why does humanity seriously fucking SUCK ASS?

I've made almost no money all week. Tuesday I made $27, Wednesday $94, and Thursday $62 (after working 9 hour shifts). Weekday shifts last week was work, one night $0, one $2, one $10. I have worked my ass off every night, talking to every single guy that walks through the door, getting rejected over and over again... and every night I dance on average about 10-12 times on stage and ONCE I got tipped $2.

All the managers and DJs know I haven't made shit because they all look at how many dances you've done every night. But I have not stiffed them in tips, I've still overtipped the ones I normally do and tipped a little over the average for everyone else. I went to work tonight hoping/praying I was going to make $ because Fridays and Saturdays are the days I can expect it to be busy. I get to work and get some HORRIBLE fucking dances off this guy who comes in every couple weeks, he got angry at me for not being completely naked immidietly and then wouldn't even let ME dance, just grabbed me and was like throwing me around and bouncing me on his crotch I felt like a doll... then I go and start working the room. Nobody wants to buy dances (of course) but everyone is buying me drinks so I sat for a while with a few guys. Surprisingly I go on stage and one of the guys I'd been talking to walks by and throws a wad of ones at me. The second time he throws another and a second guy does as well. Then two of my regulars came in so I got good $ from them onstage and more from the second guy. This NEVER happens. Most of the time I go on stage and no one is even looking at me let alone tipping. Guys do not give a fuck about stage dancing anymore, $10 is GOOD for a stage dance. So it always feels like a fucking waste of my time, and half the time I get called up when I'm talking to a customer and so lose potential $...

The first guy who tipped me didn't tip anyone else on stage )) but the other guy was tipping most girls good $. He didn't want to buy dances he just wanted to stage tip, but he was buying drinks so the club was making $. However the bouncers and the DJs were getting pissed because they only make their tips if girls get dances, everything we make on stage is hours. I was hanging out with the guys friends who was tipping and talking to him when he went back and forth from the stage (we're not allowed to talk to the guys if they're at the stage). He kept telling me he wanted to hear this particular song played and he was going to tip the girl who danced to it a ton of $ but the DJ wouldn't play it. I went over to the DJ and asked him to play it for my set (we always request our music) and he told me no, he would only play it if I got the guy to do a lap dance. I asked him if he would make it a long song and he said no. At this point there were four more girls ahead of me and the guy hung out at the stage the rest of the night so I couldn't try and sell him the dance.

I'm waiting to go on stage because of course my regulars and the first guy who tipped me dont want to buy dances they just want to tip me on stage (this was very fucking weird, has never happened to me before). They probably asked me about 6 times when I was going on. I keep getting up and walking over to look at the rotation, but the DJ was skipping me repeatly and giving me pissed off looks because I wasn't getting dances.

I did not go up for the rest of the night. My regulars were getting annoyed because it was almost four and they had been waiting at least an hour for me to go onstage. They told my friend/other stripper who they also come to see they wanted to tip me $30 so could she tell the DJ to put me onstage soon. The DJ told her no, the stage was closed for the night (I literally went up SEVEN times to see if I could dance and had been waiting over an hour!). While she's asking the DJ this drunk guy comes in, grabs me and pulls me over to the bar with him and has his arms wrapped around me and keeps telling me "you're perfect you're beautiful you're the best girl here." I ask him if he wants a dance and he says yes but he wants to buy me a drink first. While I'm waiting for the drink another girl comes up and while his arms are WRAPPED AROUND ME asks him to dance with her. He shakes his head and says no and she keeps asking him, he tells her "no no no! I don't want to dance with you she is much more beautiful (pointing to me)." I'm giving her the fucking evil eye because this is SO fucked up (you do not talk to guys when they are with another girl, ever) and she looks at me, annoyed and grabs the guys face and shoves it in her boobs, still trying to get him to dance with her. He tells her "stop it! you are not a pretty girl I don't want dance." She glares at him and storms off, I wanted to fucking kick that bitch in the face...

Five minutes goes by and I can tell this guy is too drunk and broke and wasting my time, so I tell him I need to go to the DJ booth unless he wants to buy a dance. He tells me no, don't go, I told him I have to go and try to walk away and he grabs me and won't let me go. I told him "I am going to be fired if I don't go over there" and he pushes me against the bar. I try to shove my way out and he is still grabbing me and then lets me go. I am wearing 7 inch heels and fall over. I look at the bouncer because its his fucking JOB to be protecting me and he saw the whole thing and just gives me a "I don't give a fuck look."

My friend tells me to talk to the DJ because he won't put me up and the guys want to tip me the $30. I walk over to the DJ booth and before I can even open my mouth he starts yelling at me to go ask the bouncer if I can go up because the stage is closed (another girl was dancing still) and I can't go up. I'm confused as to why I'm supposed to ask a bouncer and not the manager, and he yelled and cursed at me. I go find the bouncer and he tells me no I can't go up. I'm fucking pissed because I have been waiting this whole fucking time to go up and the DJ has known it... I told the bouncer they really wanted to see me dance and were going to tip, can I please go up. He says no. So I told him they were going to tip me $30 and I'll give him $5 from it. He says Ok you can go up. I go up and dance half the set and my regulars are tipping. Some other random guy comes up and has a thick fucking stack of ones in his hand and is laying $ on the stage. I go over and give him some attention for a while, then move back to my regulars. As I move over I hear him say, pissed off "ugh, paying attention to her fucking friends." I'm thinking fuck he has a shit ton of ones and I'm the only girl on stage, maybe I can make that money. So I sort of ignored my regulars and was paying him attention... asshole tips me maybe $4 out of at least $100 of ones and leaves the stage before my song is done. My regulars looked kind of pissed and so I walk offstage fucking pissed off.

