Alright. Need help with this girl. hahaha. Thanks :)

[wolfriie]

Okay, well im sure i seem pathetic and desperate. well honestly- i really need the help with this girl, shes unlike any other. Im so used to interacting with the same kind of girls. Stoner hoes. There is one girl, Cristina- who i really, really want to be with- for an extended period of time. I am quite sucessful with all the other girls, but whenever im around or with her- i just dont want to treat her the same. I want to treat her well, and get respect for who i am. Theres the problem. She has a bad impression of me. So I have asked her out twice, once 6ish months ago, and again last week. Both times she has said she does not want a relationship, becuase they complicate things. I agreed that relationships do complicate things, but we dont have to have the traditional relationship. We could have a more than friends, but less than dating relation. She repeated herself. I know she is not a lesbian, so that is ruled out. She is deffinitly single. So how would you go about getting her to open up to the idea of having a relationship? I am not in the friend zone, but we are close friends. I hang out with her alot, and i deffinitly get more of her attention than other guys get from her. All of our peers think that we would be a great couple, and we have known each other for a while. I am sure she is not playing hard to get- she just likes not having to be in a relationship

So what would you do to open her mind to a relationship
How would you get her to really want me
Any other general advice

 

[hiphophippy]

Okay, well im sure i seem pathetic and desperate. well honestly- i really need the help with this girl, shes unlike any other. Im so used to interacting with the same kind of girls. Stoner hoes. There is one girl, Cristina- who i really, really want to be with- for an extended period of time. I am quite sucessful with all the other girls, but whenever im around or with her- i just dont want to treat her the same. I want to treat her well, and get respect for who i am. Theres the problem. She has a bad impression of me. So I have asked her out twice, once 6ish months ago, and again last week. Both times she has said she does not want a relationship, becuase they complicate things. I agreed that relationships do complicate things, but we dont have to have the traditional relationship. We could have a more than friends, but less than dating relation. She repeated herself. I know she is not a lesbian, so that is ruled out. She is deffinitly single. So how would you go about getting her to open up to the idea of having a relationship? I am not in the friend zone, but we are close friends. I hang out with her alot, and i deffinitly get more of her attention than other guys get from her. All of our peers think that we would be a great couple, and we have known each other for a while. I am sure she is not playing hard to get- she just likes not having to be in a relationship

So what would you do to open her mind to a relationship
How would you get her to really want me
Any other general advice

talk to her a few more days and the disappear. You never want too appear as a trappable resource. you need to be a time sensitive commodity. How old are you?

 

[wolfriie]

talk to her a few more days and the disappear. You never want too appear as a trappable resource. you need to be a time sensitive commodity. How old are you?

Its hallarious for me to say, but im 14 -.- I tried just disapearing for a couple days, she took it as me being mad at her over somthing. i told her it was nothing, and i kinda played with her about it. I never let her take me as somthing she can conrol. i just make sure that no matter what: 1.)I dont be a dick to her, and 2.) Dont let her think she has control on me 3.) I dont get stuck in the friend zone

 

[hiphophippy]

Its hallarious for me to say, but im 14 -.- I tried just disapearing for a couple days, she took it as me being mad at her over somthing. i told her it was nothing, and i kinda played with her about it. I never let her take me as somthing she can conrol. i just make sure that no matter what: 1.)I dont be a dick to her, and 2.) Dont let her think she has control on me 3.) I dont get stuck in the friend zone

Great advice from a grown up. "Fuck young bitchezzzzz" while you still can.
aside from that, suck it up buttercup, most female identifying people do not figure out whats good for them until their late 20's to mid 30's it won't last.
3. you don't just initiate a relationship, you go on dates with people, multiple dates with people and then if you've been steadily "dating" for a while month-3 months+ ish you start a realtionship
4. you should be treating all women well if you're seeking a traditional male - female binary relationship, thats how they work.
5. stop doing drugs. Regardless of whether or not you want to believe it, it is medical fact that taking any sort of drug, prescription to narcotic, is bad for the development of your brain; destructive, actually.
6. Study, your priorities will shift when when you become a senior and life tornado kicks you in the face. And if you fucked yourself in the ass in school you've fucked yourself in the ass for the rest of your life.
7. Don't ask for advice from drug users.
also in relation to my first statement.

 

[badandwicked]

She may not be physically attracted to you.

 

[llama112]

Sometimes, someone just doesn't like you back. You have to learn how to move on.

 

[GenericMind]

Jesus I was in Boy Scouts when I was 14.

 

[bright_eyes*]

Girls want what they can't have and will say no to your sweet offers until the offer is no longer there, then she will go crazy wondering what she did "wrong"