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would/did you keep you married name after divorce?

My mum divorced 20 years ago and still carries my fathers surname. Ditto my ex wife who I divorced 7 years ago. Both say they want to keep the same name as their children.

My second wife and I are debating both changing our surname to something completely different. Dr & Mrs Dynamite has a cool ring to it
 
animal_cookie said:
and looking back, keeping my last name made it a hell of a lot easier when we split up :)
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hollah, sistah. Never changed mine. It's so much easier. If I changed it, I never would have changed it back. Too much hassle. I thought it was a dumb tradition when I have to go through the hassle of changing a bunch of bullshit documents.
 
My ex, who I guess is now my gf again, says she wants to get married.

She says she wants my last name and to have babies.

The divorces in this thread scare me, though.
 
I don't see the big deal about a last name. It's a hassle for a girl to do, so I just say keep your own and make it easy. I dunno. Some people think it's weird. I came across a lot of it when I was married but it was really easy during a divorce. lol Health insurance companies were the worst. They wanted proof of marriage.
 
Either way wouldn't bother me. I just don't want a lame hyphen name.

If we buy a house, which we are discussing, I don't think it would have much bearing.

I guess if we got divorced, she could theoretically take the house. Better start pumping out those babies.
 
A friend of mine hyphenated his name. when he married. He changed it by deed poll before the wedding so that his wife would have the same hyphenated name.

He didn't like his (very common) surname & when they divorced, he took her more distinctive name. & that was 45 years ago.
 
Given I have very little connection with my family, if/when I get married id take his last name, no hyphen. I don't intend to ever be divorced, but if we were, id keep or change back my last name depending on if we had children. My mom never took my dads last name, and my dad tried to kill me and I hate him. I hated growing up with his last name and the fact my moms last name was different made it even worse. Since it meant my last name belonged to someone I hated and wasn't even the same as the only parent involved in my life. Made everything awkward. Eventually I changed my last name to my moms last name soon as I was old enough too.

I'd never put my kids through that, so, if I had kids, no matter what I'm having the same last name as them. And I plan to make sure their father is a man who wants kids unlike the mistake my mom made. And I my choice would be for all of us, me, our kids, to all have his last name. That way my kids can have the cohesive family I never had.
 
I took his name as I liked the sound of it. I don't have to spell it for people and I can find my name on a roster quickly. I kept my married surname after divorce. I like it better and it is who I am today. I don't connect it with my ex-husband. After supporting him financially for a decade, I bought the rights. In addition, I did not want to go throught the cost and inconvenience of changing it back (US immigration, Canadian passport, driver's licence, social security, professional associations)
 
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