bighooter
Bluelighter
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- Mar 31, 2008
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Basically i've been a 'druggie' for nearly 10 years now (im 24) and have only ever had 3 relationships (the longest lasted 1month) and that was with an alcoholic girl with lots of mental problems and hence probably why that relationship lasted the longest. As I too have mental problems and hence why im asking a question like this.
The other 2 girls said I was like a robot and was over within a matter of a week or 2 at most. In the sense that im just too distant/ not your normal type of guy.
I suffer with depression and anxiety, maybe psychosis however I havent been diagnosed with it. From being on so many anti depressants and probably drugs in general have basically turned me into a cold hearted robot with no emotions or so i'm told.
Now the thing with this new girl is that I like her and I have been told she really likes me and wants to give it a damn good go.
But Ive been going out with her a couple days and we're always with a mutual mate so I havent really had time to get to know her properly I still feel like we dont really know each other.
We cuddle up n kiss n stuff so I sorta show affection by caressing her n sh1t I guess, but when it comes to actually talking to her I dont relaly know what to say and where to go from here.
What sort of plan is there to follow? Or will we get closer after we've had sex?
As at the moment I just feel like we're not bonding as much as one would expect.
However shes got really bad self esteem, is very shy, has been in a abusive relationship so shes quite timid and quite hard to talk to.
I just need a bit of help please guys as I dont want to mess things up as I see this girl as the one thing good ive got going in my life and dont want to screw things up.
I mean for example what do you do in normal relationships? (at the start) i.e playfight, kiss, cuddle, talk about what she likes, what shes doin etc....
I just need some guidance, thanks my dear friends. PEACE.
The other 2 girls said I was like a robot and was over within a matter of a week or 2 at most. In the sense that im just too distant/ not your normal type of guy.
I suffer with depression and anxiety, maybe psychosis however I havent been diagnosed with it. From being on so many anti depressants and probably drugs in general have basically turned me into a cold hearted robot with no emotions or so i'm told.
Now the thing with this new girl is that I like her and I have been told she really likes me and wants to give it a damn good go.
But Ive been going out with her a couple days and we're always with a mutual mate so I havent really had time to get to know her properly I still feel like we dont really know each other.
We cuddle up n kiss n stuff so I sorta show affection by caressing her n sh1t I guess, but when it comes to actually talking to her I dont relaly know what to say and where to go from here.
What sort of plan is there to follow? Or will we get closer after we've had sex?
As at the moment I just feel like we're not bonding as much as one would expect.
However shes got really bad self esteem, is very shy, has been in a abusive relationship so shes quite timid and quite hard to talk to.
I just need a bit of help please guys as I dont want to mess things up as I see this girl as the one thing good ive got going in my life and dont want to screw things up.
I mean for example what do you do in normal relationships? (at the start) i.e playfight, kiss, cuddle, talk about what she likes, what shes doin etc....
I just need some guidance, thanks my dear friends. PEACE.