What does a blowjob feel like?

[421]

LOL. That is bang out of order. Even men can feel that way.

Sounds more like it's you projecting one of your issues on me. If you had read my thread about men you would have seen me talking about all the dominant men in my family and how much I love them and can be very attracted to men like that. Don't be so hasty to brand women with your stereotypes.

Anyway, why so defensive about porn, and what has it got to do with this subject? Do you think most pornstars are genuinly enjoying themselves? Some men can see through that shit so much they can't stand it.

How on earth is calling porn disgusting being defensive of it. Though I don't find it disgusting because the actors aren't enjoying themselves. They are acting. Doing a job. Not getting personal enjoyment. That's why they get paid. And yeah it's a nasty job that you might have to be drugged up to do at all. It's the wankers that get the enjoyment, although just a brief one that is followed by a huge disservice to themselves in the long run. Really much like drugs in many ways.

I do have issues with the fathers of women with daddy issues. I have no problem admitting that.

 

[anniegram]

Being able to give an amazing blow job is a blessing and a curse. I wish I could know what it feels like to have your dick sucked. I once read that the equivalent for females is having your toes sucked. I don't think it's true. I think there's probably nothing worse than a reluctant blow job. Well I'm sure there are worse things but you know what I mean. In turn, being on the receiving end of someone who is truly enjoying what they're doing is fantastic.

 

[Ninae]

It was you who kicked off at my comment about porn. That was all I said to provoke that reaction. And I do find it a bit disgusting seeing someone act like they're really enjoying themselves (by sucking off 5 random pigs at once) when they really hate it. But as a woman I can also emphatise with the female actors more.

If it wasn't even about that I think you're probably overly obsessive about your issues with women and see them everywhere. At least give us half a chance first. I love to be able to respect and look upto men, but only if they treat me right.

Dominant men have their advantages and disadvantages and it doesn't say anything about whether a man is good or not. They can also be difficult to be in relationships with, for different reasons. But this is a complex subject.

You seem really caught up in this male liberation movement and obsessing about the ways men are being victimised by women. Well, women are just as much victimised by men, I think we're pretty even there. Some men have come a bit further along in their thinking, and realised we have to find some way to accept each other and deal with each other's differences, just to be able to live with and make peace with each other. Until you get to that point you won't get any peace of mind.

My "daddy issues" is probably that I've been too spoilt by my dad (still is, he's bought me 3 new mobile phones in a row and always bails me out, even after 10 hospitalisations from overdoses he still hasn't cut me off) and expect the same from men in my life, which just isn't realistic. He still treats me like a child and enables this behaviour to go on.

 

[Seattle_Stranger]

It's best when the woman giving it to you is truly clearly enjoying herself, I really think that is key. Females are instinctively built to nurture not only children but her mate as well, and it may sound silly on paper but it's part of nature for women to do things for her man like fellatio. If she sees and feels that he is really enjoying it and is appreciative of what he's receiving and not shallowly thinking to himself "Yeah..gettin' some head", then she knows she has succeeded and that is immensely satisfying for a woman, potentially even more-so than for the man getting his shaft greased! When she looks up at you with those big, loving eyes, she's looking for that look of satisfaction on your face, so be sure to give it to her, don't just stare at yourself getting sucked off. Tell her you love her as you put your hand on the side of her face and she will barely be able to stop herself from simply climbing on top of you and makin' some babies (or at least practicing).

Let's not even get into talking about swallowing.......my lady whom I've been with for nearly a decade and will marry and have a family with ASAP when money makes more sense, she WANTS to try taking it in her mouth for me, she tells me all the time how she really, really wants to do that for me, but when the moment comes (heh..) she can't bring herself to do it, and that is perfectly OK with me and I make sure she knows it. Howeverrrr, I've had ladies in the past who have loved the taste of my cum, and let me tell you, there's not much better than when she looks around, feels comfortable, unzips you, and swallows your load as she's looking you in the eye, licks those last couple drips off you, zips you back up, and picks up the conversation when it left off, laughing at you as you are now walking funny.. Also makes traffic jams something to look forward to!

Holy shit have I made myself horny now...my lady will benefit from this, thanks OP!

 

[Seattle_Stranger]

My "daddy issues" is probably that I've been too spoilt by my dad (still is, he's bought me 3 new mobile phones in a row and always bails me out, even after 10 hospitalisations from overdoses he still hasn't cut me off) and expect the same from men in my life, which just isn't realistic. He still treats me like a child and enables this behaviour to go on.

