Men have "endless options" too - if you want to look at dating + technology in that way. If the option you are persuing isn't working, try something else.
I mean, i hear some men complain that women have some kind of advantage in these situations, but the way i see it, that is either
a) fair enough
or
b) a matter of perception.
Internet dating does seem to take a lot of the romance out of dating/sex/meeting people etc - but i think you'll find plenty of women and men that either want to play that game, or don't - as the case may be.
Choosing not to engage with these sorts of things can work in your advantage too, or at least potentially save you from VD
OP, i think you'll find that 'girls'
do care about plenty. But you're still very young, and thus are talking about
girls; not women. As you get older some of the mysteries of why potential dates pass you by will become clearer - or maybe not.
But just because you see yourself as having the external elements required to attract female interest, it doesn't mean the opposite sex feel the same way. Maybe the "weird geeky or boring" guys are more fun, interesting or deep than the persona you're putting out there. Identity can be as fluid as you want it to be - you can always reinvent yourself when you find yourself in a different social environment and see how that works, whilst still being true to yourself.
That shouldn't be too hard for someone with a performing arts background, and is a great ability for musicians to possess.
Ultimately though, you're still in high school. High school dudes in bands might not instantly interest the ladies...but stick with it.
It really isnt a competition about who is "best" or has the most of whatever - it's about the person you are and what you can offer someone as a friend, lover or boyfriend.
The stereotypes of musicians getting all the girls aren't true for everyone, and the kind of girls that only sleep with musicians might not be the kind of girls you want to meet either. What i've found about playing music (i've played in a lot of bands) or following whatever path my interests take me down - is that it has opened me up to social networks of likeminded people; and friendships and relationships have followed from there.
It's not about status, it's about meeting the right people.
My 2 cents, anyway.