.
 
Maybe I am just normal and think people's shit is stupid or maybe I'm autistic. I could fit under either category really


lars90 said:
I think DXM kinds belongs to the pycaldelicas. Even though its a disiosiative (sorry for my horrible spelling). After the 6th time using it, I had no emotions for 6 weeks after wards. I could hear my self speak and it was just a low pitch of nothing in my voice. Drugs do these kind of things when you havent taken them long enough. I sugest you jsut take a break from everythings including weed. Then if your really in need for something smoke weed again but drop the others for atleast a year and see if it gets better.
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Been like this my entire life, so it's not drugs. I really don't even smoke weed anymore
 
Biovail said:
Maybe I am just normal and think people's shit is stupid or maybe I'm autistic. I could fit under either category really




Been like this my entire life, so it's not drugs. I really don't even smoke weed anymore
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If its been that way your whole life then your probably like the others said autistic or mental a little faster than other and their for with the fedelings a little slower.

Like a servant. I dont know the english word for it basicly the opisite of mentaly challenged. Their are people who who dont feel as much but have allot of other amasing good skillz. Its all realtiv. You might not be very creativ but their for you could be good in mortoric. See what Im saying Im jsut really bad in explaining. Your probaly faster in somthing else than most of the people .
 
i know what you mean op, you're probably just fine and don't need a label (unless you want one). definately not a sociopath tho, just allergic to drama and bullshit.
 
I'm the same way kind of. I can sympathize with people to a degree, but I can't empathize worth shit. I think it's normal. *shrugs*
 
Biovail said:
Can anybody relate? I'm not really into drugs (only pot occasionally and psychedelics here and there), so I'm not suffering from blunted emotions or anything. I actually feel my own emotions just fine. Rain makes me feel peaceful. Jokes make me laugh. Hikes and nature make me feel happy. I can feel loneliness, confidence, anxiety, sadness, even gratitude. But with other people, I just don't get it. A friend gets a job, or accepted to an awesome foreign school, and I should feel happy for him, but I don't even know what that means. A friend breaks up with his girl, and I know I should feel something, but there's nothing there. I say sorry because I know that's what people do, but it's just a hollow statement. Recently a girl who graduated to the same school as me died, and my only response and only feeling was "oh". I didn't even feel a hint of emotion.

What gives? It seems like most people aren't like this.
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Maybe you just have a ridiculous amount of apathy...what else are you doing?! It doesn't have to hit you or make you happy when someone dies or gets something they want, but can you understand WHY someone might feel sad if their friend died? Maybe you'r ejust disconnected - you don't sound autistic. Or maybe you do, I dunno, I will talk to my mum who works with autistic teenagers - she keeps trying to tell me I'm autistic, but I've read about autism and I'm not- I was just apathetic about a lot of things, and just very very selfish.
 
Despite your disgust and distaste for empathy hiphophippy, it is actually VERY useful. Empathy is not the same sympathy. Empathy is being able to understand/relate to how someone else feels or is likely to feel for a given circumstance. That does not mean you give a flying fuck, or that you wish to make them feel good. It only means you understand. With that understanding, you can use it to manipulate people. If one had no empathy, one would be unable to understand what methods might be effective for say, torturing or blackmailing people. Machiavelli was a master of empathy, so was Kim Il Sung, appealing to people enough to motivate them to fight his war, and Morris Kallon chopping peoples hands off to intimidate the others into supporting the RUF.

It's not just trite happy happy yay MDMA lame. For someone who tries so hard to come across as a bad ass, you figure you would know a little about methodology of it. (Hint: your constantly hostile, condescending posts do you no favors at trying to sway people to agree with your shit)
 
rangrz said:
Despite your disgust and distaste for empathy hiphophippy, it is actually VERY useful. Empathy is not the same sympathy. Empathy is being able to understand/relate to how someone else feels or is likely to feel for a given circumstance. That does not mean you give a flying fuck, or that you wish to make them feel good. It only means you understand. With that understanding, you can use it to manipulate people. If one had no empathy, one would be unable to understand what methods might be effective for say, torturing or blackmailing people. Machiavelli was a master of empathy, so was Kim Il Sung, appealing to people enough to motivate them to fight his war, and Morris Kallon chopping peoples hands off to intimidate the others into supporting the RUF.

It's not just trite happy happy yay MDMA lame. For someone who tries so hard to come across as a bad ass, you figure you would know a little about methodology of it. (Hint: your constantly hostile, condescending posts do you no favors at trying to sway people to agree with your shit)
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Empathy is an emotion, not a strategic method. What you're talking about is simply an awareness and manipulation of psychology on an intellectual level. You don't need to actually be empathetic to appeal to people's mental weaknesses. Empathy prevents you (or at least hinders you to some degree) from fucking someone over because you relate on a gut level how shitty it would be to have the same done to you. The sociopath can often be the friendliest guy you'll ever meet, that doesn't mean he actually gives a shit if he's your friend.

Empathy is like an instinct, and if someone doesn't experience it it's not really something you can persuade a person into. But wtf do I know, I'm just gassing over here.
 
empathy [em-puh-thee]  
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em·pa·thy   [em-puh-thee] Show IPA
noun
1.
the intellectual identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another.
2.
the imaginative ascribing to an object, as a natural object or work of art, feelings or attitudes present in oneself: By means of empathy, a great painting becomes a mirror of the self.
Origin:
1900–05; < Greek empátheia affection, equivalent to em- em-2 + path- (base of páschein to suffer) + -eia -ia; present meaning translates German Einfühlung

Can be confused:  empathy, sympathy (see synonym note at sympathy).

sym·pa·thy   [sim-puh-thee] Show IPA noun, plural -thies, adjective
noun
1.
harmony of or agreement in feeling, as between persons or on the part of one person with respect to another.
2.
the harmony of feeling naturally existing between persons of like tastes or opinion or of congenial dispositions.
3.
the fact or power of sharing the feelings of another, especially in sorrow or trouble; fellow feeling, compassion, or commiseration.
 
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