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Why do people find cheating sex "hot"

'cause it's put on the devil inside u......a passion....and passion means suffering.....u rage wildly on sex,drugs and alcohol......and burning like a candle.......that's why it's hot........but as about to me......being in that place in my visions.....i mean Hell......it's not hot at all.......it's absolute freeze.......and so many dead people......all dead,that had been alive in the past from the dawn of mankind
 
The rush of being caught probably and zero morals.
I highly doubt my guy would cheat but I told him if he ever wanted someone else to leave me first. I've had enough trauma in my life.
People should respect their partner or stay single
 
The rush of being caught probably and zero morals.
I highly doubt my guy would cheat but I told him if he ever wanted someone else to leave me first. I've had enough trauma in my life.
People should respect their partner or stay single
That s really one of the the big divides between North american and South american or more generally Latin cultures. Down here is kinda assumed that a man will cheat on her partner ( a student of mine is hitting on me even if a) I m her professor b) she knows I m married c) she knos my wife!) Another story : once I was drinking with one of my wife ´s cousins in a rural village, the local ladies had never seen a gringo and were interested, and my "cousin in law" could not understand why I was not cheating...on her cousin.
In Italy of course there s lot of honor and shit but really, more than cheating itself people are afraid of being considered "cornuti". As long as no one knows, it never happened.

I find inspiration in this teaching of the Holy Catholic and Apostolic Church : Si non caste, tamen caute ( "if you can t be chaste, at least be careful)

As for me, if one day my wife will have an affair because she does not love me anymore she MUST tell me asap, so will I , but if God forbid she ll have a meaningless drunk night stand, I hope she will have at least the decency to cover her tracks.....but seriously is horrendous being a cornuto, but if it s a one time mistake, I ll give (o try to get) a pass. Obviously one has to avoid certain situations, for instance I dont drink and when I go out without my wife, her main concern is me overdosing, as the drugs I like are not that sex friendly
 
I find inspiration in this teaching of the Holy Catholic and Apostolic Church : Si non caste, tamen caute ( "if you can t be chaste, at least be careful)
You really can count on the Vatican to allow you to cut corners. A few donations, confessions, Hail Marys and decent enough donations to Preachy Preach and you're pretty much sorted for the hereafter.

Interesting post overall though. I think that Catholic countries and cultures perhaps have more of this kind of thing going on because the church would make room for it, as in the example from your quote. But also cheating has just always been around and always will be. It is incredibly difficult to be chaste and look at what happens with priests, vicars, pastors, ministers, imams, rabbis and just about any figures of authority within various religions and denominations, not even to mention the more cult-like ones such as Jehovah's Witnesses and Mormonism. So much abuse because of this theological order to be "chaste" - the Catholic church gets most of the brunt of this but it happens in every religion. Maybe Catholicism is singled out from Protestant denominations more due to the stricter edicts on chastity and such and so the scandal around altar boys and such is sometimes explained that way, but there are scandals in the Anglican church and others that I mentioned. I even saw a thing about an Amish woman who was shunned by her community and she talked about sexual abuse being rife and nothing being done. Same with Jehovah's Witnesses who investigate "internally" using "church elders" all so it can be covered up.

I suppose the point I'm making is that religions preach it and the truly pious/devoted are meant to truly follow their god and whatever the holy books they live by tell them to do but they have needs and this seems to lead to abuse due to repression and access to vulnerable people within a closed system in which no one will come to your aid and blind eyes will be turned. But the secular world, we have to base these matters on morality alone and pretty much everyone agrees that cheating is shitty, harmful and simply wrong, yet it happens all the time. A lot of the time I don't think it is planned (in my experiences pretty much every time was spontaneous minus one clear example which happened when we were basically splitting up anyway). In some cases there are people who have been married for a while and one or the other will get into an affair, maybe with someone from work and they will sneak around, leading to suspicion and potential family breakdowns, which I believe is what happened with my parents though they have never told me, my mother actually refusing to discuss it (and this led to years of hell for my mother and myself). An ex of mine's sister worked at a hotel as a maid (dunno what the PC term is, apologies) and she told us all sorts about people coming in, parking separately and then going into rooms together. Often married, grown up people with careers and all that meeting up for the dirty and squirty whilst husband or wife is at home.

