Your opinion please? :)

Well, I've been ignoring my blog for the past few days, sorry my frequent visitors.. You know who you are! thank you for reading!!

I talked to my best friend about her upcoming wedding (The one where I'm definite Maid of Honor..oh, and someone asked in my previous blog about whether she was a Maid or Matron of Honor and I did find the difference in my handbook! A Maid of Honor is someone single.. And the Matron is a married woman who has sex on a regular basis, that's what it said! The book, The Bridesmaid's Guerilla Handbook, says "The job description is the same, but tradition dictates this distinction (1) so the best man will know if he can cop a feel during the first dance, and (2) so the women can point and murmur 'What a shame...always a bridesmaid, never a bride.'". But I'm still not really sure if the first distinction is whether she's a "Maid" and "single" making it ok, or whether she's a "Matron" and "experienced" so she won't be offended if the Best Man cops a feel. It's kinda hard for me to tell, lol. The book is great, it's very sarcastically written too! I'd recommend it!

So we're planning on going to a bridal expo soon, that should be fun! Don't really know exactly what's gonna be there, but I have and idea.

Here's my idea for the Bachelorette!! My best friend is really into witches and Halloween is her favorite Holiday, she loves dressing up and having parties. Her date is November 3, so I suggested to the Bridesmaid (only gonna be her and me) that we do a Witches Excursion (I don't really know what that is, but I figured going to Salem, MA on Halloween would be great!!) So that's what we're planning, not telling the Bride of course!

I do have a question for all, I want to go Halloween weekend or if it's on a weekend, that day and stay the night. The only bridesmaid said that the week before the wedding is very hectic, which I totally understand. She's done this before, I haven't..so I guess she'd know. But I thought traditionally the Bachelorette and Bachelor's parties were either the night or two before the wedding to celebrate "their last single night?" please correct me if I'm wrong!

The best man is planning Vegas trip for a month before, which they'd be going for longer than a night, so I get that. Well looking at a calendar, the 31st is a Wed and would be two nights before the ceremony, but maybe the 27/28? The other girl suggested two or three weekeps before which would be either the 13/14 or the 20/21. Out of those I'd rather the 20/21.. Closer to the day, Halloween too, etc.. So I guess I'm just asking what people think? Anyone have experience that can share? Good/horror stories? Anything that could help me decide when to set the date for?

I'm wicked excited, and can't wait!!

Thanks for the help!

 

thanks for clearing that up, now i know i am a matron of honor

my bridal party was scattered across the US, so i had a small bachlorette party well before my wedding. i also got married in a different state from where i was living, so that made it a bit odd too. my husband's bachelor party was the weekend before the wedding. he and some friends got a hotel room and went to strip clubs.

the week before my wedding was insanely hectic. as i said, i was living in a different state, so the week before the wedding was the first time i was back in a few months. i had to do a final fitting of my dress, get all the little details ready and whatnot. the day before the wedding, we dropped a bunch of stuff off at the hotel where we were getting married. my husband and i went out the night before but came home early (11 pm-ish) so that we wouldn't be tired for the wedding.

i would not have wanted my bachlorette party the night before the wedding. aside from it being hectic, spending my wedding hungover would have been miserable. it is a pretty crazy as is, you don't want the bride to have a throbbing head or be nauseous on top of everything else.

i was a pretty laid back bride but if have any questions you want answered from a bride's perspective, let me know

 

Sweet, thank you! Yea I definitely wouldn't have it the night before, for her sake, I just was thinking more like one week, so we could go closer to Halloween.

I'll definitely check out the thread, thanks! I'm only up now bc my back pain is real bad right now and I can't friggin lie in bed anymore, it's only 730am! Waiting for the Tylenol to work then goin back to bed. :/ if it works..

Today we're going to the bridal expo! That should be fun! It's like an hours drive tho :/ but oh well. We're excited for it.

In my case, everyone lives in the same state, pretty sure all the invitees too, everyone who would be coming to the bachelorette party even, so it might be a little easier for us to round up the troops closer to the day, or even farther away lol, so we'll have to go with what availability the hotels there have I guess!

Thanks for the input!! Musta been crazy having it outta state, I'd be so nervous, well, I'd prolly just be nervous either way!

Talk to you soon!