Applause for being able to admit this, that shows a great deal of maturity. Unfortunately, this is a staple of many women's lives and they aren't quite as smart/mature as you to understand and overcome why the fuck they're such a basket case when it comes to relationships, constantly get cheated on, get dumped, keep ending up with "shitty guys" which actually turn out to just be guys that can't/won't take their issues, etc..

Having said that, as a dude, I can attest that men definitely are most of the problem when it comes to the whole Mars/Venus thing. Most, but certainly not all of it. I'd say most men are the way they are because of women in their past, whether it be an ex, or their mothers, sisters, whatever....the problem is that most men can't seem to figure out how the hell to GET OVER IT and realize not all women are the same and not all of them are out to getchya....and most importantly, very, very few women are deserving of being treated like objects. The only women who deserve that are the ones that purposely act like objects because they either A- honestly like it, or B- try to profit from it. Then yes, you are an object, you signed on the dotted line, and shall be treated as one by both men and women alike. We've all met these types.

 

[Ninae]

Let's not even get into talking about swallowing.......my lady whom I've been with for nearly a decade and will marry and have a family with ASAP when money makes more sense, she WANTS to try taking it in her mouth for me, she tells me all the time how she really, really wants to do that for me, but when the moment comes (heh..) she can't bring herself to do it

Hm, I don't really feel satisfied unless I swallow. I find that really enjoyable with someone I love. I just don't want it sprayed all over me, that's a bit too much (but if that is some women's thing, that's fine by me).

I find it makes things easier if you make these things clear from the start. Or that you will swallow but not anything else, etc. So they know what your limits are and what they can expect. That can avoid a lot of problems later on. He can take it or leave it kind of thing.

 

[pigpen19688]

Ive found that my woman, when in a loving mode, will swallow. Sometimes shes not in such a mode and will spit it out. I dont undertand why but I have the desire to see a drop or two on her face. I dont know if its a dominance thing or what, maybe I just got excited by watching that type of porn. It is totally hot to see a woman take a bit on the chin though. With other women I used to always offer them a glass or recepticle to spit it out in. Interesting topic and its good to hear a females POV. In the end if you really love someone youll do whatever they want no matter how kinky the request, I pretty much would do anything for mine short of having another mans cock anywhere near my face or ass, I wont cross that line.

 

[421]

My "daddy issues" is probably that I've been too spoilt by my dad (still is, he's bought me 3 new mobile phones in a row and always bails me out, even after 10 hospitalisations from overdoses he still hasn't cut me off) and expect the same from men in my life, which just isn't realistic. He still treats me like a child and enables this behaviour to go on.

That's unfortunate but it's your own responsibility to stop letting him cut off your wings, no matter how difficult he makes it. Otherwise you will stay a child forever.

 

[Teabag Johnny]

Oh & you often see in pornos of women getting jizzed all over the face. I'm sure most normal ladies love getting jizzed in the face

 

[Ninae]

In the end if you really love someone youll do whatever they want no matter how kinky the request

The thing is that something "kinky" usually involves something that asks something (that could be unpleasent) from the woman, rather than the man. Men often don't have any problem with anything that could be done with a woman. They tend to naturally love anything sexually they could do with a woman.

Their only limit could be something like getting with another man, like yourself. Still, they might not see any problem with asking a woman to get with another woman, after all they've grown up watching lesbian sex and many would say this is "completely different" than them doing it with a man.

So "doing something kinky for the one you love" often doesn't ask that much of men in comparison. This is because the woman is mostly the object or the one that things gets done to. A man can live safe in the knowledge he'll probably never be asked to do things like getting fucked in the ass, getting covered in cum, and probably not getting with another guy either, etc. You have it easy. Women just don't tend to crave things you would hate to do (the problem is more not wanting what you crave).

 

[Seattle_Stranger]

The thing is that something "kinky" usually involves something that asks something (that could be unpleasent) from the woman, rather than the man. Men often don't have any problem with anything that could be done with a woman. They tend to naturally love anything sexually they could do with a woman.

Their only limit could be something like getting with another man, like yourself. Still, they might not see any problem with asking a woman to get with another woman, after all they've grown up watching lesbian sex and many would say this is "completely different" than them doing it with a man.

