What does a blowjob feel like?

[Ninae]

Men who feel so offended and rejected by any criticism of male sexuality just need to learn to be a bit more understanding. As women actually have enough to be critical of. Do you know how many women have been, or attempted being, raped for instance? The numbers are atrociously high, something like 25%.

I haven't actually been raped, though I see it as something likely to happen at some point in my life, but have experienced attempted rape. It was only avoided because a police car happened to drive past the bus shelter (it was almost midnight and few outside) he was holding me down in, so he ran away.

Being taken for a ride, or coldly getting fucked and dumped by someone who acts like he has feelings for you and is looking for a relationship, also isn't that much fun. Although this also hasn't happened to me, but only because I'm so careful, it's there for the taking all the time. And it's not something you need to experience to know it would make you feel like shit. Just the possibility of these things occuring is enough to scare women away and ruins a lot for men too (lack of trust, but when can you trust?).

So women has a lot of trauma and negative emotions connected to male sexuality and sexuality as a whole, that is just how it is, even if there's nothing wrong with you and you've never done anything. We're not to know that, and what we've seen/experienced from other men will always influence our feelings for you and sex in general. Even if you haven't lived through it, hearing about horrible sexual crimes and living it out mentally can be enough to turn you off the whole thing.

Every woman is a potential victim, and will be very close to being sexually victimised somehow at many points in her life, so it's no wonder if we have a victim-mentality about it. It's not an ideal world, and neither is the sexual interaction between the sexes. I'm just putting words to what most women feel but prefer not to think about.

 

[421]

I haven't actually been raped, though I see it as something likely to happen at some point in my life, but have experienced attempted rape. It was only avoided because a police car happened to drive past the bus shelter (it was almost midnight and few outside) he was holding me down in, so he ran away.

Hey me too! It was only avoided because of my willingness to beat the faggot to a bloody pulp. Didn't have to though, the sudden change of dynamics made him curl up like a puppy. Rape isn't a sex thing, it's about power.

Women like to power trip too. But because of the physical differences the sexual abuse kind is generally limited to boys. Of course this is a taboo subject as it breaks many archetypes regarding both sexes.

Being taken for a ride, or coldly getting fucked and dumped by someone who acts like he has feelings for you and is looking for a relationship, also isn't that much fun. Although this also hasn't happened to me, but only because I'm so careful, it's there for the taking all the time. And it's not something you need to experience to know it would make you feel like shit. Just the possibility of these things occuring is enough to scare women away and ruins a lot for men too (lack of trust, but when can you trust?).

Well this is something men are victims of just as much if not more. Maybe it's not always about sex. Not wanting to be alone, wanting comfort, wanting to feel wanted, or again - power. Or a negative response to past traumatic experiences. But it's a blessing and a curse really. A curse because of the lack of trust thing you mentioned. A blessing because hey, it prevents women problems (I got 99 problems but a bitch ain't one).

 

[Ninae]

Hey me too! It was only avoided because of my willingness to beat the faggot to a bloody pulp. Didn't have to though, the sudden change of dynamics made him curl up like a puppy. Rape isn't a sex thing, it's about power.

Sorry to hear that and well done. Not that I approve of violence but sounds like he deserved it. The nerve of some, and yes, not even men are safe from these kind of predators.

I sometimes think only men who have experienced sexual abuse at the hands of another man, like someone who's been in prison and lived with that fear every day, can truly understand how women feel.

Some men just have a rose-tinted view on male sexuality.

I've been brought close already, as the mouth is subtle and doesn't arouse me as much as full skin on skin contact or pressure against the hip region.

I like what you say about the warmth of the feeling of hips against hips.

I love having sex embraced and the feeling of a man's thrusts and his weight on your body is like nothing else in the world. It just makes you feel that you're with a MAN, and can arouse really powerful feelings, love to play the feminine part versus his masculine. I also love sexual domination, but only when it comes naturally, and submitting to a strong male will.

Typically "male" things, like masculine body-language, can also turn me on very strongly.

