Wife does not like oral sex... Help & Advice needed?!?

[valeriacan]

Friends,
My wife does like "receiving" oral sex.
She claims and finds excuses such as it is not hygenic, nice, hurts etc. sort of stuff.
What can i do about it to convince her to try it a few times so that she can see my point. I mean there can't be a female that would not like it.
Foreplay is literally half of the sex. Yes most of the times I do getting directly to the intercourse without wasting time but I am really missing the foreplay as well.
Any advice or ideas most welcome.
Regards...

 

[anniegram]

Not all women enjoy receiving oral. Stop trying to convince her to do it. I'm sure you wouldn't like being pressured into a sex act that you found uncomfortable or that you didn't enjoy. Continuing to press the issue will only lead her resent you.

 

[Cevain]

I'm in the same situation but when she lets me she does enjoy it alot. It has a lot to do with insecurities I guess... Like she thinks she smells bad and it doesn't matter what I say she doesnt believe it... I don't know, don't force it but show her that you really want it so bad? And be gentle when you do it if she says it hurts.

 

[Corazon]

communication...
try to find a toy she really enjoys if she doesn't have one already...

If she hates it, and even then isn't willing to let you do it for your own enjoyment, there isn't much you can do.

If on the other hand, she's simply inexperienced with it, try a toy, try communicating about technique

 

[Black Rabbit of Inle]

Foreplay is all about making your partner comfortable and relaxed, if she doesn't like oral then just talk to her about alternative things you can do to pleasure her. If it's a hygeine thing then start in a shower/bath and clean each other so that she can be satisfied that it's not dirty.

What can i do about it to convince her to try it a few times so that she can see my point. I mean there can't be a female that would not like it.

There is nothing you can do to 'convince' her, and yes, there are women who dislike having someone put their face between their legs. Oral is not the be-all and end-all of foreplay. Communication and compromise is key here.

 

[Beachcat]

Have you ever done it with her? Has she ever had it done to her by anyone? I would see if maybe you could have an open conversation with her about it. I only enjoy it if the person giving it is a)good at it and b) I have to know they enjoy giving it.

For example, my husband is really not that into it, so I prefer not for him to do it out of obligation. It makes me tense and not enjoy it. The best is when the man lets you know that he finds it to be a turn on.

It is entirely possible that she just does not enjoy it..not everyone likes the same things. I say talk to her and try to find out what it is that is causing her to not want to do it.

 

[Teabag Johnny]

This one is simple... You never ask to give her oral sex.. Communication is definitely not a key factor here.

When you're giving her a body massage and kissing up and down her body, and she's really turned on... I'm sure she'll have no problem you going down on her.... At least not going down and giving her a kiss or a lick then back up. You keep doing this and teasing her, she is not going to care.. Now, if you don't have any foreplay skills; then that's another story.

You know, she could be insecure about what she taste or smells like that down there & she could be making excuses to protect herself from embarrassment. BUT like I said, if you're driving her up the wall... She's not going to care anymore. She'll definitely welcome you to the jungle.

 

[Teabag Johnny]

She might not like her clit being sucked on or licked on too hard, but I'm sure she wouldn't mind if you just went down a little & gave her a kiss or whatever.

I feel Annie Graham coming on to this one :D

 

[421]

Try a different ROA for this drug; inhalation instead of sublingual. I imagine it would give you similar psychotropic effects without making her feel (as) uncomfortable. If all else fails raid the laundry hamper for some dirty panties.

 

[baggerr]

Get another wife, you have the wrong one

 

[masaz]

Not all women enjoy receiving oral. Stop trying to convince her to do it. I'm sure you wouldn't like being pressured into a sex act that you found uncomfortable or that you didn't enjoy. Continuing to press the issue will only lead her resent you.

Yeah pretty much. My partner doesn't like it, I've never pushed the issue as she does it to me, just assumed she's had a bad experience before or it doesn't do anything for her. A lot of it, ime, has to do with feeling anxious you're taking too long to come, that the person doing it is getting bored, the expectation it has to make you come etc etc