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Why would she give me her # if she didn't want to chat?

Vaportrails

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I'm in a bit of a curious spot right now. A girl who works at a local sports facility and who I've had quite a few flirtations and conversations with, gave me her number on Thursday night. I didn't exactly ask for it either, I simply said, "How is it that we're not at least Facebook friends?" and she explained that she isn't into Facebook and instead said I could text her. I then gave her my phone and she put her digits in. Seems complicit enough on her end.

So I didn't text her that night because I was busy, but the following evening I simply said, "Hey xxx, this is xxxx, hope your evening is going well" and got no reply. I didn't fret too much, figuring it was Friday night, maybe she was working or was busy. Well when I didn't get a text back today, I figure she's either ignoring me or maybe something is up with her phone. I don't think she gave me the wrong number because we see each other a couple times a week, and I know enough of her friends that I think that would be a pretty stupid/awkward move on her part.

So anyways, I texted her again today saying, "Hey, just making sure I have the right # and not texting into the void" hoping that she would at least have the decency to say, 'sorry been busy' or something. Still no response. So now I'm feeling pretty stupid for putting myself out there, getting what I thought was a positive cue, and being left to fall flat on my face.

Now I'm probably going to see her tomorrow and I will pretend like it's nothing (as any man should do) but inside I will be holding in my disappointment.

Can anyone think why a girl might do this?
 
Just make a joke about the situation. not much else you can do. She sounds wierd lol.
 
I think maybe I'm too invested to joke about it at this point, or at least I don't know if I have the courage to play it off. I'm sure there are lots of swinging dicks who could, but I'm not one of them. I won't sulk about it and I'll put on a brave face, but I'm not going to go over the top to control the situation. Not my style. I'm more about meeting people half-way.
 
You have to confront her. Not in a mean way obviously, but even if this was a guy friend you'd be pissed if he said "text me" then ignored all your texts.
 
Some people are just really bad about replying to messages in any kind of timely manner. I wouldn't read too much into it, she'll get back to you eventually.
 
rid yourself of your attachment. You barely know her. You sound emotionally needy...coming from someone in later stages of recovery.

If you just let go, do your thing, she will come, whereas if you act like you are with us, when you're around her - your chances are FUCKED.
 
I know that for me if I get busy I sometimes forget to text or don't see the text for a day. Don't read too much into it.
 
Maybe she typed the number in wrong? I've done that before. Oops.
Or maybe she lost her phone, you never know.
When you see her, let her know that you texted her, ask if she got them.
 
Yup, she might just have gotten a digit wrong by accident. Or she might be busy, or just be one of those people who answer texts a week later. Don't read into it, see how it goes when you see each other again.
 
Maybe she's got no credit on her phone?

Totally forgot about that! Good call. Most people have unlimited texting these days. But I have one good friend who doesn't. And my sister, I have been trying to text her for the past three days, she does not reply to me, her phone is having problems. She did send me an email to tell me her phone isn't working. but if this girl has no other way to contact you, or doesn't think you were texting her, then she can't do that.
 
Just ask her about it...there are a million reasons it could just be something totally innocent as mentioned above. I only answer my phone like 1% of the time, and sometimes I don't answer text messages for days; some people are just shit at using their phones in the intended manner. :p
 
Man cellphones have been in everyone's pockets for a decade and already all of humanity's reproduction entirely revolves around it. Terminator, here we come

As a guy, this frustrates the fuck out of me. It is one thing to be busy or not by your phone and miss a text, but sometimes it's incredibly obvious the "hard to get" card has been played

As hard as it is not to, speculating and worrying get you nowhere, and as a "needy" person myself, I do it all the time. Wait till you see her in person, talk face to face, and if she isn't into it she isn't, and if she is, she is
 
It's a text, and it's around the holiday season.

Did you try calling her? I don't text at all but I do talk on the phone and I do return calls to people who I know. I've completely disabled texting on my phone and I know other people who don't text at all.
 
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A lot of women are indirect. When my ex was done with me, I think she expected me to dump myself... She didn't want to deal with the conflict of being direct.
 
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Its impossible for us to know whats going on.

She could be in a place where she doesn't have service, or is otherwise unable to respond.

She could be playing hard to get

She could just not be into you.

Either way you wont be doing yourself any favors by constantly texting her without responses. Coming across as needy at the outset of a relationship is not good. If you see her in real life I would not start off the conversation by asking her why she didnt text you back. Act like everything is normal at first then mention that you text her and never got a response if youre getting good cues from her. Thats what I would do anyways.

Im actually dealing with a somewhat similar situation. The girl ive been talking to hasn't text me back in a couple days. More than likely its because she is doing family stuff over the holidays, but it still bugs me when I ask her a question through a text and I dont get a response in 2+ days. I want to text her again but Im just gonna play it off like its no big deal. Its frustrating to me because I know if I like a girl im always ready to spend a couple seconds texting her back.
 
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some phones have a "blacklist" option for texts and phone calls. I used to have mine set to block all calls and texts from people not in my contacts.
 
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