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Do girls care about anything anymore?

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Djentlemen

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Let me start of by apologizing for the rant, just wondering what people's opinions are.

It seems like girls don't care about anything but themselves and their small crowd of people around them. Let me start off by saying I am not trying to brag, I'm just naming the qualities about myself that one would think would be attractive to girls. I am fairly attractive, I feel very average sometimes but people are always telling me I'm very attractive and I'm actually a model/actor for TV and film. (I can't stand that theater shit though). I have a manager and everything, I do commercials and voice overs and audition for big roles all the time. I have been on TV several times in commercials and stuff, it's how you work up to the bigger jobs. I have absolutely no problem with money because of it. I'm also a guitarist/vocalist. I've been playing for about 10 years now, and I'm actually going to be touring the U.S. and Canada with a band as a guitarist. Our one members dad is extremely well known to be one of the best at his instrument in the world, and we have a record label and everything.
I go to a performing arts high school majoring in guitar as well, gonna be a senior.

And let me tell you: girls couldn't care less.
I don't try to brag, I don't just start running my mouth about this stuff, I'm fairly reserved most of the time however if I like a girl I am definitely fairly outgoing. I do play sort of a "come and get me" vibe but just slightly. All my friends and I can go out and try to get numbers and the girls have literally always flocked to them and forgotten about me in 2 seconds, I can't even get numbers. I can't even tell people the things I do usually because they will usually start to think I'm bullshitting them and making things up.

People always say "oh musicians get girls, bands get girls, actors definitely get girls, bad boys get girls, money gets girls, blah blah blah". I've liked a lot of girls, a ton. And every single one has led me on and then dropped me, or turned me down and then gone out with some weird geeky or boring guy and I'm like "what was wrong with me?" I've never even had a relationship, the most I ever had was a complicated friendship where I lost my first kiss blackout drunk 4 days before she found a boyfriend and broke my heart on Valentine's Day. I'm a very down to earth person, and I'm not out of the loop when it comes to self awareness. I dislike sluttiness, as i'd rather have someone who is also experiencing a relationship for the first time (just for my first relationship so it's even) however that seems impossible anymore in this day and age, everyone is giving Bj's and handjobs out like candy in 8th grade.

Anyway, has anyone else noticed that girls seem to care about nothing anymore? I feel like you can be the nicest guy ever, the most talented or funny or attractive guy they've ever seem and they wouldn't give a flying fuck. They'd rather be screwing some football jock in their small high school circle of friends.

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hmm im not sure if girls dont care about anything anymore but i do find he majority of them ot be very difficult to talk to as they seem to only want to talk about themselves..i mean, here i am asking them questions and they are fine with talking about their job, family, drama but they very rarely ask questions back..its like, do they completely lack social awareness and proper social skills, the art of keeping a conversation going?i was told by others that women do not need good social skills, all they need to do is look pretty and guys will eat them up which i guess is true for the most part but i just find it sad tbh..i need a girl that knows how to socialize and maintain conversations, and even if she isnt interested in what im up to, at leasts pretend to be..thats what i do with them lol..

even when it comes to texting, girls can be so torturous to talk to..they just seem to lack the social understanding of men..maybe im way off, i dunno..
 
Give it a few years. Nobody knows what the fuck they want in high school. Lots of people don't know until they're 30 or 40 or even older actually. Also, if you have the same problem in all your relationships, it might be time to apply Occam's razor.
 
If youre touring the US and Canada i dont think youll want to have a committed relationship. There could be oppurtunities while your on the road to meet girls but most of the time it wont be a relationship kinda deal, which isnt awful. Nothing is wrong with physically connecting with someone you dont know too well. Unless youre the kind of person that needs to have emotional intimacy before you take the next step.

My advice to you is to relax, on the surface you seem to be quite the catch. But women (most of them at your age) require some kind of physical relationship. Maybe youre a bad kisser? and trust me that is extremely important to women. Maybe you arent a smooth talker like other men? and women are suckers for men who know how to talk their way into their pants. I think you should focus on what makes you stand out and what makes you special, women will notice and not just any woman but the right one for you. Theres no need to rush into any kind of relationship with the girl that chose the jock in the circle of her friends. Maybe she wasnt right for you. And as for the come and get me vibe... Drop that shit. it will get you no where. Theres a reason why men are the pursuers and women are pursued. its pretty much part of our psyche its what makes Men, Men and what makes Women, Women. You are the hunter not the prey so act like it.
 
