Worried sick about someone and there is fuck all i can really do

[paranoid android]

Okay it's not often i make threads but here goes. A very dear friend of mine has been sick for a long time and the doctors are clueless as to what is wrong with her. She is holding up alot better then most would as she is alot tougher then she gives herself credit for but i am really afraid that she has finally given up. She started abusing opiates today for the first time in months today and she took a huge shot. Im afraid someone is going to find her dead in her bed some morning from a OD and that would break my fucking heart.

Bu6t what can i do? Im not up there and i can't seem to get through to her much at all despite how hard i try. I feel totally useless less then fucking useless as a matter of fact. But what can i do? This is taking a toal on me too but no way am i giving up on this person.

I guess im just venting more then anything else but i am looking for support in my own way.

 

[n3ophy7e]

Mate I am so sorry to hear about this. It is a really tough one because you're right, there's not a lot you can do
Does she have any friends or family who you can contact to see if they can check on her?

Sending all my love and good vibes to you, and to her

 

[paranoid android]

Sadly her family is made up of abunch of useless twats. Her so called friends arent doing much either mind you. With friends like hers who needs fucking enemies 8) . Ive stuck with her through thick and thin (mostly think) so i would never give up on her. Now she is blaming herself even though it's totally fucking illogical.

Alot of good i am either. A few hundred miles away and trying to calm myself down by eating pills and smoking more weed then i can keep track of. Fuck sakes

 

[Lysis]

Does she live alone? Maybe call her house?

 

[sid3]

Can you take a road trip, maybe that would help her spirits.

 

[unsettled]

Sounds like a difficult situation, I know it's none of my business so no need to answer, but is this a romantic relationship or just a friend, and is there any hope for her getting well? I mean is she getting worse or just staying sick?

Anyway, I empathize with your predicament, it's hard when someone you care about is going through something like this and there is nothing that you can do to help.

I can relate somewhat, my ex-girlfriend has hep c and has been going through the interferon treatment and is extremely sick, can't even leave the house. I still talk to her often on the phone and through email but somedays she is too weak to even get out of bed. Even though she is my ex we are still close and it is hard for me to watch her go through this and not be able to help in anyway, if anything happens to her I'll be broken for sure. My ex was a heroin addict for many years but now she's on subs, if she started abusing heroin again on top of this I couldn't imagine how concerned I'd be.

I can definitely relate to the feeling of helplessness and the fear of them doing something destructive because they feel it's hopeless.

Anyway, I hope things improve, I don't know what you can do other than be there for her when she needs you and try and take care of yourself.

Wish you both the best of luck.

 

[Draigan]

check me on msn bro.

 

[paranoid android]

Sounds like a difficult situation, I know it's none of my business so no need to answer, but is this a romantic relationship or just a friend, and is there any hope for her getting well? I mean is she getting worse or just staying sick?

Anyway, I empathize with your predicament, it's hard when someone you care about is going through something like this and there is nothing that you can do to help.

I can relate somewhat, my ex-girlfriend has hep c and has been going through the interferon treatment and is extremely sick, can't even leave the house. I still talk to her often on the phone and through email but somedays she is too weak to even get out of bed. Even though she is my ex we are still close and it is hard for me to watch her go through this and not be able to help in anyway, if anything happens to her I'll be broken for sure. My ex was a heroin addict for many years but now she's on subs, if she started abusing heroin again on top of this I couldn't imagine how concerned I'd be.

I can definitely relate to the feeling of helplessness and the fear of them doing something destructive because they feel it's hopeless.

Anyway, I hope things improve, I don't know what you can do other than be there for her when she needs you and try and take care of yourself.

Wish you both the best of luck.

Well it is both a romantic relationship and we have been friends for ages so it's kinda complicated as is everything else right now. I lived with her for awile so yeah i love the girl and i have to admit i feel guilty about leaving her and coming home. Granted i was so sick myself before i came home that i was almost on deaths door quite litterally. But it still does not make me feel any less guilty about it.

The doctors in the paticular place that she lives in are beyond fucking useless. I should know as i tried to get treated for pneumonia there and they said i was fine . Fucking idiots.

She has been having bad stomach problems ever since i left basically which was the spring so it's been a long ass time now. The doctors are barely running any tests and have been treating her like shit due to the fact that she has mental health issues. Unfortunatly in many places if you have any mental illness they tend to think any physical illness is all in your head and such is the case here. I would probably throw one of those doctors out a fucking window if they said it was all in her head and i was there. One thing i don't take kindly to is anyone treating a loved one of mine like shit

I did end up talking to her last night for 3 hours or so and she sounded pretty good then but it's often hard to tell if she is feeling better or if shes just putting on a act so as to not worry me. I did kinda freak out last night for abit but once i got talking to her and everything i felt better myself and i managed to cheer her up a good bit. She said she wished i was with her and fuck knows i wished that too.

For now as long as she does not give up hope that is something atleast and with any luck they may start taking her seriously.

Thanks for all your kind words by the way

 

[carrion Doll]

can you get her to come where you are? and would she be able to stay with or near you? if it means her life?

if not, then you are already doing all you can, not giving up and being there for her. maybe, if you can manage it, go to her at least long enough to speak with her doctors. sounds like she needs an advocate. makes me sick how the mentally ill are treated, especially since i have my fair share of mental illness and have seen first hand how badly people can be treated. she really needs someone to have her back and get to these doctors. maybe it won't do any good, but it won't hurt to try...

 

[epiks]

Can you take a road trip, maybe that would help her spirits.

I second that. It may cheer her up enough to where she doesn't think she needs opiates. Plus then you could further talk to her. I personally think face to face talks are a lot more sincere than just msn chats or phone conversations. Just my .02

I will most definitely keep your friend in my prayers..And you as well because it seems as you are having a very rough time as well.