In the end, it happens in all different cultures and is explained, interpreted and dealt with in all kinds of different ways. For example, in Afghanistan, a woman would receive the death penalty for adultery. Same in Saudi Arabia and other countries with strict, fundamentalist Islamic systems of governance (Salafist Sunni Islam in the case of Saudi Arabia, Pashtun nationalism and Deobandi Islamism which originated in India in Afghanistan - highly different theological currents but which share commonality through interpretations of Sharia). Cheating is probably more common than ever. People get lonely, atomised, feel alienated even with partners, want instant gratification and get it through apps and tech like Tinder or dating/hook-up sites. Polyamorous relationships seem to have become highly popular in recent years although I am sure that a lot of this is just people jumping on fads if I'm truly honest and is a breeding ground for manipulative people to get their kicks. The latter I know to be a fact, given that someone I know who happens to be a lawyer was in a "poly" relationship and was being filmed against her will when getting it on. As a lawyer, she was able to sort this out but the embarrassment and shame, for lack of a better word, was horrible. And then she went into another "poly" arrangement.

Maybe this will die out and people will become more conservative again with regards to being faithful and loyal to partners. Perhaps it comes in waves as many other things in society - one minute people are at it like rabbits, the next everyone is getting married. But the cheating will never end, either due to spontaneity, the kink/excitement, boredom, lack of fulfillment or perhaps even sex addiction. It would be good to have an anonymous poll attached to this question: 'Have you cheated? If so, for what reason?'.
 
You really can count on the Vatican to allow you to cut corners. A few donations, confessions, Hail Marys and decent enough donations to Preachy Preach and you're pretty much sorted for the hereafter.
well, if so I m fucked, I went back to the Church when I was 26, I m 41 and I ve donated to the Church in these 15 years less than I ve spent....today on blow I guess. Compare and contrast with the neo pentecostal Mega Churches in the US and in South America and the Teology of Prosperity, they re basically the demonstration that Marx´s texts on religion are not entirely wrong ( a Lutheran student of mine, as conservative as they came,has written a paper for a class of mine using Marx to criticize this kind of megachurches)
The Catholic idea is not to cut corners, is to take humans as they are even when you show them how better they can be . We try, we fall , its not a linear process.
I m glad that u recognize the fact that the Catholic Church has been singled out ( and , the irony!, by the BBC, where the likes of Jimmy Saville and his mates did any kind of shit with total impunity). Don t get me wrong, even one pedophile is too much, but the pedo priests were less than 1% of the clergy while it seemed that abusing kids was in the Catechism. Other Churches and religions have similar or way worse issues, and what s more important, the categories with more pedos are...parents and teachers.

Dunno whether we cheat more or less today, but I think that today cheating is incentivated . Sites for cheaters, the pervasive ideas that one has to do all kinds of experiences, resorts for swingers, sex tourism ...capitalism has realized that pace Marx, the nuclear family was an issue , singles spend way more, in dating apps, in restaurants, in sex workers pretending to care about them, in stuff they don t need, etc et tc.

I can see that many young people are attracted to the hardcore forms of religion (in Catholicism, for instance Opus Dei or the Arautos do Evangelho) because they are sick and tired of this and similar BS. The society of unhinged capitalism is a desert of isolated, neurotic compulsive costumers, with no sense of common good and of solidariety, that s Catholic Social Doctrine for you :) Unfortunately is written in Vaticanese, but I think you ll dig it.
 
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well, if so I m fucked, I went back to the Church when I was 26, I m 41 and I ve donated to the Church in these 15 years less than I ve spent....today on blow I guess. Compare and contrast with the neo pentecostal Mega Churches in the US and in South America and the Teology of Prosperity, they re basically the demonstration that Marx´s texts on religion are not entirely wrong ( a Lutheran student of mine, as conservative as they came,has written a paper for a class of mine using Marx to criticize this kind of megachurches)
The Catholic idea is not to cut corners, is to take humans as they are even when you show them how better they can be . We try, we fall , its not a linear process.
I m glad that u recognize the fact that the Catholic Church has been singled out ( and , the irony!, by the BBC, where the likes of Jimmy Saville and his mates did any kind of shit with total impunity). Don t get me wrong, even one pedophile is too much, but the pedo priests were less than 1% of the clergy while it seemed that abusing kids was in the Catechism. Other Churches and religions have similar or way worse issues, and what s more important, the categories with more pedos are...parents and teachers.

