Surely your concerns about *the right thing to be/do* ought to be directed inwardly ?
saar_20 - happyus, Zoph & SHM said it better than i ever could! It feels right for us, so why does that bother you ?
Something about that has the hallmark of deep set catholic guilt & repression about sex
It doesn't bother me at all. It just seems that your desires could be placed more discerningly. We all want what's best for ourselves, that includes myself.
See, my friend "Kayster" has had sex with over 100 different men (well ok, it's probably less, but I wouldn't be that surprised knowing her) and has tried many, many drugs. But is she happy? No! She's the one of the most miserable people you'll ever meet. A lot of people heavily involved in promiscuity and drugs are often miserable.
So, although sex and drugs are fun in their special own way. They don't really amount to much.
Coke + Speed + Sex = The best sex I have had.
Must try this though
...And so it's this sort of attitude on the thread, and the whole board largely which seems so unfulfilling to me. Behavioural abuse of something special; typical of today.
A "let's take what we can from life" attitude, even if it means hindering your own heart and mind. An absence of sentimentality and love towards life and others in regard of your own self-gratification. Using sources of spiritual vacuousness to conjure your delights.
Excuse me for these deep posts by the way. Duck_racer's avatar is starting to over-stimulate my mind.
i went from knowing that i loved my partner to truly knowing that i did and could see deep into him and realised that he was in love with me too.and yes i do hold that acid experience as a golden memory because it gave me a deeper connection with my partner and a better understanding of how we love each
I still maintain that you don't need to risk your mental health to get the most from your partner. However you did make one excellent point:
sex is not just a way to pleasure but a way for our souls to combine and settle with one another.
Excellent! Well done! You're getting it. You truely understand what sex is meant to be about - few people do. I'm happy you've found someone to experience this with.
And sorry to be harsh but those are your perceptions of yourself, which you are projecting onto the world (as a means of liberating yourself from your own responsibilities and fuck-ups).
What you are doing now is forming assumptions, drawn from your own ignorance. I am speaking from a point of self-actualisation; not some conveniently formed, self-comfort inspired delusion - produced from inner denial. When you realise this you may start to understand what I'm saying a little better.