Nom de Plum I see you're on a temp-ban. Sigh---I was concerned that would happen seeing some of your threads n wanted to somehow try n prevent that but unfortunately, I was on a temp-ban myself. I can relate to you, in a way. I'm not Aspie---although it could be argued that my daughter n myself have traits of AS, my only two partners had Asperger's Syndrome n they were as different as chalk n cheese.
I know that you're not trying to look superior n try to be argumentative (although I could be completely n utterly wrong, but I don't think I am in this case).
If I remember rightly, there's a few others Aspies in EADD so if I get any of this wrong please don't be offended but could you help me out here?
I'm writing this here rather than PMing you because I want to try to help you n hope you're able to repair things here as EADD is full of friendly people, whom are both informative n like to have a laugh, as well as showing one another support if it's other needed.
People with Asperger's Syndrome often struggle with jokes, especially if they are aimed against them. So Whereas saying "you what mate," would be taken as a light-hearted joke n gentle encouragement to simplify their explanation, to someone with AS, it gets taken in an offensive way "I spent time making that post if you are going to poke fun, you're wasting my time, my aim here is find the answers / form a discussion around my question," so to speak.
So NDM is not trying to pick arguments with any of you or is he trying to be awakwsrd. The majority of Aspies cannot understand sarcasm n thus, unless a person knows this will often think them troublesome, aegumentative or confusion in their replies to most things sarcastic. They take stuff literally. So thus NDM's aim was (I can only assume as I cannot think / speak for another's subjectivity). I can imagine that he was incredibly frustrated n that's why you received the reactions that you receive from him.
Asperger's syndrome, unlike many conditions, is not as easily grouped into a small amount of symptoms. One Aspie maybe completely different to another.
NDp cannot help his condition no other than someone in a wheelchair cannot help not being able to walk or a blind man being unable to see. There's a lot of dispute as to whether AS is or similar to high-functioning autism so for the sake of this post, I'll say it's similar. Aspies have high IQs n some of them do struggle with NTs (neuro typical) due to this. They do not mean to be rude or egotistical but find it difficult. Again not everyone with AS is like this.
As I've stated,, my two exes with AS as chalk n cheese. The first was very quiet n passive-aggressive, the 2nd was very competitive n would cause dranma with the bloody lamp post if he could. I'd be here all day if I stated their differences n it's not the point of this post.
So can we all not wipe the slate clean here n start again, give NDP a chance???? NDP can you try n give EADD a chance? I'm sure that people did not mean to offend you, and the people here are friendly n do have a lot of knowledge on various substance, if you'll give them a chance?
Anyway welcone to EADD n I hope you're back from Banville (my joke name for being temp-banned / i fracted) soon.
To everyone else, I'm sorry for invading the thread. I'll gently slip out now.....
Evey
PS: sorry for any spelling / grammar error. IPhone n a nagging lilvibe make for interesting grammatical errors.