Ok, let's have more facts and less feelings.
Men do the most dangerous jobs.
Way more men are maimed or killed on the job than women every year, by far.
Men are more likely to die by violence.
Men are more likely to end up in prison, and get harsher sentences for the same crimes that women commit.
The vast majority of suicides are men.
Boys/men are falling behind in education. Only 30% of undergrads in the USA per year now are male graduates.
Men account for the overwhelming majority of the homeless.
Men are more disposable than women -- "women and children first" is still a policy all over the world in emergency situations.
In terms of partner violence, men are equally as likely to suffer psychological harm from female partners. Men also suffer physical violence.
There are thousands of shelters for people fleeing domestic abuse in the United States, only ONE (yes, one) accepts men.
Men are more likely to lose custody of children in the courts based on gender bias alone (i.e. both parents have jobs/careers, income, etc.).
Men are more likely to be banned from ever seeing their children again, or have greatly reduced access to their children.
Men are far more likely to have to pay spousal support and alimony to women than the other way around.
Men are more likely to be given power they aren't ready for because they are men, leading to self-destruction; the opposite of women who are given no power, leading to self-destruction.
Every time men's rights groups bring these things up, they are viciously attacked by feminists for trying to tear down women. Yet, you don't see feminists arguing for more female coal miners, or more female fire fighters, or more female Alaskan crab fisherman, or more female power line workers. No, leave that shit to men, who are the sacrificial lambs. Women will never line up to die the way men are expected to, even if the laws give them equal access.
We can't talk about these problems without being called privileged, told to shut up because we have all the power, or "because patriarchy". It's like if you say anything about the hardship of men, it's directly seen as trying to claw back the rights of women; when really, it's trying to prop up one to prop up the other. Feminists say this all the time -- we are creating better conditions for everyone by helping one sex. Yet when men talk about their plight, they are attacked.
So yes, less emotion, more facts. Men have some serious disadvantages in society, just in different ways.
I look forward to addressing this at greater length ...but as side note - yes there's more men in prison than women ... for all manner of crimes ... but there's one crime for which they rarely do time: spousal assault.
I was lucky to survive my ex's final beating/choking bonanza. He'd locked me in our flat. After he'd choked me twice and seemed to be coming at me for a third go, I picked up a rubber mallet and told
him to back off or I'd hit him. He kept coming at me so I hit him twice in the head. He was bleeding a lot and I begged him to let me call an ambulance. Instead he made a noose and said he was going to hang himself (nice move asshole, since my Mum hanged herself in 2013). But he kept rubbing his blood all over my face and suddenly I realised I
had to get out at any cost ... next thing I was trying to escape by climbing down from balcony of
my 4th floor apartment. Of course it couldn't be done. I fell fifty feet and would've been killed, except a small tree broke my fall. The fall did destroy my left knee, however.
The cops told me if I'd died he would've been charged with murder.
Since I did not die he only got charged with common assault (for choking me) and was sentenced to ten month supervision order (reporting once a week to cops).
this despite previous convictions for assault ...
in meantime he told everyone how he chivalrously didn't have
me charged with assault for hitting him with rubber mallet ... because he'd been choking me Oh and I'd broken his nose.
In fact he had 2 minor lacerations on his scalp and it was so obvious that I'd acted in self defense that one cop told me he was proud of me for hitting him.
And yet I still WOULDNT HAVE HIM CHARGED.
Cops had to charge him because I wouldnt.
And I didn't want him charged because I wanted to protect him from a gaol sentence ...
Since all this happened I had some group therapy.
Must say it was mostly bullshit since we were not allowed to explicitly talk about getting assaulted for fear of "triggering" happening. I think most of us had enough experience with scary situations to handle a little "triggering".
We were also made to do kindergarten-level stuff like fill in worksheets and colour in pictures.
The women's shelter was even worse!
Y'know why men don't need DV shelters! Cos they're able to physically remove their wives from the family home and lock the door. I met women who'd been locked out, along with kids, in their pjs or even just their underpants, without so much as a bus fare.rule..
Man thereby retains house and car.
The women I met in shelters - often encumbered with little kids - have to go from shelter to shitty little flat or community housing (sharing with strangers.)
One woman was sledged because she was meant to take her very young kids to share a house with 3 totally strange homeless men.
She was being "sexist".