Lady here, and no I do care about a lot of stuff lol. I agree though a lot of women (especially the very attractive ones) can be very self centered. You say that when you tell them about yourself that they think you're bullshitting them. Well, you do have a fairly uncommon career, there aren't a whole lot of actor/musicians out there. Maybe you're trying too hard to be noticed and you're just not aware of it. Just be genuine and try to persue a women who is kind, genuine, and intelligent. You may just be picking out the hot, selfish chicks. I've known some great guys who continuously pick out some pretty shitty girls. You're attractive, successful, and you seem pretty intelligent. I feel confident that you'll find yourself a lady, don't try to force it. I find that a lot of the best relationships happen when you least expect it :)
 
Are you talking about American Women (and Americanized Women)? Do you know the Lenny Kravitz song by that name? Also, the Russian writer Alexander Pushkin had deep insight into human nature. Let me refer you to the Pushkin story about the Fisherman and his wife (1835): http://russian-crafts.com/tales/golden-fish.html
Whether you're talking about highschool, college, 20s and 30s, the behaviour is the same for the majority. Sorry.
 
It's this thing called the "scent" which most girls can smell from a mile away. It doesn't matter how goodlooking, how successful, how talented or how sweet the man is, if he doesn't have the alpha scent, he won't be as successful with girls as, say, a boorish, ugly brute who farts and burps all over the place, but just so happens to have the "scent". Having said that, there's bound to be someone out there that is compatible for you; you just have to be patient and perhaps broaden your horizons somewhat.
 
You're like 17. Work on yourself and it'll happen. Girls that are 17 don't have to care about anything, they're still children.
 
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How often are you travelling? Are you attempting to connect with complete strangers or are these girls you're talking about considered people you meet on a regular basis?

If you are trying to throw your personal life out there to complete strangers right off the hop, surely you're bound to get either a) skeptics or b) short term flings.
By the sounds of it you need something a little bit deeper than that.. try getting yourself involved in some sort of regular community in your living area ( how often will you be touring??) so that you can connect with women, make friends and connect with individuals on a friendly basis before trying to initiate an intimate contact. You may find that someone will appreciate you more if they get to know you before trying to get romantic.
 
No I haven't been traveling, and I'm not beta. I'm definitely not beta because I'm a stubborn son of a bitch and I don't let people tread all over me. I do my own thing.

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even when it comes to texting, girls can be so torturous to talk to..they just seem to lack the social understanding of men..maybe im way off, i dunno..
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Yeah exactly, 100%!

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Lady here, and no I do care about a lot of stuff lol. I agree though a lot of women (especially the very attractive ones) can be very self centered. You say that when you tell them about yourself that they think you're bullshitting them. Well, you do have a fairly uncommon career, there aren't a whole lot of actor/musicians out there. Maybe you're trying too hard to be noticed and you're just not aware of it. Just be genuine and try to persue a women who is kind, genuine, and intelligent. You may just be picking out the hot, selfish chicks.
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Honestly I don't need anyone special, just someone I'm reasonably attracted to who is sweet and caring.

Also the Elliott Rodger post was so fucking funny thank you for that hahaha

Honestly I don't care about fame or money, it will never make me truly happy. I'd give it all up to know what it feels like to love and girls may say "oh that's so adorable any girl would be lucky to have you" but they really mean "oh that's so adorable any OTHER girl but me would be lucky to have you"
 
wimothy tilson said:
women (most of them at your age) require some kind of physical relationship. Maybe youre a bad kisser? and trust me that is extremely important to women. Maybe you arent a smooth talker like other men? and women are suckers for men who know how to talk their way into their pants. I think you should focus on what makes you stand out and what makes you special, women will notice and not just any woman but the right one for you. Theres no need to rush into any kind of relationship with the girl that chose the jock in the circle of her friends. Maybe she wasnt right for you. And as for the come and get me vibe... Drop that shit. it will get you no where. Theres a reason why men are the pursuers and women are pursued. its pretty much part of our psyche its what makes Men, Men and what makes Women, Women. You are the hunter not the prey so act like it.
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Hey I would also love a physical relationship!

