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Would you make porn videos with your gf/bf?

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777xog

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Scenario: My girlfriend makes money on the side as a camgirl. She is very good at what she does, and I am completely cool with this in our relationship. I'm even developing her own website.

Now given that I have no moral qualms about any of this and I consider our relationship pretty secure, here's what's up: We've tossed around the idea of me getting in on the action. I am male, young 20s, about to graduate college. My only real concern is of the potential for blackmail and career troubles down the road. I'm a Marketing major with a strong background in web design/development, so I don't think I'm on a terribly morally sensitive career path. It could be really fun and a good way to make a lot of money.

Still, I'd like to hear some thoughts. :)
 
The porn industry is a business. It may even lend you a hand in web design for porn companies, if it were to have any affect on your career.

I say go for it.
 
I'd do it. Even if it comes back to haunt you, it's either 'something stupid you did when you were younger' or 'an internet sensation that you're proud of'.

I never understood the blackmail someone with naked pics of themselves. Everyone should be comfortable enough with themselves that seeing them naked is a non-issue.
 
Why not. I've made videos with girls for nothing, getting paid is preferable. You will need a porn name though, 777xog won't cut it
 
I've made porn before with my ex-husband. now, i'm into the kinky shit, not just regular sex. something to think about or ask yourself: are you going to be doing just straight up regular sex in these videos? or do you think you'll be moving toward more kinky, fetish-filled scenarios? it's something to keep in mind.

my ex threatened to blackmail me with videos that we had made together and with videos he obtained that i had made with an ex-boyfriend; to send them to everyone in my email address book and on my phone, etcetera. blackmail is always a very real possibility and it can be extremely damaging to your personal and professional life, depending on who sees the videos that you make and on the content of those videos.

consider your career choices for the future. now, i know hardly anybody really knows exactly what they will be doing when they're in their 30's or 40's, but if you do know, weigh out the consequences. it's always a plus to be doing porn with someone that you completely trust. always keep your own videos somewhere, like on a cloud with multiple passwords or maybe on an external hard drive. be careful who you sell it to. your best chances are to sell it yourself or maybe use something like clips-for-sale, where you can sell a few minutes at a time.. it always brings the customers back to view the rest of the videos. PLUS the clips keep selling!!

if you decide to get into kink, check out fetlife.com and kink.com. there's some great links to sites and it's very user-friendly.

i hope this helps. if you have anymore questions, please feel free to message me. and if you are going to the darker side of sex and choose to check out fetlife, definitely let me know.

traumerei
 
I say go for it. I think it's unlikely it'll come back to haunt you, but ofc you've gotta be aware you won't be able to take it back once they're filmed. Regarding blackmail - idk, as has been said that shouldn't be an issue if you're comfortable with yourself, which I assume you are if you're considering porn, even if only with your gf.
Blackmail will only work if this is something you think you'll be embarrassed about - and if the idea embarrasses you, probably best not to go through with it.
 
There is still a chance that it will come back to you, just FYI. I have a few friends who were fired from their jobs, disowned from their families, etc. for doing amateur porn. That being said, I know many more people who have not had any bad things happen because of it.

Just make sure you know what you're getting in to :)
 
OP, I've had lots of background checks including one from the FBI and one small one from google and nothing has bitten me in the ass yet. Google doesn't care that I'm on a drug forum as long as I don't throw around expletives and posts nudes there lol.

Anyway, IME, the worst that can happen is your coworkers find your stuff and it will get around the office. I've seen that happen but not to me. To find a job, they don't normally search your name to hire you except for a criminal and education background check. Not big companies anyway. I've seen coworkers or bosses get curious and search me out in their private time but its never been detrimental to my job.

If you're cool with coworkers finding stuff then fine. That's probably the most likely scenario.
 
Worse case scenario: he and his girlfriend have a bitter break up, and she posts nudes of him (and more) on beastiality sites.

This has happened to me.
 
here's a word or 2, from Bill Hicks, on marketing

If such a thing as nudie pics or sex videos is gonna fuck up your career, you career is not worth having, or rather if you fear you are going to have an issue doing this with this girlfriend, trust it your gut instinct and don't do it, and tell her why.

