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would you stay friends after being rejected?

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ameoba

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straightforward. Boys and girls, if you get rejected by a friend, would you keep being friends with them afterwards?

i'm currently in this situation but i don't really feel as heartbroken as i feel insecure about loosing his friendship because of it. :/
 
It happens all the time...it's actually happened to me far too many times....I've rejected the advances of three of my friends, and I consider one of them to be one of my best friends. Frankly, I don't think he ever totally got over it, but regardless, we're still really good friends. On the flip side, one of my good friends is someone who I really liked, but he's now dating my best friend. I can't say I've ever really gotten over that, and it wasn't even a direct rejection, but you try to get over it and move on. We're still very good friends. I'll echo rangrz - as painful as shit like that can be, you shouldn't let it ruin a good friendship. Yeah, things will be awkward for a bit, but you can work through it if you give it time.
 
It depends on how much you like them. If you have fallen head over heals for the person and you are going to be in agony every time you see them with another boyfriend then i wouldn't.
 
personally, no i wouldnt, but also i wouldnt put my neck on the line by asking and getting rejected, every relationship i have, is just 'developed' from being friends to spending time together, to kissing, shagging etc and after a couple of week they will say to me... "so are we together then? cuz it feels like it" and i tell em "yeh may as well be"
dont set yourself up for rejection mate it knocks you back too much! before i got with my current GF there was another girl i had always been friends with and for one reason or another we had never done more than kiss occasionally, but we wud always meet up and always be texting and calling. around xmas time she said she was out and it was boring and if i wanted to pick her up. so i did, driving round at night chatting and stuf, start kissing and before i know it, im on a backroad with her sucking me off! cuz we knew each other so well it wasnt weird or awkward at all! Well after then she had stayed at mine a few times and we had been fucking and we was getting on real well almost like bf and gf... then i started chatting to my new gf, and luckily the girl i had been shagging understood perfectly we cud easily talk bout me getting with this new girl and things. anyway we stop shagging and stuff but still chat sometimes, shes got a new guy and im so happy with my gf its unreal! but what im saying is dont just throw it out there! let things develop.
nothings more awkward that kinda being close to someone then popping the question, getting together but still hardly knowing the 'true side' to them that you only really see when your togther properly. it puts too much pressure on you both, suddenly meeting each others family and friends, and putting it up on facebook and having everyone comment, finding out some people you know have fucked her previously and stuff.... you need to know this before hand and just let things develop.
my gf now, we just got closer and closer, if i had found out something i hated along the way i would have just called it all off... but i didnt and we just let things build up more and more and now im so in love its crazy! iv NEVER felt like this! its like i feel more than love, love isnt a strong enough word! we are soul mates shes changed my whole life for the better and thats all from me meeting her once in oct 2010! and just talking and building it up!
 
LuGoJ said:
It depends on how much you like them. If you have fallen head over heals for the person and you are going to be in agony every time you see them with another boyfriend then i wouldn't.
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that's how i feel. if you were just making a pass and got shot down there's no reason to end a friendship. but if you've got strong feelings that would make things weird for you/your friend/your group, it's probably best to get a little distance while you get over it.
 
rangrz said:
I would. Because, fuck it, petty crap like that is not worth the loss of a friend imo. But my opinions on these kind of matters seem to be a dissent from the majority.
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this is exactly how i feel. yes, i did fall in love with him but to me it's just stupid to lose him as a friend because of that. for us, it wasn't awkward. we talked about it, cleared everything up, moved on. we're just too good of friends and we've gone through too much together to end our friendship for something stupid like that. i guess while talking to him about it i realized how much more important his friendship is to me than my silly crush
 
It depends there were a couple people who weren't interested in me and told me straightup and so we remained friends although it was a bit awkward.

One other chick who gave me a bullshit reason about me being her best friend (we NEVER hung out), I just didn't want to put up with her bull anymore.
 
lol. I'm a child. No I wouldn't "stay friends". Getting rejected throws off the dynamic and once the dynamic has shifted you can never really go back.

But then again, I don't have any friends from childhood or friends that I've known for a long time. My friends today are friends that I've met as an adult and hence really aren't my friends at all.
 
I've heard that about making friends early in life.

I guess a random pass isn't a biggy for me, because it is just a pass/feeler into new unexplored territory.

On the flip, I do not remain friends with people that are obviously flakes and not on the same page as me emotionally.

I have only remained friends with one ex. And that ex is at a full arms length all these years on.
 
rangrz said:
I would. Because, fuck it, petty crap like that is not worth the loss of a friend imo. But my opinions on these kind of matters seem to be a dissent from the majority.
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I'm the same way.

I rejected someone and they reacted in such a way that was so dramatic, childish, and puzzling to me at the time.

I figured it was their issue if they didn't want to stay friends and don't take rejection well even though they've dated, had relationships with, and been active with people for decades and had been rejected in the past.
 
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