Basically, I've got a few friends that I went out with (years ago!). I see them all as friends, nothing else. My social life is very bleak at the moment as my boyfriend doesn't like me seeing any of them, so I stopped asking if I could about a year ago. Now though, I'm getting bored staying in, and just want to go out to the pub with my old friends! (My partner hates pubs and going out).
Is it wrong for me to see my old friends and catch up? Or is it being disloyal to my bf? :/ I don't want to start any arguments or drama, I just want to go out..
Its a mix, does he have reason to worry(be honest .. Like if they're all married cook but if theyre all single and could be threats to your bf either looks wise or money wise or really any 1 thing your bf may get so worried and then that's why he seems possessive).
maybe bring him with ...kinda meeting half way(relationships always have this lol) .
i know how it feels I stayed friends with all the girls I dated as I'm not a bad guy (never cheated never abused never lied but I did my thing without fighting so I was uncontrollable so we'd end up as friends ) and my gf didn't want me to talk or see any ..I still did somewhat but eventually stopped but my gf also eventually got over it .
if you want your bf to feel better don't talk to the guys if he asks about them and don't talk about them much just be like Ya I was bored we hung out ugh i need new friends I wish we'd go to the bar and run into some fun ppl hahaha..(this includes him and puts the others as ppl you use just to go out instead of as true friends),
reassure him they're not a threat in subtle ways if he mentions anything , also ask why he doesn't want you around them .
in the end you do have to choose though even if he didn't say so life's just that way and unless you're insanely great friends with no sexual interest in eachother then you probably won't be friends forever but you bf you may marry(or he may disappear and you can be female Ted from how I met your mother lol) .
also including me ..don't just believe anyone here is right about you and your bf maybe he has good reasons , maybe you overlooks something and he doesn't want to mention it ..etc etc etc
good luck and sorry for the horrible grammar .