andyclark1225
Bluelighter
Hi folks,
The legendary friend zone topic is back. I just wanted to clear a few things up, so I'm reading through this forum and I'm seeing all different threads about just friends, friend zones and friends to relationship. So is the friends zone just a myth? Or is it true once you've stepped over the line there's no turning back?
I believe it's a bit of both, if there is any chemistry or physical attraction, even the slightest you can by pass the friendship zone. But ask yourself why you've got yourself there in the first place? Here's a list of what you've been doing wrong:
- Talking too much
- Always there when the other person needs you
- Being too attentive
- Being too nice
- Not being able to say no!
- Maybe a bit soppy and emotional?
These are just some of the things you've been doing which makes you seem EASY! and borderline DESPERATE! This also makes you not very interesting because you make out you don't have a life of your own.
So here's the solution...
Distance yourself a bit, make yourself not so readily available, be a bit cold but not a complete asshole. By doing these things the other person will notice and start to MISS you, the attention, your presence etc. Ever hear of people talking about their other half being too CLINGY? Well that's what you've been doing in a non relationship way. Also note that the people who have clingy partners hate it and it makes them less attracted to them, at the same time because they are become less attracted to them they focus less attention to them making the clingy partner want them more.
This is basic psychology.
So think of it like that, you're the clingy one so STOP IT! Or you won't ever get the guy/girl of your dreams!
How to make yourself more interesting/make them miss you and think about you:
- Do something cool! For example guys go play some sport with other guys, learn to ride a motorbike. Girls, go out partying, clubbing and take loads of pictures (guys do this too) then stick them all on facebook!
- When taking pictures make sure you look good, this includes clothes and wear something new they other person hasn't ever seen you wear
- Seem a bit more independent
- Get in pictures with people of the opposite sex
- Don't text back straight away, leave it about 40 minutes (this is only for the first text)
- Don't seem too bothered
- Chillout
Once the other person start to notice all these things they will start to miss you, it's a natural reaction it happens to everyone. Maybe get a bit jealous but this is what you want. Now all you have to do is wait...until you notice them change towards you too. BUT don't just jump straight back in to the deep end like you did before or they will notice straight away and you'll be back at square 1. You're a changed person so don't give in, for example if they say "hey do you wanna meet today at 10?". Instead of saying "yes please" say "sorry I can only do wednesday before 1" or something like that. Do you see what I'm getting at, now you're setting the rules.
So to conclude,
You have to be a bit more of a (excuse my language girls I know you hate this word) cunt.
I hope this helps.
If anyone has anything else to add feel free, I don't think I've covered everything.
Andy
The legendary friend zone topic is back. I just wanted to clear a few things up, so I'm reading through this forum and I'm seeing all different threads about just friends, friend zones and friends to relationship. So is the friends zone just a myth? Or is it true once you've stepped over the line there's no turning back?
I believe it's a bit of both, if there is any chemistry or physical attraction, even the slightest you can by pass the friendship zone. But ask yourself why you've got yourself there in the first place? Here's a list of what you've been doing wrong:
- Talking too much
- Always there when the other person needs you
- Being too attentive
- Being too nice
- Not being able to say no!
- Maybe a bit soppy and emotional?
These are just some of the things you've been doing which makes you seem EASY! and borderline DESPERATE! This also makes you not very interesting because you make out you don't have a life of your own.
So here's the solution...
Distance yourself a bit, make yourself not so readily available, be a bit cold but not a complete asshole. By doing these things the other person will notice and start to MISS you, the attention, your presence etc. Ever hear of people talking about their other half being too CLINGY? Well that's what you've been doing in a non relationship way. Also note that the people who have clingy partners hate it and it makes them less attracted to them, at the same time because they are become less attracted to them they focus less attention to them making the clingy partner want them more.
This is basic psychology.
So think of it like that, you're the clingy one so STOP IT! Or you won't ever get the guy/girl of your dreams!
How to make yourself more interesting/make them miss you and think about you:
- Do something cool! For example guys go play some sport with other guys, learn to ride a motorbike. Girls, go out partying, clubbing and take loads of pictures (guys do this too) then stick them all on facebook!
- When taking pictures make sure you look good, this includes clothes and wear something new they other person hasn't ever seen you wear
- Seem a bit more independent
- Get in pictures with people of the opposite sex
- Don't text back straight away, leave it about 40 minutes (this is only for the first text)
- Don't seem too bothered
- Chillout
Once the other person start to notice all these things they will start to miss you, it's a natural reaction it happens to everyone. Maybe get a bit jealous but this is what you want. Now all you have to do is wait...until you notice them change towards you too. BUT don't just jump straight back in to the deep end like you did before or they will notice straight away and you'll be back at square 1. You're a changed person so don't give in, for example if they say "hey do you wanna meet today at 10?". Instead of saying "yes please" say "sorry I can only do wednesday before 1" or something like that. Do you see what I'm getting at, now you're setting the rules.
So to conclude,
You have to be a bit more of a (excuse my language girls I know you hate this word) cunt.
I hope this helps.
If anyone has anything else to add feel free, I don't think I've covered everything.
Andy
