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Abstaining from masturbation/porn/sex for mental/physical benefits???

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bad1114

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Hello all. A little about myself first. I am 21 years old male and have been masturbating 1-6 times a day for 7 years (to pornography).

I have been in two sexual relationships with women, and have no sexual STD's (tested).


Now, I am very lazy and have been for a long time now, very apathetic/lazy/not wanting to talk to girls . Maybe it is because I am masturbating so much? Each time i masturbate I watch pornographic videos, and was just wondering : Do you think that if i abstain from masturbating, i will be more mentally alert/more wanting to have sexual encounters with women?

Any personal advice from people who have abstained from ejaculating at ALL ( YES SEX included! ) for periodic amounts of time>? And im not talking 1 or 2 days here people... And I seriously havn't skipped jacking off probably 5 days in the past 7 years of my life.

Any resolve in doing this? Or should i just give up and start wanking? Today is day 2 for me of not doing it. I feel good. But frustrated about 2 times really wanted to fap.
 
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In a couple more days the smallest of inconveniences will have you wanting to tear someone's head off. Orgasm is good for the mind and body, whether you do it alone or with one or more people. Try working out more if you want to increase your sex drive. I get off on average 2-4 times a day. Its pretty much necessary to maintain my sanity. I don't have the time for dating so there really isn't any other recourse. But if you're felling relaxed you might be more comfortable with women since you won't have that drive to get sex first and foremost. The caveat here though is that if you're having enough orgasms that you feel satisfied then there isn't the need to go out chasing women. Of course sex is always better than masturbation (well most often). Maybe you just aren't meeting women that do it for you physically.
 
That's what too much porn and masturbation can do to you... it makes you not have any desire for a real woman if you masturbate that much its like fullfilling all your sexuall needs for that day. Masturbate less.
 
We can keep this in SLR for now I think. :)

I have never had problems with masturbating myself so I've never been in your situation. If masturbation is interfering with your life, then it is time to make a change. That's exactly what you're doing. I think it's great that you're trying this "no masturbation" thing. Eventually, you'll be able to masturbate again, but keeping it at once a day would be healthier. :) Keep us updated though!
 
My best friend gave up masturbating for two months.
A few things happened
- He thought he was gonna come in his pants when he saw hot women
- He had wet dreams like a teenager
- He was horny all the time
- When he did come again, he came long and hard.
 
about 4 years ago i stopped masturbation for a month
i wanted to see if i would have more energy for training or in general
and it didnt change anything
i love fapping so i went back to my daily routine :)

edit : i know you said you were lazy but if you want some tangible benefit go with better diet + exercising and why not ad some meditation on top of that
 
Well I'm deployed to Afghanistan and I won't see my wife until I take midtour in January. My number one goal with this distance between us is to further increase my sexual performance. In this process, I'm doing my best NOT to orgasm at all. My main exercises consist of different forms of Kegel manipulation and edging/milking. I've been out here since August and I've only had one orgasm and one night emission.

Cons:
I am more irritable

Night emissions suck

I have to practice extreme self control


Pros:
I edge before I go to the gym, I seem to be able to have a more explosive workout with more energy

Whilst edging, I can use a kegel to completely stop an orgasm

The orgasm I did have was MOND BLOWING. It shot about 2 1/2 ft

I'm going to split my wife in half when I finally get a hold of her
 
Try quitting masturbation until you go from a complete horny-mess to having a controlled libido.

Eventually you'll learn to focus your sexual energy toward other things in life.

I think that masturbating is unnatural. I don't think people should give themselves a sexual reward for doing nothing.
 
llama112 said:
Eventually, you'll be able to masturbate again, but keeping it at once a day would be healthier. :) Keep us updated though!
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Arg i relapsed on porn yesterday at around noon. I know this may sound stupid but... I was losing in a video game and an INCREDIBLE urge to MB came upon me . And I didn't fight the urge, its like a ghost took over my body and went to that porno website. Im not kidding no troll here.... plz dont make fun lol . but srsly, its almost comparable to addiction against cigs/opiates IME.
 
bad1114 said:
Arg i relapsed on porn yesterday at around noon. I know this may sound stupid but... I was losing in a video game and an INCREDIBLE urge to MB came upon me . And I didn't fight the urge, its like a ghost took over my body and went to that porno website. Im not kidding no troll here.... plz dont make fun lol . but srsly, its almost comparable to addiction against cigs/opiates IME.
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Okay once! Maybe allow yourself it once a day! Heck even twice a day. Not seven times a day though. Maybe say "every night, I can masturbate" or "once in the morning and once in the evening" and keep it to that.
 
bad1114 said:
Arg i relapsed on porn yesterday at around noon. I know this may sound stupid but... I was losing in a video game and an INCREDIBLE urge to MB came upon me . And I didn't fight the urge, its like a ghost took over my body and went to that porno website. Im not kidding no troll here.... plz dont make fun lol . but srsly, its almost comparable to addiction against cigs/opiates IME.
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Try slowly. Maybe not cold turkey but like 2 times a day.. and so on until you can stop a bit.
 
Renz Envy said:
I think that masturbating is unnatural. I don't think people should give themselves a sexual reward for doing nothing.
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What about if someone is into prostitution? They're really not doing anything either... just getting a sexual reward with no effort. You could argue that earning the money required doing some activity, but so did money for computer, internet, etc.
 
I'd still argue that the first connection between work -> money -> sex is completely different than the second one of work -> money -> internet + computer -> "sex". In the former you're still interacting with a human being in the end of the day, you still have to talk to the hooker, in most places in the US, she needs to feel safe before accepting you as a client. In the latter you're staring at a screen and watching OTHER people fuck. There isn't really a study I can cite on this, but my mindstate and emotions after actual sex are infinitely more positive than my mindstate and emotions after masturbation. Maybe its the oxytocin? While I might not be disappointed in either case, I feel much more accomplished, satisfied, manly, and serene as fuck after fucking a girl.

I also think the reward feedback system is completely different for masturbation and sex with another person. Masturbation with or without porn may have different effects as well. Try masturbating to pictures of girls or something less fictional than porn before quitting cold turkey? Seeing other men fuck may have a negative effect on you. I know it has for me.

Don't quit masturbation, but if something in your head is telling you that masturbation is hindering your success, at least try stopping. The way I see it, if you believe that masturbation is putting you on a lower level than everyone else mentally and physically, that belief alone warrants you stopping.
 
Okay . So I MB'd Again today early in the AM (to porno movie). Cold turkey is very very hard. I am still continuing my attempts in abstaining 100% ! I have noticed that for some reason I am more able to sleep on my back than I have ever been

(Also been taking heroin, relapsed after about a month and a half clean =(, been using 4 days straight, and yes, I somehow managed to MB AND ejactulate whilst on opioid!) -but this may be why I can seep on my back....
 
wizekrak said:
In a couple more days the smallest of inconveniences will have you wanting to tear someone's head off. Orgasm is good for the mind and body, whether you do it alone or with one or more people. . But if you're felling relaxed you might be more comfortable with women since you won't have that drive to get sex first and foremost. The caveat here though is that if you're having enough orgasms that you feel satisfied then there isn't the need to go out chasing women. Of course sex is always better than masturbation (well most often). Maybe you just aren't meeting women that do it for you physically.
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Exactly

plus this will happened

"- He thought he was gonna come in his pants when he saw hot women
- He had wet dreams like a teenager
- He was horny all the time
- When he did come again, he came long and hard."

plus u'll seem more desparte when your with a girl.

Your better of just cutting down, try every other day, or just once a day untill u find someone.
 
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