AbsintheKittie
Bluelighter
- Joined
- Jan 13, 2013
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- 129
Have an honest polygamous relationship and get rid of the issues.. YOU, as a human, CAN love and or have feeling for more the one person at a time as can everyone else. I think people put too much negative emphasis the word "relationship" and its a bit unfair.. Even "fuck boddies" is a form of a relationship weather you want to admit it or not..
The basis of poly is that you have open communication where in all parties know about each other and consent to the entire relationship.. there are many flavors there of... (and BTW the wife of the married man.. yeah she should know too...Other wise you are both just cheating and you are doing to someone else what has done to you)
from what you have said about your 2nd husband.. Honestly.. Sounds more like you two needed to sit down and communicate.. and maybe you two could have worked it out..
If what you want is to have a mono relationship, then do it... and do so by starting a relationship with someone who feels the same about relationships that you do and that you have open two way communication with about sex and needs... Make it clear that if they ever meet someone or have feels ect about something that they really need to share this with you so that you can work thru it together.. That also means you have to do the same thing with them and be willing to have an open ear as well as be understanding...
The basis of poly is that you have open communication where in all parties know about each other and consent to the entire relationship.. there are many flavors there of... (and BTW the wife of the married man.. yeah she should know too...Other wise you are both just cheating and you are doing to someone else what has done to you)
from what you have said about your 2nd husband.. Honestly.. Sounds more like you two needed to sit down and communicate.. and maybe you two could have worked it out..
If what you want is to have a mono relationship, then do it... and do so by starting a relationship with someone who feels the same about relationships that you do and that you have open two way communication with about sex and needs... Make it clear that if they ever meet someone or have feels ect about something that they really need to share this with you so that you can work thru it together.. That also means you have to do the same thing with them and be willing to have an open ear as well as be understanding...