I am so angry. Me and a couple other girls work the same amount of days a week, averaging 5-6 while most girls work TWO and are gone for weeks at a time so waaay more than anyone else. I am always on time, never ask to go home early no matter how dead it is. I work 50-60 hours at this club I have fucking given them my LIFE for the past month and a week or so and they know it and know that I do make the most $ of any girls in that club... I could be making waay more $ at a different place but I have stayed there because of loyalty and the fact that they have always treated me with respect. But I am so fucking pissed I don't even want to go back there right now. They fucked me out of so much $ tonight and made me feel guilty because they aren't making their tips. They did not have my back when I was almost being assaulted by that drunk guy, nor did they have my back when the guy ran out without paying me $400 two weeks ago. I feel fucking betrayed and disrespected and I would have quit right then but the manager wouldn't take my tip and was sweet when I paid out my fees and so I just tipped their stupid fucking ungrateful undeserving asses and drove home. And honestly, I went home with $137, I made $190, this was a SHIT night and how fucking dare they make me feel guilty when there was a girl who got FORTY DANCES and TIPPED THEM EACH 150$! they made more in ONE GIRLS TIPS (and they make an hourly wage) than I did IN THE ENTIRE NIGHT!

 

That totally sucks dude. Those chicks can be such bitches, but drunk (broke) assholes are the worst. Maybe another club would be better? Hang in there girl.

 

Yeah I don't mind the drunk ones with $ because they often can't tell the difference between a $20 and $100... but drunk and broke... and cheap... ugh!

I've really liked this club until tonght... I'm really dissapointed not in the customers (cause they suck at every club) or girls (same thing) but in the way I was treated by the bouncers and the DJ... if I didn't like the owner and the managers (who also love me) so much I would have walked out last night and not even paid out. So we'll see I guess.

 

Suss out other clubs - you have experience now, don't stay somewhere where they will possibly do that shit again to you. The bitchy girls, and the annoying drunks are to be expected - but poor management where people such as the bouncers and the DJ's being able to do that shit to you is completely not worth your time.

You can try talking to your manager(s) about what happened, but sometimes that can only make it worse and bring even more attention to yourself. It's up to you man, but if i were you id seriously start looking else where.

 

Just a question: What the hell was the dj's problem that he wouldnt let you go on stage no matter how many times you asked him? And he was yelling and cursing at you? I mean seriously.

 

The bouncers and DJs were getting pissed because the guys didn't want to buy dances they just wanted to stage tip... so they aren't making $ off of them (the club takes a portion of what we charge per dance (30%) and we tip everyone out for each dance ($1-3) and the staff all get a "bonus" from the managers if we sell x amount of dances. So even though all the girls were making $ on stage the club wasn't and neither were they (which I could seriously give a fuck about, I pick out ALL my music and the bouncers are standing around most of the time, I'm the one PAYING to be working, taking my clothes off and convincing guys to buy dances, and I'm not making an hourly rate unless I get it myself).

I'm hoping it was just a weird night, because the DJ that worked has never acted that way towards me before. We've gotten along really well since I started working there and he is normally a really nice guy... one of three people I actually trust there and why I was shocked when he yelled and cursed at me. He's put me up out of rotation before because I asked and will skip me anytime I ask him to even if it's just because I want a cigarette (he'll also put girls up out of rotation if they're talking to a customer that spent $ on me or someone to usually likes to spend $ on me). I ALWAYS overtip him. I think he got angry at me because I was spending so much time with customers that were just tipping on stage and not buying dances... but that was why they were tipping me so much when I went up, and why I sold $200 of overpriced non-alcoholic drinks (which cancelled out out some of my fees but mostly went back to the club).

The other problem is two of the three DJs are dating dancers and then another dancer is dating a bouncer and so theres some favoritism going on... but I get that from the managers who occasionally won't take my tips or don't charge me for house fees or introduce me to their friends or let me take tons of smoking breaks without being hassled or give me cash from their pockets when I want to trade in funny money and the club didnt get enough cash payments to do so that night... which is why I stay there. And I really like 90% of the girls that work there and have become close friends with a lot of them... at the other clubs I worked girls were bitchy, talked shit about me and everyone to each other and customers, cut throat with money and clicky. Most of the time I go into work and get angry about the $ but not the people there which I can handle-- I can't handle hating my work enviroment no matter how good the $ is. I also don't want to have to start at a new club where I will have to build up again... having to start from the bottom building up clientele and building appreciation from the DJs, managers, waitresses and bouncers all over again, and trying to find girls I can stand. The owner of this club owns a few more that have stricter hiring criteria and better customers and they let girls move up if they like them, I'm hoping if I stay here a while longer I'll get to move to one of them.

Right now my plan is to ask the main manager if I can get a few shifts waitressing while still dancing (they occasionally let girls do it). Right now I'm working 6 days a week and it's taking too much of a toll on me mentally and socially. I would rather cut it down to 4 or 5 and waitress on the days I have off (days when I wouldn't be making much $ anyway).