So "doing something kinky for the one you love" often doesn't ask that much of men in comparison. This is because the woman is mostly the object or the one that things gets done to. A man can live safe in the knowledge he'll probably never be asked to do things like getting fucked in the ass, getting covered in cum, and probably not getting with another guy either, etc. You have it easy. Women just don't tend to crave things you would hate to do (the problem is more not wanting what you crave).

My lady has asked to try things on me like prostate stimulation (which I didn't enjoy) and was even the one to suggest we try anal (which neither of us really enjoyed). I constantly remind her that I'm willing to try almost anything with her no matter how kinky, and I know there are some things she's not yet brought herself to admit she wants to try yet. She also has willingly had sex with another woman right in front of me, granted it was a long time ago, but I know if the opportunity came about, she'd be willing again. We've talked about it, she admits she loves a woman's body, is attracted to other women and has had plenty of past experiences, and would 'perform' for me again as long as I don't touch the other girl Fair enough, I wouldn't want to anyway, I love her too much.

Speaking of, it's time for "lunch".

 

[-=SS=-]

The thing is that something "kinky" usually involves something that asks something (that could be unpleasent) from the woman, rather than the man. Men often don't have any problem with anything that could be done with a woman. They tend to naturally love anything sexually they could do with a woman.

Their only limit could be something like getting with another man, like yourself. Still, they might not see any problem with asking a woman to get with another woman, after all they've grown up watching lesbian sex and many would say this is "completely different" than them doing it with a man.

So "doing something kinky for the one you love" often doesn't ask that much of men in comparison. This is because the woman is mostly the object or the one that things gets done to. A man can live safe in the knowledge he'll probably never be asked to do things like getting fucked in the ass, getting covered in cum, and probably not getting with another guy either, etc. You have it easy. Women just don't tend to crave things you would hate to do (the problem is more not wanting what you crave).

Your generalization betrays your disdain for men Ninae. I don't know your history but it seems clear to me you have issues and project stuff on to "men" in a way too general sense. Sure what you say can apply to some men, but not all men. And I'm one of those men it doesn't apply to.

My ex was more demanding of kinky stuff than I was. I had no interest in anything anal but she wanted to experiment with that, though we soon discovered that actually she didn't like the sensations as much as she thought she would.. which was a relief because I wasn't looking forward to sticking my dick in there. In all honesty I don't really find myself as a kinky person.. I like domination from masculinity (me towards her), but that's standard. All I really care about is just getting pleasure and giving her pleasure, and sharing a moment together where you realize how pathetically moved by nature you are.

As for what does a BJ feel like. Well I find it takes a long time unless there's some hand in there, or I've been brought close already, as the mouth is subtle and doesn't arouse me as much as full skin on skin contact or pressure against the hip region. I mean it feels really nice but I see it as a warm up or a finishing off move rather than a start to finish move.

 

[Corazon]

I forget what they feel like.

When I was healthy, 12 years ago, I used to take them for granted.

 

[pigpen19688]

The thing is that something "kinky" usually involves something that asks something (that could be unpleasent) from the woman, rather than the man. Men often don't have any problem with anything that could be done with a woman. They tend to naturally love anything sexually they could do with a woman.

Their only limit could be something like getting with another man, like yourself. Still, they might not see any problem with asking a woman to get with another woman, after all they've grown up watching lesbian sex and many would say this is "completely different" than them doing it with a man.

So "doing something kinky for the one you love" often doesn't ask that much of men in comparison. This is because the woman is mostly the object or the one that things gets done to. A man can live safe in the knowledge he'll probably never be asked to do things like getting fucked in the ass, getting covered in cum, and probably not getting with another guy either, etc. You have it easy. Women just don't tend to crave things you would hate to do (the problem is more not wanting what you crave).

I agree with you. Men have always had the upper hand,and until you stand up for yourself and take charge we will continue to do so. I have a woman who is extremely strong. Some nights she will be vulnerable telling me in that raspy voice that I can do anything I want to her, other nights she wont suck my dick, thats cool.I love her to death. And you are right, if she asked me to be with another man I just couldnt do it as Im pretty much 98% straight. She on the other hand is semi cool with gettin down with chicks but only at a 75% level. I see the bedroom as a place of fantasy. If I want to cum on my girls chin and shes so horny she will be willing Im gonna cum on my girls chin for sure. Maybe shes not into it another night, well thats fine too because I can wait till those wonderful nights when she says "you can do anything you want t me"

 

[pigpen19688]

Your generalization betrays your disdain for men Ninae. I don't know your history but it seems clear to me you have issues and project stuff on to "men" in a way too general sense. Sure what you say can apply to some men, but not all men. And I'm one of those men it doesn't apply to.

