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BL/TDS Self-Harm Support: Thread 4

So swollen and tender just looks like alot of inflamation atm hard to tell could be a little off center, cant make a fist, If its not any better in a few days il go get a x-ray last time i cracked one was similar symptoms and there was not alot the doc said he could do apart from advising not to hit walls and lucky it wasnt a person owise i mighta been up on GBH or assult charge. Thats the last thing i need.
 
There isn't really much that can be done other than meds for swelling like naproxen or ibuprofen, and anything else you may have for pain relief. I usually did what is known as a boxers injury/break and at the time I was already on pain meds, but it meant using my crutches was nearly impossible as I couldn't put weight through my hand. I was meant to get a cast on it but that would have meant not being able to grip the crutch handle so I just left it and dealt with it.

Keep it elevated as much as you can. D you have access to any tiger balm? That can sometimes help
 
I find sometimes a good, stiff, tight glove can help the pain from punching things. (In my case people, but lets not get into that) It provides some cushion, and some resistance against movement of the injured site, while still allowing you to grip things if needed.

Not as good as a cast, but better then bare hands.
 
badfish I am so sorry to hear this. Is this the same friend you've posted in here about before?? Man she needs help :( I know that you this though, it's a really tricky situation for you to be in. What is the latest with her getting professional help?
 
Yes. She doesn't want it. She told me she was fine when she answered the phone too. I don't get it. I don't want to tell anybody, that seems very counter-productive, because her mom thought she stopped cutting, and she would just go behind everyone else's back including mine if I did tell with it.
 
S.M.F.G. and d2p--I was thinking both an angry stick and an old stuffed piece of furniture that you could wale away on. I know a pillow wouldn't do it but something solid that you could funnel all that rage and frustration into without hurting your hands? <3 Just trying to think because I hate the thought of your poor hands the next day.:(

Bad, that must make you feel so helpless.
 
badfish: I don't know what to suggest on getting her help for the root problem, but I do suggest you try to see that she takes proper care of the wounds, cleaning/AB ointment/dressing/etc to minimize the risk of infection and the severity of the scars.
 
badfish45 said:
Yes. She doesn't want it. She told me she was fine when she answered the phone too. I don't get it. I don't want to tell anybody, that seems very counter-productive, because her mom thought she stopped cutting, and she would just go behind everyone else's back including mine if I did tell with it.
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Oh man, that is such a difficult situation to be in :(
Do you know the reasons why she cuts? Is it depression, anger issues, abuse issues, a combination of things? Would she be willing to talk to you about it?
 
Herb - you have no idea
rangrz - I try. I tell her to make sure she cleans the blade if anything, but I don't think she does. I guess she'll do what I do despite her nagging, which she fucking needs me to nag her,
n3o - depression, and a bad self image. She basically hates herself. there was some abuse issues in her past. And she does but a lot of it she hides from me.

She is also going on this diet

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I swear I will KILL the mother fucker that came up with this diet. Fuck them to hell.
 
Woah, that is messed up!!!

No one can survive on that, the body will just go into starvation mode and hold onto as much fat as it can.

I hate these idiots that take advantage ofinsecure men and women. Sickens me!
 
It sickens me too, I couldn't believe how excited she was when she was reading it to me. Shows how easy it is to take advantage of people's insecurities.
 
-flowers: It sounds like it requires stitches to close properly. That being said, make some small, narrow pieces of medical tape. Pull the wound closed (but leave a bit open for drainage and air to prevent infection by anaerobic bacteria e.g. C.perfringens and S. aureus) Put some polysporin on for good measure. Cover with a sterile dressing. Change the dressing and apply for more polysporin twice a day. It should then close up within a few days. Make the closing tape and the dressing separate, so you can change the dressing without removing the closing tape, and hence avoid reopening it.

-badfish: That diet is very dangerous. Aside from the lack of calories, when/if she finally eats again, she may have refeeding syndrome, which can be fatal. Whoever wrote that diet and put it out there for people to follow; deserves to meet the business end of twelve men with rifles at dawn...

-both of you(and to badfishes friend):All my love to you. I really and truly wish I could suffer your pains for you and rid you of them, but the state of being is unfair and disallows that... If there is a God (which I doubt) (s)he is not kind or perfect; (s)he a wicked cruel monster who allowed this suffering to exist.
 
It saddens me everyday. I hope this diet doesnt...kill her. Self imagery has become so messed up, and there's so much pressure on society to look good, and it causes shit like this. All I can say is fuck people.
 
herbavore said:
S.M.F.G. and d2p--I was thinking both an angry stick and an old stuffed piece of furniture that you could wale away on. I know a pillow wouldn't do it but something solid that you could funnel all that rage and frustration into without hurting your hands? <3 Just trying to think because I hate the thought of your poor hands the next day.:(

Bad, that must make you feel so helpless.
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Herby thats my method normaly, i just lost my stick a month ago fucking thing broke in half:!
Been reading thru the page and the subject of self immage has come up... Both me and my (sorta) girlfriend both have issues with the way we look, its to much distress to both of us.. I look old in the face and am out of shape and scarred...shes just gotta get rid of her thighs and get onto some yoga shel b sweet as. Where i look @ me and just see myself degenerationg. I saw my therapist today it was of little help as i couldnt take anything in. I need a good shave and a slap on the face atm, I've been thru some fucked shit latley and woke this day to like this v pattern i got scratched into ma arm, no biggy i jus dont remember it happen and i wake up with real wierd shit 3 knifes around where i sleep. I'd never hurt anyone in the world its just me im scared about:(
 
I have stomach problems due to my condition, and eating can be verypainful. At it's worst, it prevented me from eating for 5 weeks. Then when I started eating again I was petrified I'd put a lotof weight o. So I really do feel forpeople with eating disorders. The only thing preventing me from having one is the fact I love food haha.

I still worry about my weight a lot though, as I can't train anymore. Stupid bloody magazines and models making us think skinny is beautiful, I was once a size 8 uk size when I was 17 and looked so bloody unwell, I am built too big to be that small. I miss training :(
 
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The images in the magazines are not all that hot imo... i'd much rather be with a girl who was healthy than one who looks like they live at the bottom of the social ladder in Zimbabwe
 
Most guys feel the same as you, but women feel the pressure from other women if that makes sense?
 
I don't personally like looking like that, I only got too skinny once because I was training, working too much and taking too many drugs lol. When I realised I started eating tonnes more to combat the extra training etc. I prefer having a woman's body, not. 16 year old boys figure.
 
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