I really am only interested in loving sex... not that it can't be wild because that's great, but I've never been into pain or anything. I like my partner to be a combination of dominant and submissive. I've actually never had a totally random encounter, due to being in a long-term relationship from 18 to 30 and being a virgin til then. My girlfriend now, we met and had sex the first real date (we met for lunch briefly 2 days before that but only spent 30 minutes together). It just seemed right and I found I was already developing feelings for her, it was very natural. I actually wanted to just have some random encounters at music festivals or something like that before I got into another relationship, but it didn't happen that way. At this point though I'm totally fine with that, nothing beats sex with someone you love, IMO.