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What is love to you?

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DaveTripper

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What exactly does love mean to you? In this particular thread, I'm talking about love for another human/being/animal. Love for yourself is another topic but that's not what I want to talk about here.
 
deep empathy and like above, desire for them to happy. I think love, there begins to be a sense of merging psychologically and physically with other people when you love them are in love with them. You create a sort of "us" that is different than both "I"'s but is dependent on each person to be a participant for it to exist. Love is very much a thing that is created and exists in the universe in a non-physical form; extremely strong and extremely pure.
 
Its as dimension said, deep empathy and desire for them to be happy. Actually caring about someone, wanting them to be happy, wanting them to do well. Not for the benefits you might reap, just for them to be happy. Its an actual wanting to be with that person for their company, not for how cool they are or for what drugs they will bring to your house. More of a need at times then a want. It is 200% real and a definate feeling, maybe it doesn't smack you in the head and one day you know but over time maybe not always as prominenant as other times, it is there. I am talking about love towards another human being in the form of a partner, there is love that is not as intense for friends and animals. It is a need for this person on all spectrums, a need for them to be happy and satisfied, a need for them to feel the same way about you so you know that they wont just pack up and leave one day. Its a very powerful thing I guess, it sounds stupid and romantic and fairytaleish but trust me, this stuff is real. My fiancee is the reason I live and I know that I love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her.

There are many forms of love, I love drugs as well but thats a compeltely different thing. Plus no were near as strong.
 
it is difficult to put into words. but some things i am sure of. love lacks attachment or craving on any sort even for companionship(which is temporal)
its unconditional and unmarred by excitement or anger.

definitely unlimerent.
the opposite of what's described in this wiki article:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence

i think many people misuse the word love. rather; I enjoy certain people, i enjoy drugs, i appreciate what you did, etc, would be a more semantically sound use of the term.
 
miliefisathand said:
it is difficult to put into words. but some things i am sure of. love lacks attachment or craving on any sort even for companionship(which is temporal)
its unconditional and unmarred by excitement or anger.

definitely unlimerent.
the opposite of what's described in this wiki article:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence

i think many people misuse the word love. rather; I enjoy certain people, i enjoy drugs, i appreciate what you did, etc, would be a more semantically sound use of the term.
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This. It is something you give to others without ever expecting or needing anything in return. What I see love as a lot today is mutual loneliness or more of a need to be loved than actual loving.

Edit: I should also add that coincidentally "Aqua Diva - What Is Love? (Antillas & Dankann Remix)" came on shuffle right before I came across this thread.
 
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Love does not have to lack craving for companionship, it could involve excittment and anger. Human nature craves all these things and love is definatley a back to basics human feeling which I think, involves both parties giving and recieving (Reminds me of that fucking annoying friends episode with joey saying those words over and over again haha). I think that when people describe love as you described it, it is obsession or something similar or maybe thats just what you get out of love. I definatley need it to be returned otherwise I think, I might lose the person that I love if you get me.

Anyway I am talking about loving a partner in societys conventional terms which I believe is one of the only things mainstream has right. Sure you can tell with a lot of people its mutual loneliness and if it works for them, great but with some people, you can tell that theres love or whatever. I think that everyones talking about love as a more universal term while I am maybe describing something better suited to the sex and relationships thread. I just think that love does not need to be returned but, its a lot more satisfying if it is.

Love can come and go, being stronger one day and not as strong the next. Actions by you or whatever your 'loving' can change it. It is not set in stone and isn't just 'Oh I love you/this, it is now unconditonal', everythings bloody conditional. People love heroin but they get addicted, people love a girl/boy and they cheat, people love food and they get fat, everything has conditons and said things conditions mixed with your conditions will react differently at different times in your day/life. Nothing is unconditional.
 
Am I the only one who thought "baby dont hurt me" after reading the thread title?
 
Davetripper, would you mind if this was moved to P&S? While psych users do indeed talk about love a lot, this question is not directly related to psychedelics, and thus inappropriate here. If you could think of some way to tweak the topic to be appropriate, say so and we shall keep it here, otherwise it will have to be moved.

As for the question, it's not one I can answer. :\
 
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