 

[-=SS=-]

Being taken for a ride, or coldly getting fucked and dumped by someone who acts like he has feelings for you and is looking for a relationship, also isn't that much fun. Although this also hasn't happened to me, but only because I'm so careful, it's there for the taking all the time. And it's not something you need to experience to know it would make you feel like shit. Just the possibility of these things occuring is enough to scare women away and ruins a lot for men too (lack of trust, but when can you trust?).

As 421 said it works both ways. Women are just as good at deceit as men are, perhaps even better (or it's easier) as they can seduce a man much more easily than a man can seduce a woman. I don't like the generalization that all men want is sex or are preoccupied by sexuality. It is a very strong component of what we are, nature pushing us to do what it wants, but we have emotional depth and heart too. We want skin to skin contact, affection, embrace.. these are human qualities and not specific to just one genders sexuality.

I want sex (or rather nature wants me to have sex).. but what I want more is companionship, and affection. Having someone there to touch and be touched by, and just feeling their warmth and smell.

So women has a lot of trauma and negative emotions connected to male sexuality and sexuality as a whole, that is just how it is, even if there's nothing wrong with you and you've never done anything. We're not to know that, and what we've seen/experienced from other men will always influence our feelings for you and sex in general. Even if you haven't lived through it, hearing about horrible sexual crimes and living it out mentally can be enough to turn you off the whole thing.

Again it works the other way too. Culture has skewed what a woman is and what a man is too. All I will say is at the age of 27 I found it very confusing growing up in London.. everyone grew up so fast and I was the only one who didn't.. something really disturbed me intuitively about our modern sexual culture.

 

[Ninae]

You're taking it too personally. When I say things like that I'm aware that I'm making broad generalisations, and know there are men who are the complete opposite of that, and even more feminine in their approach to these things than most women are. It doesn't really apply on an individual level, so one person's feelings about it doesn't really have anything to do with it.

It's just that, despite of that, and you might only have to do with men who are more compatible with women all your life, all the same, there are those tendencies in male nature and men like that exist, even other men aren't safe from them, like witnessed above. So women still project their feelings of fear and disgust, etc. that the actions these men create upon men as a whole, and potentially upon every man they meet until they get to know him. A lot also depends on what they've been through before. I always try to start with a clean slate and hope for the best, but these things are always at the back of your mind.

It's just the way it is, it's not much fun for women either, but it's almost impossible not to be affected by any of it. Or even go through life unscathed by all the bad stuff that is actually going on between the sexes. Men fear different things (somewhat) so I can't really speak for them. But I also hate this viscious cycle of fear and loathing between the sexes as much as anyone else. I wish it was something we had never had to deal with. But it is what it is, all we can do is try to see each other's point of view and give each other a break, not hold it against one person what the entirity of their gender has done, etc.

Pretending that these problems don't exist, that there are no conflicts between the sexes, and that we're completely compatible doesn't solve anything, either, in my opinion. It's just a way of avoiding reality, which you eventually have to deal with, and then it all comes crashing down on you. I find it's better to try to accept it and come to terms with it to some degree, and take the point of view, that, yes, it can hurt and things could be better, but it's nothing that's within your power to change, and you just have to try to make the best that you can of it.

At least that's the best I can come up with, or the attitude that has worked the best for me, both in my inner life and in relations to others. Not obsessing about all the negative stuff and making too much of it, but not suppressing it and pretending everything is ideal, until you get a nasty wake-up call. Then again, I haven't really been through actual abuse, it has been more the fear of it and observing what has happened to others, so I'm not actually that scarred in this area, either.

 

[mcopus82]

There is almost a high when you can get to that stage when your bodies feel literally intertwined and one. It's a euphoria unlike any drug known to man. I think oral sex is a primer to begin the release of this natural drug. As is any form of foreplay. It sets the tone for what is true extacy and a very deep connection between two loving individuals. Porn is just like the dirty cut to hell street version of this drug like experience.

 

[Teabag Johnny]

^^^ Well said mcopus82

 

[Ninae]

You seem to experience it very similarly to me. I don't want sex out of lust, it's mostly for the emotional high and connection. Some might see it differently, and that's fine by me, I'm just describing how I feel about it.

