Manboychef, sometimes it is hard to ask for help even if one is willing to receive help. It is quite weird feeling as you know that someone could help but you get too anxious to ask for help as it would mean that you must admit yourself that you have a problem for which you need help.
If you know him well you might guess if he is willing to get help. I wouldn't mind if my friends would ask if something is wrong or if I would need help in something. That is what friends are for
Although if I knew it might harm my sobrierity in someways I might be selfish enough to not intervene.
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Friend of mine who has been staying with me for sometime after she was taken in custody after driving under influence during amphetamine, alcohol and benzo binge is going back to work this thursday as she got just a warning and will have to take drug tests every week and attend to therapy. Luckily her commanding officer is a friend of mine too and we all attended in a meeting and he decided that those consequences are enough for her as terminating her service contract would definately mean much more problems.
She knows that there won't be second time and seems like she will stay sober after returning to her place as she had done a lot thinking although in a short time.
I guess I'll miss the time we were ablo to spent during these weeks as I had a friend all the time in my house and could speak about everything anytime and weren't ever lonely.
