Is she a liar or is this in my head?

[ScaredofMyself]

This is so bizarre....I have a vast collection of odd socks and that does not mean I cheat. It means I mix up my laundry with people.

OP has possibly messed up this relationship beyond repair by his wild accusations. Hes already admitted the kid is his. She would have known it was his.

Hes already scoping other gjrls yet thinks what happens in his ex lovers bed after hes gone is his buisness.

Nothing in the original post points to cheating. Just because you have convinced yourself she is doesnt make it true.

If you are on drugs take a break and get antipsychotics.

I cant believe people in this thread havent seen his behaviour as over the top and bordering abusive.

Think about it. She knows you have issues with paranoia and knows her past. What else can she do besides wear a tracker to prove shes not cheating?

Shes decided to not be with you even though you dumped her because she knows you will try to get back together on the weekend with your letter and put further demands on her.

Can you just entertain the notion you have been completely wrong and get help?

I disagree. How would you end up with a mans laundry in your house, if said man doesn't live there?

his wild accusations seem to have some backbone to them, and not random pot shots.

People who have cheated several times before have a higher risk than the average person of cheating again. I know this because my sister acts the same way with her boyfriend.

"Borderlibe Abusive"? I've recieved more abuse myself by catching the work from 8 year olds on Xbox Live.

I believe that someone should always play Devil's Advocate , but you can't make these assumptions from the 5 or 6 comments he left.

i have no conclusion to the situation because I don't have enough information.

 

[zephyr]

They are just socks! Who cares? They could be anyones aocks go wandering all the time

In the posts here this bloke seems keen to ruin his life...her life and their babys. Hes got to take a step back and stop over analyzing

 

[ScaredofMyself]

They are just socks! Who cares? They could be anyones aocks go wandering all the time

In the posts here this bloke seems keen to ruin his life...her life and their babys. Hes got to take a step back and stop over analyzing

Yes, socks do go missing.


But you're avoiding the fact that in order for that sock to be in their room, some man had to have been there and at one point removed clothing.

You cannot tell me that socks have magic properties and appear anywhere they please.

I believe that if you're innocent, you wouldn't tear up notes, lie, and throw a fit because your boyfriend wants to see your phone.

 

[zephyr]

Yes. They suffer from static and cling to other items of clothing and go back into the wrong set of drawers all the time. Also women wear mens socks in boots
Its no big deal.

 

[ScaredofMyself]

Yes. They suffer from static and cling to other items of clothing and go back into the wrong set of drawers all the time. Also women wear mens socks in boots
Its no big deal.

Now I feel like you're either a really good troll, or you're only siding with her due to feminist reasons.

How can the sock get in the wrong drawer if no one in the house owns it? Someone from outside had to bring it outside.

And women have size 6-9 size feet in women's. I doubt she'd wear a size 10-12 in men's for boots.

 

[zephyr]

If anyone demanded to see my phone i would tell them to get fucked . I doubt he would only ask that once.


Hes not her father fucks sake

 

[Lysis]

Sounds like the wife is much better off.

I have a pair of my ex's socks that somehow got left at my house like 13 years ago. I wear them in the winter cuz they are warm. Jesus.

Do her a favor and bail.

 

[zephyr]

The op asked a question. The answer is that he is paranoid based on what he thinks is cheating evidence. Hes clearly trying to make out she is this evil whore with dry lips and a disorganised sock drawer. The poor thing could use help with the baby instead of dealing with this crap.

 

[ScaredofMyself]

Sounds like the wife is much better off.

I have a pair of my ex's socks that somehow got left at my house like 13 years ago. I wear them in the winter cuz they are warm. Jesus.

Do her a favor and bail.

So because you kept your exe's sock, that means when all women have other men's clothes that randomly appear, they just must have kept them from a relationship they had over a century ago, right?

I feel like these arguments in her favor have no basis or logic. It's like you're pretending that women are perfect. Women can be pieces of shit too.

Zephyr, not everyone has hentai on their phone, so there's no reason to hide it.

 

[ScaredofMyself]

The op asked a question. The answer is that he is paranoid based on what he thinks is cheating evidence. Hes clearly trying to make out she is this evil whore with dry lips and a disorganised sock drawer. The poor thing could use help with the baby instead of dealing with this crap.