My ex was more demanding of kinky stuff than I was. I had no interest in anything anal but she wanted to experiment with that, though we soon discovered that actually she didn't like the sensations as much as she thought she would.. which was a relief because I wasn't looking forward to sticking my dick in there. In all honesty I don't really find myself as a kinky person.. I like domination from masculinity (me towards her), but that's standard. All I really care about is just getting pleasure and giving her pleasure, and sharing a moment together where you realize how pathetically moved by nature you are.

As for what does a BJ feel like. Well I find it takes a long time unless there's some hand in there, or I've been brought close already, as the mouth is subtle and doesn't arouse me as much as full skin on skin contact or pressure against the hip region. I mean it feels really nice but I see it as a warm up or a finishing off move rather than a start to finish move.

Well said SS
Try slipping a slim vibrating mech in her while your inside. I have found the buttplay very erotic for my woman but shes a little to tight for me there so I use a small vibrator. Its amazing it seems how sensitive and erotic her butt can be. I had a small viberator in her ass recently with my hand around her waist and she loved it. As soon as I entered her the vibration in her ass made me immediately cum (too fast Im sorry to admit). Wow, Im really getting deeper than I thought I would but I love sex and love talking about it.

 

[pofacedhoe]

i get off on my ability to make men cum faster than they want to. who wants to cum after 30 seconds? i like making it happen and then having them chill out while i nibble them looking for an opening to fuck them. nice

banjo string. gets em nearly every time

i massively enjoy the texture of schlong in my mouth, i really get into it and showing off all my skills

 

[Beachcat]

i get off on my ability to make men cum faster than they want to. who wants to cum after 30 seconds? i like making it happen and then having them chill out while i nibble them looking for an opening to fuck them. nice

banjo string. gets em nearly every time

i massively enjoy the texture of schlong in my mouth, i really get into it and showing off all my skills

Ooh, can you expound a little on your technique? I consider myself somewhat an expert but would love to learn some new skills...sounds like you know what you are doing

 

[421]

Yesterday I saw a grown woman buy about 10 lollipops. I bet she'd be good at it. :D Oh and she was a "big girl".

 

[Ninae]

No, I don't hate men, do you think I could feel that way about giving blow-jobs if I did? Don't try to turn me into the problem just because I might not be able to satisfy all your needs. And yes, I was just making a wide generalisation, but there is some truth to it and I don't see any need to get so offended by that.

Loving someone doesn't mean you should feel expected to do be happy to do absolutely anything for them, even if it's something you dislike. Not asking someone to do something you know they don't enjoy or feel uncomfortable with can also be a way of showing love. Of course with most men it's hard to win with this argument, but surely some must be able to see my point, and I'm sure enough women would agree.

I'm not going to lie about my feelings just to please you or win anyone's approval. I only said I can really enjoy performing oralsex because that is true. But that doesn't mean I'm fine with anything a man might ask of me or every part of male sexuality, and you can't be so defensive of it you can't admit it has its problems.

In fact, I'm not scared to admit in some circumstances, like differences in sex drive or sexual preferences, I wouldn't mind if the guy I was with had someone else on the side to do the "heavy lifting" (i.e. sex when I'm not in the mood or do things he craves that I'm not prepared to do). At least it would make things a lot easier. There's also a limit to how much self-sacrifice I'm prepared to make.

Not an ideal situation, of course. Ideally you'd be sexually compatible in all ways but that won't always be reality. And it's not like men and women are 100% sexually compatible (though many are trying to force through the argument that we're just the same). If we were, we would never have any problems in this department, would we. The question is more who's expected to adapt to who?

Sometimes I think it would make things easier if all men were bisexual, that way they could satisfy each other, as female sexuality never seems to be enough (only look at how this thread turned out, and I'm very sexual and generous compared to many women). You don't know other women don't share my views, just because they haven't said anything - most would agree it can get too much.

Anyway, if men can ask women to adapt to their sexuality, why shouldn't we be allowed to do the same? But never mind, as either way it's an unwinnable argument. Most men will never admit there's anything to be criticised about male sexuality or their own sexual cravings.

 

[421]

And it's not like men and women are 100% sexually compatible.

Interesting theory. Not sure I subscribe to it.