Why do people find cheating sex "hot"

[Rick_Johnson]

My ex cheated. Later found out she did it with every bf she had... She even told me she thought it was hot. Can someone that finds cheating on your significant other "hot" explain this to me? Thanks.

 

[F.U.B.A.R.]

Some people are just slags...

 

[telepathetic]

i met an escourt friend recently who told me she gets off on the fact married men are cheating on their wives with her...

anyway, i can sort of understand it, ive cheated, ive homewrecked, there was an element that was hot. i guess its the tabboo thing..

*that* makes sense, why 70% of porn videos on the internet are tagged with #stepdad im disgusted by.

human sexuality in the modern age is disgusting (it was probably worse in antiquity)

why do half the stoners stop smoking once they move to a legal state? :-/

 

[Mr. Krinkle]

women love scandalism and sneakin around = fun

 

[F.U.B.A.R.]

women love scandalism and sneakin around = fun

Not just women mate, many blokes are like dogs with two dicks...

 

[axe battler]

Not just women mate, many blokes are like dogs with two dicks...

Yeah definitely it's blokes as much at least. The bragging and offloading you're privy to as a random bloke at work is astronomical.

It's a kink for sure but I'd imagine it takes a lot of mental gymnastics to ignore your conscience. I've cheated in relationships but never got off on the concept of being unfaithful.

 

[F.U.B.A.R.]

I've only ever been unfaithful with my fist.

That's why...

 

[axe battler]

Hahahah that's a very honest tune.

And yeah if you're ever tempted to cheat on someone you really love I also suggest a fantasy wank to clear your head.

You have a much better perspective after a quick tug...

 

[burn out]

forbidden fruit effect

 

[Rick_Johnson]

Yeah definitely it's blokes as much at least. The bragging and offloading you're privy to as a random bloke at work is astronomical.

It's a kink for sure but I'd imagine it takes a lot of mental gymnastics to ignore your conscience. I've cheated in relationships but never got off on the concept of being unfaithful.

And that's just what she would do man she would just block her thoughts out and not think about it like it never happened. I don't understand how someone can live with themselves and still be happy with the main and not fake happiness. Actually be happy. Because in their head its nothing that they we unfaithful. Fucked a Rick right up man.

 

[Pickledlemons]

Sorry no offense but this does not sound like a good person... somebody who would not only potentially traumatize her partner in exchange for a rush but then do it again and again even after seeing the consequences on the other party. I get everybody makes mistakes, but when you do something like this multiple times without talking to your patner first, well in my book, you are a shit person.

 

[Rick_Johnson]

Hahahah that's a very honest tune.

And yeah if you're ever tempted to cheat on someone you really love I also suggest a fantasy wank to clear your head.

You have a much better perspective after a quick tug...

LoL one of my bosses rules to life is before you make any big decision rub one out and see if you still want it. Your buying a house? Sneak off to the bathroom in the bank pull that hustler out that you JUST bought for this occasion and get to thinking if the real estate market is going to come to a climax and explode.

 

[Rick_Johnson]

Sorry no offense but this does not sound like a good person, somebody who would not only potentially traumatize her partner just for a rush or w/e but then doing it again and again even after seeing how hurtful it is to the other party. I get everybody makes mistakes, but when you do something like this multiple times without talking to your patner first, well in my book, you are a shit person.

Pure evil my brother. Pure evil.

 

[CFC]

Could be a fetish. Could be the thrill of knowing she's doing something she shouldn't. Could be... any number of things I guess.

I find lots of people hot and tbh would like to have sex with all of them at some point in time. Wouldn't do it while in a committed monogamous relationship though, unless mutually discussed and approved beforehand.

 

[Pickledlemons]

*that* makes sense, why 70% of porn videos on the internet are tagged with #stepdad im disgusted by.

You know I've thought about why they do this, as I'm pretty sure most people get the same reaction as me and you, which is "WTF?" But then I thought, its probably an easy to way to increase the audience demographic of the video. I mean its pretty easy to add a couple words to the description or have the actors say one or two lines. You get all the extra people from the fetish and probably maintain most of the people who would have watched it anyway. Somebody might say wtf thats wrong but still watch the video anyway, I mean obviously its just an act.

 

[Fiori di Bella]

I was seeking divorce and separated from my 2nd husband. Our marriage was brief; 6 years total (including the time were living separately before our divorce was final). I left him due to the nearly 2 dozen affairs he had, and because he was using anabolic steroids, resulting in roid rage.

I got a phone call from a woman saying that I should back off, her boyfriend was taken. I informed her that her boyfriend was my husband.

I had begun seeing someone while we were separated and our divorce was not yet final. At that point, I didn’t consider it cheating as we were just waiting for the divorce to be final.

He managed to get the guy’s number and called him to say I had a husband and I was cheating.

Apparently, he could see other women before we separated but I wasn’t supposed to see any guys after our separation.

He moved on, got a new girlfriend, but before long, he was cheating on her, too.

I think the thrill of the hunt is what turned him into a serial cheater. Once he caught that prey, the thrill was gone. I doubt he’ll ever change, he found cheating to be thrilling and saw no reason to change.

 

[Rick_Johnson]

he found cheating to be thrilling and saw no reason to change.

It's fucking sick. I don't understand it. I hope that no one has to put all of their love into someone with every inch of soul that they have just to be tossed out like leftover spaghetti.

 

[Cheshire_Kat]

The bottom line is that humans in general find anything that is forbidden more desirable. Sex is just one aspect but is possibly the worst example of this effect. Sometime I wonder if humanity will ever grow out of this.

 

[Cautiously Testing]

Thrill-seeking IMO. Same as people who shoplift, speed excessively, pursue new sex partners, try any and every new drug/form of high randomly. For some (many?) it's the challenge. Having ADD when I'm not on meds I crave, almost need the feeling of of that rush. Even now, being single, the women I most want are the ones who seem to be the biggest challenge.

Doesn't always pan out, but when it does it seems to be the best sex. So the thrill, the challenge, the feeling of winning? Take your pick.

That out the person is just someone who enjoys hurting others. In which case we're likely talking sociopathy or something similar.

 

[Fiori di Bella]

My ex husband was a narcissist and a sexual addict. He also behaved as though he was one of the wealthiest men who lived in my large metropolis.

He would take my daughter and I to the most expensive restaurants and ask to see the chef. He always ordered appetizers and after dinner charcuterie, and during each course of the meal he’d ask to see the sommelier for wine pairing recommendations. He drank Grand Marnier or Courvoisier after the charcuterie platter. The bill for the meal was usually $150 but the bar bill was usually not less than $250. I’m definitely more diner girl than fancy restaurant girl.

We ate at a really expensive restaurant at Disney World’s Grand Floridian for just under $800. It was called the Victoria and Albert, I think.

But my narcissistic husband didn’t only act rich at restaurants. On my birthday, I was having dinner with a friend and he was supposed to be working 300 miles away. Instead he called me and told me to look outside. There he was in a silver Mercedes convertible. He never said Happy Birthday, and actually said, “Don’t I look great in the new car”. It wasn’t a question and was spoken as a statement.

He also wore $500 Italian shoes and expensive suits. He dyed his hair and his chest hair. He would even ask if his butt looked to big.

He had a ritual song he sang every morning when he got up and looked at the mirror; “Oh I’m a handsome man, handsome is as handsome does as handsome can”. I think it was supposed to be a way of reassuring himself that he still had it going on. His cosmetics were also very expensive.

He was diagnosed with narcissism (and probably a psychopath, according to our couples counselor who gave me that little gem of news when I showed up alone). He missed the majority of the couples therapy.