Will never date another user/junkie again

ElvisPillsley

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Hindsight tells me I was a fool in many respects, not the least of which is that I didn't clearly foresee that dating a good looking girl with a dope habit would be basically non-stop trouble and worry.

Other than her, all my exes only went so far as smoking weed, maybe occasionally taking a pill, but none were close to having habits of any type. Well, the one who we'll call Ariel I met at a strip club and initially we were just friends with benefits. I had no desire for anything more especially after she showed that she was a pretty shady untrustworthy person. Well, over time we got closer and she stopped dancing and I came to believe it when she said she wasn't the typical stripper and all that.

Eventually we started dating and I came to really care about her. We had a lot of fun together, but there was probably an equal amount of worry and suspicion. She had a serious habit and terrible sickness that I wonder how far she would go to avoid. When we were getting close, but before dating, she would occasionally blow me for pills, but I figured it was more of a hook up and me sharing than prostitution because we did sexual things all the time. Once we were serious, things that worried me kept coming one after another. An example: her friend Jim who was old enough to be her dad, who I sincerely believed was a good soul who was looking out for her, especially since she lost her dad recently. Ariel told me they met at an AA meeting, in reality they met at the club when she was dancing. Anyway, he would send her Western Union money orders numerous times monthly and once while Ariel and I were at her house he messaged her saying he was in town and would like to see her. I went along to meet him, and then they went off while I went to a bar to wait. 45 minutes later she came back with about $90 to give me toward the fortune she owed me. Her story was that he just helped her out with money and basically just liked talking with her... likely story huh?

Another guy she knew would "give her" his klonopin rx monthly and she said that she'd help sell them but never seemed to sell any, and when he messaged her on my phone he was very clear that he was interested in sleeping with her.

One time I was going to pick her up from school, but about 20 minutes after I agreed to do that she called saying not to because she and her girlfriend were going to go clean someone's house for money - which is an odd thing to have occur out of the blue like that.

Her mother often kicked her out of the house causing her to sleep at whoever would have her - understandably making me uncomfortable.

The list goes on and on... I do believe she did some prostituting to get her fix, there really isn't any other option because working a minimum wage job for 8 hours at a time really doesn't jive with how she lived.

She told me I was the only man who was ever truly good to her, cared about her as a person and etc. Apparently she wants to be treated like shit and beaten up, and I hope she gets just what she wants, she deserves it.

No more junkie girlfriends.
 
This girl sounds like a hustler, but not all women addicts are like that. I really can't blame you for feeling used and not wanting to date junkies. When I was in active addiction, I had a friend who was always broke and scheming for dope money. Since we used together, I've seen this woman do some things that turned my stomach. It's really sad to see what some people will do for drugs but that seems to come with the territory.
 
I've never traded sex for drugs either, I have been offered 'free' drugs before, I generally don't make a habit of accepting them though, in case they have different ideas about what 'free' means, but against better judgement I have on occasion. So far it hasn't come back to burn me. I've also been in a sexual relationship where at least an element of it was to my advantage in not having to live on the street. Even with best intentions though I won't deny that where addiction goes chaos goes with it. I can't imagine it's very easy being my boyfriend. I doubt any sane normal healthy person would put up with me in the long term.
 
i had a relationship with a hooker too.

when we first met she didn't do it but when we developed a serious cocaine i.v. addiction she began to work on the streets. i really tried everything to get her to stop, i even began to support her habit (as well as my own habit) with stealing and fraud.
she didn't stop and she even seemed to enjoy it. like as if she needed men to pay for her in order to be confident with herself. sometimes she happily told me about it in detail and she didn't even realize how she hurt me. she was sexually abused as a child.

friends of me discovered that there were forums on the net where her customers recommended her... i felt devastated.

eventually i cut all ties to her in order to gain distance... she still tries to contanct me from time to time. I'll never date another junkie. a lesson learnt, is a lesson lived
 
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