There's already been a "would you make a porno with your SO"thread, my brother...

But yes, have done it before, will do it again any chance I get. It's fucking great to share.

Don't be an asshole, and your porno will never affect your career, be a good person and it will not come back to bite you on the ass.
 
B1tO'RoughJack said:
If such a thing as nudie pics or sex videos is gonna fuck up your career, you career is not worth having
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Dude, I like and respect most of your posts but this bit is just plain wrong. Maybe you're young and naive about this stuff. Not everyone is ambitious, of course, but there are many great careers that public nude videos could mess up, including teacher, lawyer, doctor, entrepreneur, clergy, politics - basically, anything where people need to trust your professionalism or otherwise look up to you. People have personal lives and professional lives, and much of the time those two should not mix. When you have an image as being a leader or good at something, it messes with other peoples' heads to see you fucking. That's a line that only invited people should cross.
 
^ No no I considered everything you put up as an objection before I posted. I am very lateral thinking, but the people who look up to you should not look at you any different if they see a porno you did when you were 18, fuck it, a porno you did a year ago - no matter what your career. Everyone has sex, and people having a problem with "morals" in this circumstance, well it says more about problems with them than it does about your worthiness of their trust.

People need to accept that there is a line - the line is BUSINESS and PLEASURE - if a video of you fucking your wife got made public and it was normal sex, not violent, not degrading, just some good fucking, then you should not be held accountable in a negative light for what is natural, what is beautiful, and something which does absolutely nothing for ones professionalism - unless you make it your job to stamp out porn - then you deserve what you get - you're a hypocrite.

TEacher -
Lawyer -
Doctor -
Entrepeneur -
Clergy -
Politics -

NONE of this should be affected by healthy sex life, recorded on video.

You are right - professional life and personal lives shouldn't mix in many cases, doesn't mean that someone shouldn't be allowed a personal life just like any other.

All of this leading me to - if you have doubts about this - it is not a good idea with THIS girlfriend. You should consider that a reputation doesn't make your life or career any less valid - it just means that you need to be able to shake people talking shit about you off like it's dirt on ya shoulder.
 
^ I agree with you to a point. Where we differ is "should" vs. "will". You're right: a healthy sex life should not affect peoples' perception of you in your career. It wouldn't for me. I'm open minded, that's why I'm on BL. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people for whom sex is very personal and private. In my own moral system, I would post pics of myself in the nudie thread. But I won't do it, because of how others might perceive it. It sucks to have to consider morals you may disagree with and even despise when making personal choices, but I think you have to consider them unless you *know* you want to be an rebel/outsider/outcast, and most people don't know this with sufficient certainty to make decisions when young that they won't regret later.
 
There was a teacher recently who got fired because her students found her porn videos from 10 years past. They had been watching it, showing it to their little friends, and the parents found out. They reported it to the school and she got fired. It is something that can affect you. OP however said he is in marketing though, so maybe it'll will help his marketing career.

http://www.vcstar.com/news/2013/feb/22/oxnard-teacher-fired-for-performing-in-porn-to/
 
My girlfriend has worked the same job as your girlfriend in the past and we have made videos for customers. I will say you should expect these videos to be on the internet, in various forums and websites after you send them. Occasionally, you will send it to someone who is honestly using it for their own personal pleasure. But, there are sites that request models from cam sites and people get paid to find videos and record live cam sessions and post them publicly. Idk what company she works for... But, the leading web cam company IS pretty good about removing pictures and videos that are stolen. BUT, they can not do anything about videos you and your girlfriends send to them via website or email etc.

So the big question is, how would you feel if your surfing the internet one day and come across this video? How would you feel if friends, employers and family possibly can come across it?
 
Yeah a teacher is different. I don't see it hurting a marketing guy but who knows. My girlfriend who did porn hid it from people. She was afraid people would find it. She was marketing too.
 
@ B1tO', it's not 'cause it would really be lousy of anyone not to hire you because you've got a background in porn or whatever, that that suddenly means your career doesn't matter...I mean fuck, call me materialistic but I'd rather have a career I love, or at least one that allows me to live comfortably, than stand by my pride in my nude pics.
 
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