dude, i totally agree! if you rally want to be clean, you will stay clean. the AA makes you believe that there way is the only way, but if you anti-desire drugs and really want to stop, you will succeede. i know exactly how you feel! i felt like a slave to drugs, they ruled my life, especialyl heroin. i was shackled, and i kind of broke free with suboxone, but i am still dependent on it, it sucks that i have to take something to make me feel normal, but that is the name of the game..
i can relate about being over drugs, after a while of being sufficiently being broken-down, "gnawed," and chewed up like havng a suffiecient ass whoopingg, then and only after you have been fucked by drugs so bad, you can stop. if you dont have a desire to stay clean, or mostly have a desire to use, then you will fail, and what gives you that desire is all the negative effects drugs like heroin cause in you. i was homless, sent to rehab, arrested, had no friends, slept in bathrooms and lit hand-sanitizer on fire to keep me warm, no car, no phone, family didnt want me, was when i said i had enough with heroin and got on bupre, it has definitely helped me recover and improve my life, i just still have that feeling of being dependent yah know? getting off bupre and my meds is the last step, but im scared that if i get off my cravings will come back and i will be sucked back into the quick-sand.
day by day is the best way to look at staying clean. when i try to look into the future and think abut being sober all my life, i get really scared and i feel like i will fail and i should just go back to using. however, if i take it day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute, ect.. it is much easier. like if i get a craving for weed (weed is not at all compared to heroin but i am still mentally dependent, probably a little less strong ythan heroin cravings, but that is just the way my body is. some people never get cravings for weed, but since i am a habitually user, it was apart of routine, i did everything high and especially when i didn have shit to do, smoking weed made me entertain and shit, but like i said if i get a cravings i acan just think, " ok i just have to be sober for the next 30 mins, and if i am still craving afterwards i will use," usually, after 5 mins i realize that is not something i want to do and almost 99% of the time the craving goes away..
anyways i ramble, but i know you are a strong person man, and i envy-admire you character and decisions. you are a good guy, i can tell!!! i havnt really spoken alot with you on BL, but hopefully i will see you more often in OD social
............but!!! what do you mean when you say, "they want me to fucking use?!!!?!?!" like the people in the meeting want to get you high, or that being there gives you mad cravings and makes you want to use??