Dunno whether we cheat more or less today, but I think that today cheating is incentivated . Sites for cheaters, the pervasive ideas that one has to do all kids of experiences, resorts for swingers, sex tourism ...capitalism has realized that pace Marx, the nuclear family was an issue , singles spend way more, in dating apps, in restaurants, in sex workers pretending to care about them, in stuff they don t need, etc et tc.

I can see that many young people are attracted to the hardcore forms of religion (in Catholicism, for instance Opus Dei or the Arautos do Evangelho) because they are sick and tired of this and similar BS. The society of unhinged capitalism is a desert of isolated, neurotic compulsive costumers, with no sense of common good and of solidariety, that s Catholic Social Doctrine for you :) Unfortunately is written in Vaticanese, but I think you ll dig it.
That is really interesting as I was watching a thing on those megachurches which make the Vatican look austere. The perfect, totally blasphemous mixture of Christianity and capitalism - the USA's two favourite "C words". But I was thinking about this the other day, the megachurch types and the more southern, baptist-y god fearing types of christianity really do reflect more on Marx's comments about religion being the "opium of the masses" than in other cases. I don't think that religion as a whole has the same grip on the post-industrial west as it did when Marx and Engels were writing about the role of religion in the emerging industrial west that they were witnessing. We have new "opiums": mass media, social media, drugs way more advanced than the opium of Marx's time, the kind of promiscuous sex that has been talked about in this thread, all about dealing with the alienation and atomisation caused by capitalism. Also, developments in religion have seen it play a role not foreseen by Marx and Engels, namely "Liberation Theology" which is, as far as I know, exclusively rooted in Catholicism and is prominent in Latin American struggles (the ELN (National Liberation Army) in Colombia is informed by Liberation Theology as well as Marxism, Marxism-Leninism, Che Guevara's Foco theory and other revolutionary praxis. So from a Marxist point of view, religion and its interpretation and application is rooted in its role within the class system. Poor peasants in Latin American countries will likely have been raised Catholic in the majority of cases. When they decide to take up arms, they retain their religion and some religious figures will indeed support their cause. Even though I was not raised with religion, almost all of the people I've been close to were from Catholic families. One very close friend has said that the Catholic church is the "church of the poor" which is obviously true in terms of its role in poorer parts of the world, despite the irony of the church's enormous wealth. But it makes sense.

The megachurches however: praying for prosperity! Absurd and uniquely American (USA) in this day and age. I recently watched a video which showed some dudes preaching and because they have 1000+ people in the building, the sermons are highly generic and vague, just like horoscopes (which reminds me of the kinda Marxist text by Adorno: 'Thesis Against Occultism' - worth a read). Vague sentiments that apply to everyone: "you're struggling, but God is behind you in this struggle!" - they seem to present Satan as God's literal enemy. Basically, all of the hardship in your life is due to the devil fucking your life up, but god is there to push you through it, a bit like Job I suppose. And the central message is essentially this: you will get by if you keep believing, which means that you keep coming here, which means that you throw us some alms even though you're struggling because we are God's messengers and we have your back because God has your back. 'Also, I'd like to remind the congregation that Pastor Bob will be signing copies of his new book: "How God Made Me a Man: Pray the Gay Away!" by the third hotdog stand by the bookshop and merch stores near the far entrance . Go in peace.'. But there is always this vague sense that even though you're struggling, this is God's plan, and you will get through it and you will prosper, especially if you buy our stuff and give us money.

But yes, religion exists within its socioeconomic context and so there is the grotesque form of christianity that exists in the megachurches, which would have JC thinking twice about the Second Coming. Kenneth Copeland actually looks like he could be the antichrist, no? Whereas Liberation Theology serves the poor and aids them in their struggle for equality, justice, socialism and liberation from imperialism in countries affected by imperialism. The USA is hyper-capitalist and has been the dominant imperialist power for a long time, even though that seems to be changing, and much religion there reflects this but by no means all.

