My standards aren't that high. I like people who are attractive to me and somewhat interesting personality wise, although that last part isn't that important. They should listen when I say something and I should want to listen to them. They should take care of themselves, not smell badly, have decent physical health. This is what I call mutual goals. Then we'll see if we want to be in a relationship
So I can now see that it’s 100% about you being attracted to a woman physically. You say she ought to be
somewhat interesting personality wise, though some of your earlier comments appear to dismiss this. And let’s keep it real—it’s not like you’re great boyfriend material anyway, as you appear to be avoiding all emotional connections with women, other than with relatives perhaps.
The term you used,
mutual goals means, for I’d guess 99% of people, wanting to reach shared milestones, such as going on holiday together or moving in to a home as a couple.
What you have described as
mutual goals are known as ADLs, or Activities of Daily Living. ADLs are a set of basic skills and functions, which include but are not limited to maintaining hygiene, seeking necessary medical care, and interacting with others as needed, that one who is an independent person should be able to complete daily. ADLs have been determined to be vital to maintaining a healthy self mentally and physically. When ADLs are not being met, occupational therapists are often called for assistance to help a patient become independent again.
It sounds to me like you are looking for a thin girl who doesn’t have a boyfriend, who will listen to you and who is independent enough to complete her basic ADLs. She should be very easy to find. But there is that elusive trait you find oh so attractive that you haven’t been able to really articulate to us, that
je ne sais quoi physical quality, and I think until you stop with all of this rumination, you will be alone.