Let me tell you I am very smooth when it comes to girls, and how would these girls know how I kiss if they drop me before I even have a chance? Like I said I'm very self aware. As far as the "come and get me" attitude, by that I don't mean I try to let the girls come to me, I'm definitely a man when it comes to that. I just mean I don't do ALL the work and seem pushy because let's face it, girls like the game and the chase
 
Djentlemen said:
Hey I would also love a physical relationship!

Let me tell you I am very smooth when it comes to girls, and how would these girls know how I kiss if they drop me before I even have a chance? Like I said I'm very self aware. As far as the "come and get me" attitude, by that I don't mean I try to let the girls come to me, I'm definitely a man when it comes to that. I just mean I don't do ALL the work and seem pushy because let's face it, girls like the game and the chase
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There's quite a lot of contradiction in your posts, but this is understandable. Experience is the best teacher and I suspect that when you have some under your belt, you will have have a greater degree of self-awareness and be able to analyze yourself a bit better than currently. Also, by Alpha I do not necessarily mean a man who stomps all over everyone else and is the "king of the castle". It's a specific type of sexual attraction that some men either do or don't have; something that can be sniffed out on a subconscious level within seconds of meeting a person. If you do not possess this particular scent, girls will sense it and it may explain why they are very quick to move on from you. Just a thought. :)
 
Lady_Hurricane said:
....It's a specific type of sexual attraction that some men either do or don't have; something that can be sniffed out on a subconscious level within seconds of meeting a person. If you do not possess this particular scent, girls will sense it and it may explain why they are very quick to move on from you. Just a thought. :)
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Could you please describe this scent attraction phenomenon? I'm intrigued and would like to know more. Animals like me. I'm the kind of guy that stray cats, dogs, squirrels, small children, and little old ladies seem to like. Romantically, certain women like me too, but I'm too awkward socially and mess up many chances I've had. Just as often, many women are repulsed by me.
 
Younger women generally want to have fun and get laid... like most guys. Work on just being fun. Use a nice cologne, dress nice, be friendly... being a musician is usually easier to get laid. Worried about a relationship later.
 
It seems like you are very focussed on yourself. So why is that a surprise that others are like that?

Not all females are like that.... but clearly you attract a certain type. That is often because of the way you are. If you'd like to attract different females, you can change that.

And age/maturity means a lot. If you're 15, you're going to be less mature than when you're 30. That's how it is.
 
llama112 said:
It seems like you are very focussed on yourself. So why is that a surprise that others are like that?

Not all females are like that.... but clearly you attract a certain type. That is often because of the way you are. If you'd like to attract different females, you can change that.

And age/maturity means a lot. If you're 15, you're going to be less mature than when you're 30. That's how it is.
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exactly.

modern people are very self absorbed and self obsessed and i think media and society has a lot to do with that. adverts brainwash you into being a consumer and the consumer is always a function of the want of an ego.

young people are definitely targeted by adverts massively and have less years of experience to be psychologically resilient to the messages and distorted norms they shove in your face

also people grow up as they get older. when you are older things get more chilled out IME

you attract people that are drawn to the vibe you put out. if you have low self esteem you will attract people who enjoy that for whatever reason (maybe someone who enjoys talking down to you) and vice versa with arrogance will attract those who find arrogance attractive.
 
I understand that completely. I am not as young minded as you guys might think. Also about the people saying im being focused on myself... I am always looking for a way to find self improvement. In all areas. If that's such a bad thing then just hang me now. I try to stay very neutral in my placement and I actually feel like that's what puts me in my position. I'm not arrogant enough for the girls who are into that and I'm confident enough to scare away the shy girls. I'm just kinda... There... I don't know. Everyone around me is always telling me how impressed they are with how mature/put together they think I am but mind you it is always older people who say that. In all I'm just very frustrated in how my generation acts.
 
yeah well at 30 i look at my generation and think WTF too all the time. its not generation even more just that most people are simple and dont really see a bigger picture beyond their immediate wants.
 
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