ForEverAfter
Ex-Bluelighter
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I agree with some of what Uber / dopemaster said, but I resent men being reduced to mindless fuck machines like that. And I don't like what you guys said about women, either. It's not true about (most of) the people I've known in my life... I'm totally comfortable with my girlfriend hanging out with her mates, for example, even though I know she's had sex with more than a couple of them.
You shouldn't feel paranoid about your male friends wanting to fuck you, OP, nor should you - for any reason - feel the need to sever ties to people simply because you've had sex with them in the past... Unless you happen to be in high school, in which case that sort of thing is - probably - a social expectation, to some extent.
Another note: people on the internet don't know much about your relationship... When people make assumptions about you, or your relationship, or your friend's (probable) intent to fuck you, please take it with a grain of salt... There are too many people around here, quick to inappropriately diagnose situations that they (probably) shouldn't.
It isn't disrespectful for you to go have some platonic fun with your mates, just because you've had sex with them.
It doesn't make you look like a slut... On the contrary, it makes dopemaster look insecure (no offence) for stating it.
We're not living in the 1950s. If you want to go out, I say go out. But don't do it behind your boyfriend's back.
And, if something does happen, that means - ultimately - your relationship isn't meant to be.
Women don't need to wear chastity belts or be chained up, away from prospective challengers.
You know more than the people on this forum, whether or not you are likely to cheat.
If your boyfriend doesn't trust you, that is an issue.
It sounds like, from some of the responses on this thread, that men and women are not to be trusted.
That alcohol combined with former partners means somebody is going to cheat.
I think this is utter bullshit, for the record.
I'm capable of hanging out with ex sexual-partners and having ABSOLUTELY no interest in fucking them, because I'm in a (relatively happy) monogamous relationship and I have no interest (drunk or otherwise) being with anybody else.
(I'm male, by the way.)
Me too.
while chicks love to delude themselves about our intentions in the sage words of my 10th grade health teacher, if a guy goes out of his way to be friendly with a girl he's almost certainly at least somewhat attracted to her. So basically there's a fair chance these guys' aims will be to get in your pants and see you break up with your BF
You shouldn't feel paranoid about your male friends wanting to fuck you, OP, nor should you - for any reason - feel the need to sever ties to people simply because you've had sex with them in the past... Unless you happen to be in high school, in which case that sort of thing is - probably - a social expectation, to some extent.
Another note: people on the internet don't know much about your relationship... When people make assumptions about you, or your relationship, or your friend's (probable) intent to fuck you, please take it with a grain of salt... There are too many people around here, quick to inappropriately diagnose situations that they (probably) shouldn't.
I really would think there is something wrong with a relationship if the guy is sitting at home and his gf is at the bar kicking it with dudes she used to date/fuck. It is disrespectful on her part. It makes her look like a slut and it makes the dude look like he is being played. There really ain't shit innocent about getting drunk with your ex.
It isn't disrespectful for you to go have some platonic fun with your mates, just because you've had sex with them.
It doesn't make you look like a slut... On the contrary, it makes dopemaster look insecure (no offence) for stating it.
We're not living in the 1950s. If you want to go out, I say go out. But don't do it behind your boyfriend's back.
And, if something does happen, that means - ultimately - your relationship isn't meant to be.
Women don't need to wear chastity belts or be chained up, away from prospective challengers.
You know more than the people on this forum, whether or not you are likely to cheat.
If your boyfriend doesn't trust you, that is an issue.
It sounds like, from some of the responses on this thread, that men and women are not to be trusted.
That alcohol combined with former partners means somebody is going to cheat.
I think this is utter bullshit, for the record.
I'm capable of hanging out with ex sexual-partners and having ABSOLUTELY no interest in fucking them, because I'm in a (relatively happy) monogamous relationship and I have no interest (drunk or otherwise) being with anybody else.
(I'm male, by the way.)
OP said:I feel sorry for those that aren't mature enough to even comprehend how two people can split up but still maintain a platonic relationship.
Me too.
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