Wife relapsed.. Im scared

SececaRD

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Well I went on vacation for four days. When I returned I found out that my wife has been using OXYs and other pills. Shes been lieing to me for a while now. Now shes back in rehab for 90 days.

They are letting her keep her job, so she is able to leave during the day. Im scared that she is gonna jet and Im never gonna see her again.


I need some advice, and some words of encouragement.


Thanks friends,
Sean
 
hi sean, from what i c you are a very supportive husband and i respect that very as much as its also a very nice move by your wife to be willing to go to rehab so hopefully in 90 days u guys will b happy again!!!!!
 
All you can do is be there to encourage and support her.
Remind her of her reasons for being sober, in a calm and kind way- Remind her of her son, as well, as I imagine that is good motivation.
It is up to her whether she will complete the program or if she will run- all you can do is be there for her.
Lots of Luck.
Hope things work out for you guys.
 
Good luck man, I hope she sticks it out and finishes the program. Sounds like your a supportive husband that understands the disease of addiction. Hopefully this will be the treatment that works and you won't have to be in this situation again.
 
Wow, good luck. I wish you the best. All you can do is be there for her and talk to her. I can't imagine going through this. But my heart goes out to you and your family.
 
Blessings to you and your wife, Sean - and don't let this affect your (substantial) progress with your own clean time. You're a good man for not running out on the person you love. <3
 
Thanks Mariposa!!

Please pray for us we need it. I saw her today for a few mins. I actually work at the rehab shes in. She seems ok but shes mad at me for making her go back to rehab, and not letting her stay here at home. Man she was lieing to me for a month.. Full of lies!!

Thanks for the prayers!!
Sean
 
Sean,

I'm sorry to hear about this situation. I will say that unless you two are literally attached at the hip, you didn't completely make her go back to rehab. She always had the choice of just not doing it and saying "Well Sean will have to deal with it or leave." But she did not, and that's a sign that she loves you and deep down knows that it's for the best.

Is she as religious as you are? If she is, I wouldn't use this as a tool to keep her in-line. If you were to say things to her about how oxys are sinful and taking them is committing sins, it would probably just make her feel bad for sinning and want to do more to escape those bad feelings. You can remind her that Christ loves her and is there supporting her as she gets through rehab, sure.

And on that note, to yourself - Forgive the sinner, not the sin. If you want to keep your family together, you need to forgive her for lying to you (or probably more so "witholding information"). Even if she's not showing much remorse yet. Drugs make people act different from how they typically would. My guess is that if she does complete rehab and stays clean, she'll apologise to you or something similar.

Just keep your attitude and outlook up, and take care of your son. Be there for your wife, but don't be too pressuring. Give her the benefit of the doubt here and now. :)

I hope it all works out for you, her and your family!
 
Hi Sean. Sorry to hear about this... like the others have said, I can only recommend that you support and encourage your wife to continue her recovery. If she loves you, I doubt she'll just pack up and leave. I wish you and her all the best. <3
 
Wow Sean, I'm so sorry to hear this :(
I am sure she will be just fine though, she will get clean again. With your love and support she can do anything.
Good luck, and keep us updated <3
 
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