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Greenlighter
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Long time lurker of this site... absolutely love the information here. I am in a tough situation with my family right now that I would like to share. My siblings and I feel stuck and are at an impasse.
Our mother is an alcoholic, has been for the last 27 years. A woman who has never once attempted to quit smoking in the 40 years she has smoked. The precipitating factor that spun her disease out of control was the loss of my brother to cancer when he was 5. We grew up in a nice middle-class home and my father did his absolute best to see she received top notch care. She has been to some of the best rehabs in the country and has relapsed every time. Multiple psychiatrist were utilized. The last psychiatrist my mother visited before my parents divorced expressed to my father that he believed her alcoholism was too severe to keep the family together and close to her.
She moved across the country and all of my siblings and I barely saw her but once a year. She continued binge drinking while away until she ran out of all her money, was hospitalized from an alcohol induced coma (from intoxication, aspiration, and mild hypothermia). To all of our surprise, she recovered with most of her motor skills but a clearly degenerated mental status. After this incident, my siblings and I took her back, invested in a home for her to stay, and tried to reintroduce her into the world slowly. It only took 4 months of (apparent) sober living before she slipped back into blatantly drinking again. At this point, her mental status is terrible but still finds ways to lie to drink. When a liquor store wasn't available, she would drink large amounts of mouthwash. We believe this to attribute greatly to her deteriorating state. She has been drinking 3-4liters of wine every day for months now and causing serious stress both financially and monetarily on our families.
Our current location in the US is not one that is abundant in public health and we don't know what to do. She will not sign papers for guardianship for us to get her into any facilities. We would like to take her health information to a judge to gain guardianship but this will cost us thousands we do not have right now.
Even if we do gain this right from a judge, the only facilities in our area will only accept individuals who are sober. How do we get her sober in an environment that can offer palliative care when she has delirium tremens?
Can one with guardianship force an individual into a rehab facility?
ANY and I mean ANY advice would be much appreciated... she is not a danger to anyone but herself. She is a sweet woman afflicted with a problem I wouldn't wish upon anyone.
Our mother is an alcoholic, has been for the last 27 years. A woman who has never once attempted to quit smoking in the 40 years she has smoked. The precipitating factor that spun her disease out of control was the loss of my brother to cancer when he was 5. We grew up in a nice middle-class home and my father did his absolute best to see she received top notch care. She has been to some of the best rehabs in the country and has relapsed every time. Multiple psychiatrist were utilized. The last psychiatrist my mother visited before my parents divorced expressed to my father that he believed her alcoholism was too severe to keep the family together and close to her.
She moved across the country and all of my siblings and I barely saw her but once a year. She continued binge drinking while away until she ran out of all her money, was hospitalized from an alcohol induced coma (from intoxication, aspiration, and mild hypothermia). To all of our surprise, she recovered with most of her motor skills but a clearly degenerated mental status. After this incident, my siblings and I took her back, invested in a home for her to stay, and tried to reintroduce her into the world slowly. It only took 4 months of (apparent) sober living before she slipped back into blatantly drinking again. At this point, her mental status is terrible but still finds ways to lie to drink. When a liquor store wasn't available, she would drink large amounts of mouthwash. We believe this to attribute greatly to her deteriorating state. She has been drinking 3-4liters of wine every day for months now and causing serious stress both financially and monetarily on our families.
Our current location in the US is not one that is abundant in public health and we don't know what to do. She will not sign papers for guardianship for us to get her into any facilities. We would like to take her health information to a judge to gain guardianship but this will cost us thousands we do not have right now.
Even if we do gain this right from a judge, the only facilities in our area will only accept individuals who are sober. How do we get her sober in an environment that can offer palliative care when she has delirium tremens?
Can one with guardianship force an individual into a rehab facility?
ANY and I mean ANY advice would be much appreciated... she is not a danger to anyone but herself. She is a sweet woman afflicted with a problem I wouldn't wish upon anyone.