You can always find a compatible partner, in my opinion, so it's not the end of the world if everyone doesn't feel the same way as you. And especially not something to argue about. People can't really help how they feel about these things and you can't tell anyone how to feel either.

 

[mcopus82]

Absolutely ninae. I agree completely. It's not like there is a definitive way or rules hell even lust can lead to that emotional high. Sex is an amazing and wonderful experience. It's a way to have an emotional relationship with someone in a very intimate and deeper meaning than just fucking. The whole act should be pleasant for both involved. Or you will never really connect on that plain of euphoria

 

[nuttynutskin]

What's a blowjob feel like? Isn't that a bit like asking what it's like to do acid? Maybe not quite, but if you're not even going to get one why do you care? Not saying that to be an ass, just wondering.

 

[Teabag Johnny]

Hey, what-up Nutsack! He's just curious :D He's gotten a lot of detailed responses! Turned out to be a good topic~

 

[421]

What's a blowjob feel like? Isn't that a bit like asking what it's like to do acid? Maybe not quite, but if you're not even going to get one why do you care? Not saying that to be an ass, just wondering.

Not even just a bit. It's very much like asking what some drug makes you feel like. And even though there are plenty of drugs I don't plan to take I'm curious about their effects too.

 

[nuttynutskin]

Is there a reason you don't want a blowjob? I can't imagine why someone wouldn't.

 

[421]

Is there a reason you don't want a blowjob? I can't imagine why someone wouldn't.

Because I don't have a wife... :D

Seriously. Sex is a powerful thing. It brings people closer on an emotional level, creates feelings etc... Gives the other person some kind of power over you. I don't want that with any old slut. It would need to be someone I really trust. Dare I say love.

 

[nuttynutskin]

Oh well hell, there's nothing wrong with that. Just the way you worded your first post made me think you never wanted one at all. I guess my only advice would be don't buy the car without at least test driving it first tho. Sex isn't everything but you don't want to be madly in love with someone only to find out you're totally sexually incompatible. Just my opinion.

 

[pofacedhoe]

Ooh, can you expound a little on your technique? I consider myself somewhat an expert but would love to learn some new skills...sounds like you know what you are doing

works much better on uncut men. you need to roll the banjo string with your tongue (you will need to be infront of them facing them for this style to work) while sucking the rest of the head without using teeth kind of like your wanking them with your lips and tongue. doesn't work on everyone but when it does (prob 40%) its such a power trip.

also if your gonna deep throat much easier in 69

http://i.imgur.com/TxwKIqh.jpg

how do you do the nsfw?

 

[Beachcat]

Hmmm.. Will try and see...my husband is cut, but I will try it on him and see if it makes a difference

 

[Ninae]

Because I don't have a wife... :D

Seriously. Sex is a powerful thing. It brings people closer on an emotional level, creates feelings etc... Gives the other person some kind of power over you. I don't want that with any old slut. It would need to be someone I really trust. Dare I say love.

I would also find it hard to really enjoy (giving) if I didn't feel I had his heart and he was committed to me in some way.

I know many can enjoy casual sex without any strings attached, and that's fine for them, but it doesn't seem to be that uncomplicated for me.

So no matter how much you might enjoy it, actually getting yourself in that situation can still be quite hard.

 

[Seattle_Stranger]

Because I don't have a wife... :D

Seriously. Sex is a powerful thing. It brings people closer on an emotional level, creates feelings etc... Gives the other person some kind of power over you. I don't want that with any old slut. It would need to be someone I really trust. Dare I say love.

I was lead to believe you were a woman? Are you a dude? An a dude tried to rape you? Fuck! How good/bad was the beating?

I'm not violent, but man, giving an unadulterated, uncut, uninterrupted old fashioned ass kicking to someone fully deserving of one is one of the rare joys in life.

 

[421]

You should be more concerning of what kind of leaders you follow, I'm a man.

There was no beating. I just thrust myself off his clinch, took a fighting stance and looked him straight in the eyes. He was petrified, curled up into some kind of ball and started apologizing. Damn near felt sorry for his bitch ass and just walked away. After the rage and adrenaline or whatever passed I felt kinda crap about it for a short while but overall I would say it was a pretty good experience because of how I managed to handle it.