In one of my favorites TV shows, a character talks about "jamming" their opinions down the throat of a new born baby that they plan to adopt.
Im going to be an uncle soon. I'm scared to even say shit.. and I sometimes can't even follow my own train of thought. I plan to mostly lead by example, but I'm not really planning or expecting anything
Just wondering what you think would nurture a mind that is healthy enough to understand the ins and outs of what you posted about.
How do people learn to be open-minded, accepting, understanding? Or even confident, positive and authentic?
Edit- but yeah I guess learning too you can't learn that shit if you don't.. know how to learn?
Any advice that one could give, will neccessarily be an outgrowth of one's subjective life experiences that have been made and shape how the child perceives the world. This in turn dictates the quality of thoughts and behaviour that they might express, which in turn influences their likes and dislikes, successes and failures in life. So I think in order to convey, or teach good values to a child, you must always keep in mind that your advice could be based on a false premise and therefore cultivate a healthy amount of scepticism and the curiousity to make ones own experiences regarding whatever topic is being discussed. This excludes obviously detrimental things such as experimenting with drugs or hurting animals.
Anyway, here are a few values you could teach them (I'm open to criticism):
- develop a proactive attitude instead of a reactive one. The former gives you the ability to create and explore, the latter turns your life into maintenance mode.
- emotions cloud judgement, regardless of whether they are negative (hate) or positive (romantic love). Keep this in mind before making decisions. Don't let this turn into emotional repression however.
- humans are irrational herd animals. Never follow the masses as they are chronically bipolar and have historically never been right on anything. Don't become a contrarian for its own sake, but take a step back when everyone runs towards the cliff and consider the possibility that they might be wrong. This requires an independent mind, self-awareness and a certain amount of impulse and emotional control.
- it's ok to admit not knowing something.
- nothing is the way it seems. There is more to this world than meets the eye. Have the courage to inquire into the true nature of things, even if it means exploring territory that the mainstream would consider "fringe". The greatest discoveries and inventions have never come from the mainstream, but always from the fringe outsiders.
- stay humble. The "crazy" homeless guy who manically talks to himself might have been very succesful if the circumstances of his life wouldn't have messed with him so much.
- balance reason with intuition. Don't let the system take away your inner voice and imagination. It's an integral part of you.
- pick up some classical literature as early as possible. Not only will getting accustomed to the archaic use of the english language make you more articulate and intelligent, it will also confront you with perspectives about life and the world that you might not have considered. A classicist education benefits you a trillion times more than what modern, crappy schools teach you. What DO they actually teach these days, other than being a good, compliant slave who must keep the economic machine running for the sake of it?
- Unplug. Take some time off of your daily activities, turn off your electronic devices, put your book down, turn off the music and reflect a bit on yourself. "Know thyself" is not possible when you are constantly busy or distracted doing something. Sometimes not doing anything and looking inward teaches you great things about yourself and how your mind and human nature works.
- I know this one will be polarizing, but throw out that mass hypnosis device that people call television (tell-your-vision). And for god's sake please don't throw a smartphone into the little ones' cribs. These devices completely mess with people's attention spans, enslave their minds, turn them into zombies who are locked in a digital world that deceives them into believing that it's an accurate representation of the real world, and has an overall degrading effect on people's interpersonal skills. You have kids these days who communicate via WhatsApp, even though they are in the same room, people going to bed with these devices, being unable to go outside without using google maps because all those years of using it has practically wrecked their spatial awareness, family members not talking with each other during dinner because everyone is so busy doing infinite scrolling, etc.
This addiction has become so widespread that people don't even perceive it as such. I replaced mine with a good ol' dumbphone in 2018 and I suddenly noticed how much of my daily life these things consumed. Generation Head-Down is real.
"It's cool to use the computer, don't let the computer use you."
Prince (1999)
- Harmonizing polarities is the secret to perfection (I won't elaborate on this one. It is a mystery that you have to solve all by yourself).