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Would you be offended as a woman

neoblazing

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My partner has voiced the opinion that she wanted the house cleaned for a few days so I woke up at 230am (I am a shift worker so usually at work) as it was my day off got out of bed had dinner and was speaking to my partner while I woke up because I planned on cleaning the house while everyone was asleep (was waking up to let her go to bed and I would look after our 4mth old) she complained she had a sore back so I offered to give her a message. After I gave her a message which led to sex, I got her off and decided because I tend to be too tired to do anything after I would forgo getting off so I had plenty of energy still, of course this led to an argument because she felt I should get off even though I wasn't worried. I am used to previous sexual partners not caring so wasn't worried if I didn't get off this once as I normally do. I can't understand why she cares because she is getting what she wanted in the first place.

Would you be offended if your partner did this even though you gain everything from the situation you have an orgasm, clean house and sleep? opinions please
 
morpher001 no I love sex just I figure if the house clean she has had sleep I get peace and quiet and in theory she should be happy as she get what she wanted (I get sex fairly often so whats one orgasm
 
Personally, no matter what is going on, I get a tiny bit upset if my bf does not orgasm. He always does. Maybe upset isn't the right word. But I want him to orgasm! In that situation, I might think of it as, he did all this (cleaned house, gave me an orgasm) and he doesn't even orgasm?!? As well, if you usually do, she might wonder what is wrong with her, why aren't you orgasm-ing now.
Just some ideas.
I think it's great that you did all that though.
 
llama112 I am used to my previous partners not caring so I taught myself not to care about my needs and just worry about theirs I went nearly 4 years without a orgasm and not by choice so the fact I get off every other time is fine by me I love sex as much as and horny 15 yr old just couldn't careless about my self anymore I enjoy whatever good I get (we have two kids so I got what I really wanted ether way). I tend to be more adventurous then she is because I am always trying to get better as to further please my partner, She keeps telling me to "give a shit about my needs" just cbf to learn to care about my self again.
 
I used to become concerned (in the early years of our relationship) if my husband did not get off as I wanted him to feel just as wonderful as I do after multiple orgasms. I have learned that fatigue is a big factor for men when it comes to orgasm and being taken care of without reciprocation is lovely.

If he cleaned the house, I would be concerned something was wrong with him ;)
 
First of all, 4 years man? I don't think anyone does that "not by choice". You always have a choice because you are a man with needs and hands and lotion. Unless you had some bizarre medical condition I don't see how that was anyone's fault but your own. You need to take control and stop letting other people get in your head. Your ol' lady is right about some things. You need to think about taking care of yourself a little bit more. I know you got family and responsibilities and shit, but at the end of the day you gotta be doing all that shit because it makes you feel good, and know when to step back and take some personal time if it isn't making you feel good.

With that said, I understand that a job well done is its own reward. Doing right by your girl IS satisfying. If she came and is ready to go to sleep and you don't care, I say it is acceptable to fake it. You wouldn't be the first man to fake one(source).

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Clearly, a man who has faked orgasms.

Okay, enough fuck'n with the ladies heads. Thank you ladies. My real point is that this particular incident is not a big deal, and shouldn't be. It does seem to be an example of a tendency toward self sacrifice that may not be entirely healthy. I understand what it is to gain happiness from making others happy, but then you become for too dependent on them for emotional stability. Self love really needs to come first, and perhaps last. Good luck.
 
Artic I understand where your coming from with the past that's why I ended that situation and found someone that cares, though I should clarify I meant getting of though sex I did get off though masturbation but doesn't feel any where near as good. I get plenty of loving now so that's the reason why once in s blue moon doesn't bother me anymore as 2-3 times a week I get off (makes a big change and we have lots of fun when we do). That beening said I do care whether I get off but I tend to be more interested in my wife getting off first as I enjoy that just as much because it gives me s great sense of satisfaction when she enjoys it what can I say I like to know I did a good job :).
 
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