I get where you're coming from but you could say this about almost everything. Blood pressure medication is just putting your hypertension issue on hold, the real antidote is to just lose weight and eat better. SSRIs are just putting your depression issues on hold, the real antidote is to get out of bed and go find purpose. Acetaminophen is just temporarily lowering your fever, it's not actually addressing the root cause. Etc.
My point is sometimes the best we can do is treat our symptoms. It's true that benzos aren't good for everyone long term. They aren't meant to be used casually by people who occasionally experience normal levels of stress that is natural in life. They're meant for people like me who have an anxiety disorder. Anxiety is very different than stress. And just because you experience anxiety doesn't mean you have a disorder.
I'd love to live without them. But the problem is, there is no cure for this. I tried therapy. I tried religion. I've been on probably ten different combinations of SSRIs, SNRIs, and NDRIs. As much as doctors claim to know about mental illness, they're still relying on guesswork the vast majority of times. There is no magic spell or secret code that will unlock "an answer". There is no "antidote". You aren't fixing a broken leg or a leaky faucet here, either. It's a bit more complicated than that.
In my opinion, any person's goal ought to be to find a way that best helps YOU navigate your way through life. Don't bury your head in the sand and lie to yourself. Don't ignore your health. But also don't feel guilty if you don't fit neatly into the box that society has constructed for you. I don't accept the idea that I'm somehow ignoring my issues because I choose to use a certain medication.
I'm very glad that other people find things like therapy and anti depressants beneficial, I really am. I'm glad those things are readily available and don't carry the stigma they once did. I would like to have that convenience for myself one day.