He asked a question, and has people being making up ridiculous arguments in her favor just because she's a woman.

 

[zephyr]

What is hentai?

Also when someone is so paranoid its a bit of a waste of time discussing logic
Its also fine to agree to disagree.

 

[ScaredofMyself]

Hentai is anime porn. Most people around here hide their phones because they love that stuff.

I used to be paranoid about everything, especially the woman of my affection harming me physically, but she would reassure me with her actions and words that I could trust her.


If there's no communication, there's going to be a cluster fuck in the relationship.

 

[Vagina Lover]

Seems to me that the original posts are a mixture of passive-aggressiveness and cherry picking to fit a particular view.

I accumulate random socks all the time.

Can't imagine a girl being accused of cheating would go down too well, either - especially a mother of one's children.

All this sound Jerry Springer to the max, btw

 

[Lysis]

Seems to me that the original posts are a mixture of passive-aggressiveness and cherry picking to fit a particular view.

I accumulate random socks all the time.

Can't imagine a girl being accused of cheating would go down too well, either - especially a mother of one's children.

All this sound Jerry Springer to the max, btw

lol entertaining for sure. But can you imagine being the female in this situation? "You put on lipstick you whore you're cheating." "Why is there a male sock in your drawer? You whore you're cheating."

I hope she gets rid of him.

 

[Erikmen]

Yep!

 

[Poppy-jay]

So why be with her in the first place? You have kept a score card against her from the beginning and have used past mistakes not made with tou as a reason to treat her like shit.

A lot of girls redo lipstick a lot because they like to have decent lippie on. And to be honest shes an adult who wouldnt appreciate having to report to you all the time. Maybe ahe knows tou dont trust her and are talking shit about her assuming the worst and plays on it to piss you off as you are giving her the shits?

Give her a break man. Shes just had a baby and going around saying its not yours is bullshit.

If you read I already said I know he's MINE!

 

[Poppy-jay]

He asked a question, and has people being making up ridiculous arguments in her favor just because she's a woman.

Thanks!
She before leaving said she would go as she was ( dressed in pjs. Then decided to do her hair and everything. Ok I understand you wanna look. Nice.
But I know you know me and you think your being smart. She specifically said she wasn't taking anything but her phone. And know her lipstick doesn't Stay on because she has slight face parasisa from GBS. So with her thinking she a being smart. She came back later with lipstick on.
People, ok, I'm intrusive. But I ain't when I there's no reason to be. I want to be prove wrong! I want her. And I don't care that you say about another girl. I'm not sleeping with her. All this shit has been going on for a year! Get off my back please.
She has last night admired stuff to me she has changed her lie to continuesly.
I don't know if what she says I can trust.
Ok?!?

 

[Poppy-jay]

I forgot to add. Abiut her coming back with lipstick on.
It's because she said she wasn't taking anything. The idea in her head by taking lipstick and applying it before she came back is to make me "sure " she hasn't kissed a guy or anything.
And before you say she might have done it to make me think she hasn't done anything when she hasn't. I asked her. She said she didn't take lipstick.
I know this girl.
And tbh don't need any more replys.

I am extremely insecure about allot of things.
I do get jealous.
And if I was with someone like me I wouldn't play on it. And if I loved that person and wanted them. Is prove to them I wasn't lying
Thanks

 

[Lysis]

Have you just asked her? You'll get better answers by just asking.

There is gut feeling and then there is paranoia.

Just say something like "I feel like something is going on with you. I feel like your attention is somewhere and I'd like to know if there is anything going on with you." Something like that. You don't have to accuse her but you can ask a leading question.

 

[Vagina Lover]

Just say something like "I feel like something is going on with you. I feel like your attention is somewhere and I'd like to know if there is anything going on with you." Something like that. You don't have to accuse her but you can ask a leading question.

That's some good advice.

There were things i have lied to my girlfriend about.

It has generally been me trying to hide the extent of my addiction, when it had been active, but i am sure there have been times when it could have come off as questionable as to cheating.

She is a clever girl and would often say things like "is something up, this doesn't feel like you?"

It beats "have you been cheating?" or "have you relapsed?"