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Alright, the main points of this thread are bolded so you don't have to wade through a wall of text should you not want to read everything (which is totally fine by me). Mods, if you feel this is better suited in another forum, please feel more than free to move it elsewhere!
So I just made a post in SLR that involved a mention of what kind of porn I enjoy only to second guess making the post at all. Why? Because I am not used to being entirely uncensored, even on the internet... ESPECIALLY when it comes to public forums such as this. I mean, anyone could wander onto this web site, recognize my photos and then start reading my posts. They would have access to some very intimate details about myself, especially in SLR and TDS. While I am not ashamed of myself in any way, I do find that I am tempted to retract a bunch of posts in which I have been really open as I am in a relationship with a person who is in the public eye and his reputation is almost everything. Right now this is not a problem but as he works his way up through the ranks later on (he is a Marine officer and more than on track to becoming a very high ranking person), I find myself thinking that I might need to start worrying about some of the stuff that's available to the public on the internet.
Once again, I'm not ashamed of myself in any way but I wouldn't want my past to tarnish his future in any way, and I know how people can be... Someone could bring up my history with opiates and the fact that I used to shoot up drugs or the fact that I've openly discussed my sex life with this man and unfortunately that could be held against one or both of us (because we all know people care way too much about that kind of thing and it's really a damn shame that any of it would get in the way of someone's career so long as they are fit for their field in every other way).
This all got me thinking. Do any of you find yourselves worrying about anything like this happening? Do any of you have any experiences with your openness being held against you at a later point? Have you ever used another person's openness against them? Do you think people should be more or less reserved on the internet?
I am only 22 (turning 23 in three weeks) but I am marrying this man within the next two years and we have already started planning every facet of our lives out accordingly. I feel we are being very realistic and mature (especially when it comes to the prenup we are going to create and sign because despite both of us being madly in love and insanely compatible--we never argue, have never raised our voices to one another, laugh nonstop, etc.--, we realize that people change and things can go south no matter how much of a fairy tale the relationship was at some point). We are literally discussing our possible future together twenty years from now in an effort to make everything as stable and enjoyable as possible, right down to putting away 1/4 of every paycheck into a savings account and establishing credit through buying property and such.
This discussion has obviously included the above sentiments so yeah, it just got me thinking and I was curious as to how you guys handle this kind of thing. A lot of BLers are extremely open and I want to know if anyone is ever worried about what that could mean should such information fall into the wrong hands.
So I just made a post in SLR that involved a mention of what kind of porn I enjoy only to second guess making the post at all. Why? Because I am not used to being entirely uncensored, even on the internet... ESPECIALLY when it comes to public forums such as this. I mean, anyone could wander onto this web site, recognize my photos and then start reading my posts. They would have access to some very intimate details about myself, especially in SLR and TDS. While I am not ashamed of myself in any way, I do find that I am tempted to retract a bunch of posts in which I have been really open as I am in a relationship with a person who is in the public eye and his reputation is almost everything. Right now this is not a problem but as he works his way up through the ranks later on (he is a Marine officer and more than on track to becoming a very high ranking person), I find myself thinking that I might need to start worrying about some of the stuff that's available to the public on the internet.
Once again, I'm not ashamed of myself in any way but I wouldn't want my past to tarnish his future in any way, and I know how people can be... Someone could bring up my history with opiates and the fact that I used to shoot up drugs or the fact that I've openly discussed my sex life with this man and unfortunately that could be held against one or both of us (because we all know people care way too much about that kind of thing and it's really a damn shame that any of it would get in the way of someone's career so long as they are fit for their field in every other way).
This all got me thinking. Do any of you find yourselves worrying about anything like this happening? Do any of you have any experiences with your openness being held against you at a later point? Have you ever used another person's openness against them? Do you think people should be more or less reserved on the internet?
I am only 22 (turning 23 in three weeks) but I am marrying this man within the next two years and we have already started planning every facet of our lives out accordingly. I feel we are being very realistic and mature (especially when it comes to the prenup we are going to create and sign because despite both of us being madly in love and insanely compatible--we never argue, have never raised our voices to one another, laugh nonstop, etc.--, we realize that people change and things can go south no matter how much of a fairy tale the relationship was at some point). We are literally discussing our possible future together twenty years from now in an effort to make everything as stable and enjoyable as possible, right down to putting away 1/4 of every paycheck into a savings account and establishing credit through buying property and such.
This discussion has obviously included the above sentiments so yeah, it just got me thinking and I was curious as to how you guys handle this kind of thing. A lot of BLers are extremely open and I want to know if anyone is ever worried about what that could mean should such information fall into the wrong hands.
I mean, they came from a generation in which such things weren't discussed, let alone in public where anyone could hear or read about it. They already have a hard time comprehending a person being this open to begin with, and then you compound that with the fact that the things I'm being open about are particularly troubling in certain posts... It just makes me nervous! 
