menidiatis
Bluelighter
- Joined
- Jul 24, 2021
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I have a 7/10 face as rated by my female friends, a good body (slim waist wide shoulders and nicely shaped in general), and I have really maxxed my personality (again female friends have said I am cool, funny, outgoing guy). I dance salsa, I am working on opening a business, I have principles that I live by, I have goals in life, I have passion yada yada
I was suffering from severe social anxiety all my life until now (so never had gf), and I worked extremely hard all alone doing CBT for 4 years. Only now I have reached the point that I can finally start asking women out.
I am afraid however that women don't take me seriously because of my height and I won't be given a chance. Considering that in everything else I am doing well (in terms of looks and personality I mean), I don't see any other culprit as to why attractive girls never seem to be interested in me. Even worse I live in the Netherlands, so being 165 here means I am shorter than the women. I feel like at best I am perceived as comical, at worst I am perceived as deformed.
My question is, are there any short men here on this forum that have similar characteristics (ie decent looking but not model like, and with a solid personality) who have had success with getting an attractive woman? By attractive I don't mean Doutzen Kroes, I mean a woman that similarly is a 7/10 in the face, has a decent body and who understands me and we can have a deep intimate connection. I am not looking for ONS or FWBs, I am very well aware that I don't cut it for these kind of relationships with my height, and I don't seek them anyway as I am pretty sensitive and emotional.
Is there any hope for me? Or is it just my destiny that I will die alone with foil and brown powder?
Please no sugar coating and virtue signalling, especially if you are a lady answering please be honest, if you think short guys are gross / repulsive actually say it. There's nothing that hurts me more than my pain being underestimated, and being presented as it is all in my head, it is very derogatory and painful.
I was suffering from severe social anxiety all my life until now (so never had gf), and I worked extremely hard all alone doing CBT for 4 years. Only now I have reached the point that I can finally start asking women out.
I am afraid however that women don't take me seriously because of my height and I won't be given a chance. Considering that in everything else I am doing well (in terms of looks and personality I mean), I don't see any other culprit as to why attractive girls never seem to be interested in me. Even worse I live in the Netherlands, so being 165 here means I am shorter than the women. I feel like at best I am perceived as comical, at worst I am perceived as deformed.
My question is, are there any short men here on this forum that have similar characteristics (ie decent looking but not model like, and with a solid personality) who have had success with getting an attractive woman? By attractive I don't mean Doutzen Kroes, I mean a woman that similarly is a 7/10 in the face, has a decent body and who understands me and we can have a deep intimate connection. I am not looking for ONS or FWBs, I am very well aware that I don't cut it for these kind of relationships with my height, and I don't seek them anyway as I am pretty sensitive and emotional.
Is there any hope for me? Or is it just my destiny that I will die alone with foil and brown powder?
Please no sugar coating and virtue signalling, especially if you are a lady answering please be honest, if you think short guys are gross / repulsive actually say it. There's nothing that hurts me more than my pain being underestimated, and being presented as it is all in my head, it is very derogatory and painful.