I certainly can see younger people looking into Opus Dei and other, more fundamentalist doctrines (forgive me if my terminology is wrong) and this applies in Islam too. Many younger people are disgusted by our society. I am. I went into Marxism, Leninism etc. as I see this as the scientific root out but I don't feel the need to challenge people's religion for the sake of it and I wouldn't call myself an atheist - the existence of god can be neither proven nor disproven - and it doesn't matter. I've met and known many wonderful, decent, kind people of many different religions and met all kinds of shitbags without religion (remember the old Dawkins-obsessed internet atheists? They seem to have been swallowed up by the incel thing now). People seek answers and religion has always attempted to offer them. Like any institution - particularly powerful ones - religions can become corrupted. The Catholic church was singled out unfairly and the Anglicans have a serious problem too, as does their head which happens to be the British "royal family" which has long been riddled with pedos. Read about Lord Mountbatten, blown to pieces by the IRA (some say on the orders of the British state/MI5). Look at Prince Andrew. Jimmy Savile as you say, who was a Catholic but was right in with the Anglican-dominated ruling class because he was procuring for them and also blackmailing them. Look at the photos with him and King Sausage Fingers FFS, best pals! Knighthoods, government advisor positions, all sorts and everyone within those circles knew what he was up to. It can happen in any institution - most British institutions have been corrupted by it, from care homes to the mass media. Freemasonry, old boys networks, police corruption, MI5/6 honey traps - all part of the game. Look at what MI5 were doing in Ulster with the Kincora Boys home FFS!

Anyway I feel like I've derailed but Marx's (and Engels') analyses of religion were much more specific to the times in which they were writing. Marxism teaches us that things are in a state of constant flux and motion, constantly evolving, changing, clashing etc. and religion evolves with this as well as all aspects of capitalism, from the economic base (feudalism, capitalism, imperialism, post-industrial capitalism) to the superstructure which helps to mould the minds of the masses (mass media, entertainment, religion, sports, politics, cinema, the arts, music and so much more): in Marx's time, religion would have played a much more prominent role within the superstructure of capitalism than it does today in the post-industrial west, but those megachurches are truly a uniquely American, hyper-capitalist, sleazy scam that really do reflect just how everything has become commodified within capitalism, to the point that pastors are flying around in private jets like the Lehman brothers or some shit. At least with Catholicism you can speak directly to your priest rather than sharing a room with thousands of people trying to find answers as to how their life is in such a terrible mess.

Sorry for ranting and going off topic, falling asleep. Really interesting stuff though and I have enjoyed your comments.
 
cheating is disgusting betrayal by all means.cowardly pathetic behaviour of an unmatured man.....it can happens to anyone....'cause women seduced and human nature is full of weakness...but if a man wanted to be honest first with himself and second to his wife....better take precautions and don't pull the devil's tail...and that's have no connection with this,that i am east-orthodox.....being betrayed so many times by very close "friends" don't wanna be shit like them.....at least in that aspect
 
better take precautions and don't pull the devil's tail...and that's have no connection with this,that i am east-orthodox.....
As I always say just stay off fertile ground. Things breed on fertile ground. So stay out of those situations. Or they become petri dishes.

Family was Eastern Orthodox, although religion plays no role in what I find ethical or not. Married 20 years, never cheated. Saw fertile ground ahead a few times but steered away from it.

It is a dance. But I also think taking the marriage oath is a serious thing. It ties in with trust and respect. Once broken then a lot areas get broken.

Nature gave us an imagination. Use it, leave the physical world as it is and don't cause waves.
 
I generally agree with the above sentiments thought I am ashamed to say that I haven't lived by them myself. What was uncler to me was how do you square this line of thinking if a woman cheats? I do think that men cheat more, at least historically this has been the case but women cheat as well. Does the same apply? I only ask as the first post (referencing Eastern Orthodoxy) only mentioned me. Are women cowards if they cheat? Is it just expected that they don't/won't? Or is it the same principles with the sexes references reversed?
 
My ex cheated. Later found out she did it with every bf she had... She even told me she thought it was hot. Can someone that finds cheating on your significant other "hot" explain this to me? Thanks.

because it's taboo. Anything considered taboo or wrong in terms of sex can be hot for a lot of people.
 
because it is lmao just the thrill of it especially if its someone close to them like my first baby mama id fuck her lil sister in the same apt (she lived with us) when my BM was passed out lmao then go lay up with BM right after lmfao or when a dude talking shit so u go fuck his bitch and record it and send him a clip of u busting on her mf face lol she dont even know i was gonna send it to her man's lol now her relationship over so she gotta stick around on my terms loool
 
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