Hey Phactor. I am not in a physically abusive relationship here nor do I think I've glorified drinking 'products' but if I somehow gave that impression, I apologize.
He has never hit me. Shoved but don't all couples get into a rowl now and then? I lashed a pair of pants at him once and he shoved me, that's the brunt of that. in my opinion, this was fairly harmless and certainly nothing like what other people endure.
He is not a bad person. He is young though and already losing chunks of time. I've looked up and read some books at the library and they say this is common with prolonged usage. His brain is not working as it once did.
What kind of person would I be if I up and left my love when he is down and in so much need of help?
I truly do appreciate your kind concern; truly, I do.
I came here to this site to ask others how they deal with this. Who's in love with one in this type of situation and what does one do to help those who don't want any help?
I'm at a loss here.
He is my friend and my man. I am built to last and do not take this union lightly. What would you do if your love was killing themselves a little bit every day? Hm? what would you do?
First, I never suggested you were glorifying products.
Second, you ended a post stating "I have to stop typing, he is coming" or something along those lines. Why does he get to control your internet access by his presence?
As for your loving killing himself, I hate to tell this to you, but you are likely making it worse. Try to do a little research on "enabling". Also, physical violence (even if its just pushing/shoving) is not okay. Drinking with him, staying with him etc etc is likely just making his use worse.
God knows I treated my loved ones like shit. I wasn't physically violent, but if I could manipulate them or lie to them when it came to my use I did. I kept doing this until it got so bad that it was extremely obvious. Then the disappointment and anger at me started all over again only worse. Why? Because I had given them false hope again.
Anyways, I am here whenever. I am not going to debate this with you though. This is something you need to work out on your own terms. I am here though. I also may be able to direct you to resources if you need them (that is why I asked location). I still have lots of contacts from my days when I worked with DV Victims and Perps.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MvtCfhYeZz4
Enabling... putting this bluntly... if you continue to do this you could actually end up helping to kill him. I say this with a sad heart and honestly mean no offense.
So not only do I have experience with DV, more importantly I am an alcoholic/addict myself. I know some of what he is going through. I wasn't ready to get serious until people stopped enabling me and even then it took me a long time to come to terms with my addiction myself. Do you think you are an addict?