@kiely I feel you, it's valid what you're saying. It's hard for me to synthesize all of this information and perspective take on everyone here. But I think, personally my key points are;
- diagnosis is based on severity / harm to self and others (which I think is part of your point correct me if I'm wrong)
- treatment and understanding is lacking by professionals and others who read only the top Google articles
- no one is completely helpless, however removing ourselves from dangerous or toxic situations is our right and absolutely valid