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MyFinalRest said:
Eharmony is supposed to be some great e-dating site, but I checked it out, and it's the stupidest attempt at match-making I've ever seen. If Dr. Clark developed that personality questionaire, he's a fucking idiot!
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I signed up there right after a bad breakup. TBH, I would love a 3rd chance with this guy I got together with right after the breakup, but I was not ready and jumped the gun. I say 3rd chance, because we dated in 2008, broke up, then we got back together right after my breakup, and he wanted to try and I had too much baggage. Ugh. Fucked it up.

Anyway, my dumbass self decided I was gonna try eharmony. Meh. It's weird there. There is this weird, acceptable way to find people, and if you break the rules like try to talk to someone before asking more questions (or something like that..forget..it was over a year ago), people get pissed. lol
 
^so you don't hate me so much anymore? That's good, makes me :D. I never disliked you or anything - sorry 'bout getting on your nerves so bad at times.

Thanks for telling me about eharmony. I actually went through with it and was surprised to get a lot of matches. I think those "icebreaker" questions are pretty retarded and I'm surprised that people would get mad for wanting to skip them. It's expensive too! I also think that both people have to suscribe to communicate on there too. I also can't do long-distance dating right now because I'm barely enough money to keep gas in the car to drive around town, let alone drive a few hours away to go on dates with someone. I don't like the strict matching system based on "personality" and interests too. I don't really have to date a woman who's just like me, even though some shared interests are good. But really, willingness to open yourself to your lover's different interests is even better.
 
It cost me $200 to sign up, and it wasn't worth it at all. I did have a nice date with someone, but there was no spark. It wasn't his fault or anything. I just don't like spending hours with someone who is sizing me up and/or there is the pressure of what to do since it's "a date." I kinda have the same feelings on a blind date that I have during a job interview.

I would much rather chat with someone online and then have it turn into a RL meetup.
 
Wow, $200? You can't cancel your subscription and get a refund or anything like that? Even though my main problem is that I live in a bumfuck place where there are very few girls to ask out, eharmony sounds worse! I hate that "sizing people up" stuff. Dating should be enjoyable, not like a job interview. I pretty much have done most of my sizing up before I ask someone out, and all I want to do is just enjoy myself!

Even after all these years, I still have trouble taking socialization serious on the internet though. There is just something essential for me about seeing a person in real life, not in photos, before I can decide if I even want to date them. I'm not just talking about looks either - there is just somethings you can't really read about people from being online with them. Oh well, if it's $200 and communication is restricted to silly question games, I think I'll pass. I'm more of the type to just give someone my email or get an MSN again and get down to it. I wonder if they police your communications to make sure you don't slip in an email and blow the site off?
 
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Yeah, wasn't a fan of eharmony. I paid and I guess I could have cancelled. I stopped my subscription so I didn't pay again. It was really structured, and I think that's what I didn't like.

I don't like dating sites altogether, because people expect shit from you, and I'd like to be chill without the expectations. You don't really find that unless you're friends with someone first.
 
this always happens

i don't have any close female friends at the moment, so i decided to message a few acquaintances on facebook and via text message in the last week or two. now they're all interacting with me on facebook, and i think they're all so jealous of each other that i'm not gonna end up dating any of them... they're all flaking, and the timing of the flaking makes it seem like each other's presence in my life is causing it. if that makes sense.

bleh.

love shouldn't be one person chasing after another, it should be two people running towards each other

i don't want to pick one of these girls and run with it because i have been in abusive relationships in the past. i want to get to know them all and leave my options open in order to protect myself. the wounds from my past relationships are still pretty fresh.
 
^^ LOL I get so much spam. Gmail was good at catching most of it, but some still get through. I have thousands filtered, but it's mostly my own fault for not creating an online pharmacy email . lol
 
I hate dating advice people very much. Apparently what's in fashion is to call guys who treat their girlfriends in a civilized manner and don't try to have BDSM sex with them a derogatory term like "sensitive guy." You don't want this sniveling, uncofident wimp of a man, you want a guy that will "put you in your place" all day long by tying you up to the bed and forcing his penis into areas of your body that weren't made to recieve one. Real men take out their aggression on their girlfriends these days, and they also never let their girl choose the toppings on a pizza.

BL is all about that shit. I get bitched so damn much about playing hardball and being "insensitive" when I make counter-arguments to people on the CEP forum while BL'ers think that men forcing themselves on women in chauvinistic manners is completely okay. Whatever you do in life, be very "sensitive" to some stranger's ego on the net, but being even slightly yielding to a partner's feelings and wants in a relationship is completely wrong!
 
I blame the dehumaniztion on the capitalism of corporate America.

Hell, all of Western civilization.

Things could be worse I suppose; One could be renting a crawl space in the Phillipines. Or, living in a derelict FEMA trailer on the Gulf Coast.
 
You may have a point. Having a fulfilling love relationship based on mutual respect may interfere with one's work life - especially if such a relationship ends up turning into a family with kids. We are taught by corporate controlled media to abandon any silly notions of long-term love in exchange for degrading and chauvinistic sexual practices that will cause us to seek our fulfillment from our careers instead of love and family. It's very Spartan.

You should holla at me on CEP some time.
 
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