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Question of the Week With Whom Are You Currently Having Sex?

Nocturnal emissions, when the body/mind does it all automatically so to prevent the machine from going rusty.
 
I cannot, for the life of me, understand why anyone would want to know, care about, or ask if and with whom any other person is having sex with. What's the net benefit of knowing that or sharing that? Benefit for the inquisitor? Benefit of those sharing that information?
 
The Shadow Self said:
I cannot, for the life of me, understand why anyone would want to know, care about, or ask if and with whom any other person is having sex with. What's the net benefit of knowing that or sharing that? Benefit for the inquisitor? Benefit of those sharing that information?
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I believe it comes from a normal human behaviour/interest...knowing and comparing your peers to you, op may be worried he/she is not getting enough sex or he/she is getting too much. :LOL:
 
The Shadow Self said:
I cannot, for the life of me, understand why anyone would want to know, care about, or ask if and with whom any other person is having sex with. What's the net benefit of knowing that or sharing that? Benefit for the inquisitor? Benefit of those sharing that information?
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TBF you could say that about 90% of questions people ask each other.
 
Well, there is a thing called a boundary. I know, a foreign concept in a rather boundary-less world. Call me crazy, but I figured all that out on my own without ever asking anyone. Revolutionary idea, right...lol. So, if I find out that there is a "too much" or "too little", that I should modify what I am or am not doing based on feedback from others as it pertains to my sexual activity?

Maybe I simply have no interest in comparing myself to others or knowing their sexual habits because it doesn't concern me in any way, shape or form.

“Comparison Is the Thief of Joy.”
Teddy Roosevelt
 
ChemicallyEnhanced said:
TBF you could say that about 90% of questions people ask each other.
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However true that may be to some, if true at all, and I don't know who people are hanging out with, but I have been kicking around this world for a long time and that's never been true for me. But I am only one person and only speaking for myself.
 
The Shadow Self said:
I cannot, for the life of me, understand why anyone would want to know, care about, or ask if and with whom any other person is having sex with. What's the net benefit of knowing that or sharing that? Benefit for the inquisitor? Benefit of those sharing that information?
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Because, as long as those involved in the talks are consenting, sex is fun and fun to talk about! It can also be important to discuss, educational, insightful, reassuring. Our lives ebb and flow, as do our relationships, needs, and interests. Then again, I’m a communicator, it’s the solar plexus of my personality. Those that are not so much needn’t pay it no mind. ;)
 
And, almost exactly 3 years into a committed relationship with my partner-both of us are still utterly hot for each other. Yay! Despite my hormonal developments, my libido remains unaffected, and none of the potential physical issues of lowering estrogen (think Sahara 🙀) have arisen, praise the Goddesses! It’s pretty, pretty, pretty good over here. I’m thoroughly grateful.

Prior to the random and unexpected start of this relationship, I had been in a self imposed 4 year nunhood. Situational stress was unprecedented-it was all I could do to keep my sanity and get through the days. I wholeheartedly believed I would remain single for the foreseeable future and beyond. I was embracing of that, I’m independent (emotionally and financially), comfortable being alone-rather love it. Relationships take a lot of energy and work. Not only was I not looking, I was actively NOT looking. Lol Then poof, life turned on a dime. It does that sometimes, changes in an instant. Wild.
 
The Shadow Self said:
However true that may be to some, if true at all, and I don't know who people are hanging out with, but I have been kicking around this world for a long time and that's never been true for me. But I am only one person and only speaking for myself.
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Just my opinion/observation, but I think often when people are making small talk or just making general conversation, they ask questions to fill an awkward silence, or kinda for the sake of talking, rather than actually caring about the persons answer. Or - on a maybe more positive note - asking follow-up questions to something someone said in order to be polite.

One of my favourite compliments I ever got was a friend said he liked talking to me because "we I talk, I always feel like you're actually listening...with most people, they aren't; they're just waiting for their turn to speak" - I hadn't really noticed people doing that before, but when I started paying attention to whether he was right about people...I kinda found he was (about people usually just waiting their turn to talk).
 
Dreamflyer said:
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My sex drive is still as strong as always, but after a few bad relationships (getting cheated on, etc.) I just have no interest in dating right now. I have my crushes on a couple of women that I admire from afar, but that's as far as it goes. Maybe I'll meet the right woman someday, but right now I'm happily single! :)
 
Fiori di Bella said:
With whom are you currently having sex?

A wife or husband?
A committed partner?
A friend with benefits?
A friend with whom you didn’t know you had benefits?
A masseuse?
An escort?
By yourself?
Other?
Or are you not currently engaged in any sexual activity with anyone?
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A committed partner
 
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