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WHY do you (as a drug addict) lie when you’re busted?

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Longtime lurker. Met my current bf of 7 years in rehab. I’m 31 alcoholic and he’s a 37 yr old heroin/pills/speed etc.
I just want to know from an addict aspect (I am too, but I’m open about my addiction) WHY when you get busted you lie to people who care about you. Passed out in the tub. empty baggies. Powder and credit cards with residue on the bathroom sink.
Is he that naive or sick he thinks I’m making it up? What is your thought process when you’re busted. Why do you gaslight? Blame? Minimize? Does he think I’m that stupid? Thanks in advance
 
I have a deny, deny, deny policy. I just refuse to ever admit a baggie, straw, etc is mine, lol. I don't know why I bother with the charade however, because its obviously my stuff, lol
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All addicts Lie!! Its what active addiction brings us to!! The most destructive disease we can have. The onlt disease I know of that the deeper I get into it the Less I beleive it. I find the only way I can function in addiction is with a A strong sense of denial!!
Fuck No not me , " As I OD :ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO:
 
Amos20 said:
I have a deny, deny, deny policy. I just refuse to ever admit a baggie, straw, etc is mine, lol. I don't know why I bother with the charade however, because its obviously my stuff, lol
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Hey, welcome to Bluelight.

In high school i'd lie outrageously and never give it up. Things that weren't even well thought out. And i would never go into much detail. When pushed about how ridiculous my lie was i'd just answer in a tone that was shocked that they didn't believe me.

After i graduated college and no longer relied on my parents, i explained everything that i could remember.

Most recently, when i had my 1st 2nd and 3rd dirty urines on probation, i had no reason to lie to the judge. Especially when they only recently diagnosed me with a mental illness that is highly correlated with substance abuse. If you have a well documented MI you can almost get away with murder.
 
Amos20 said:
I have a deny, deny, deny policy. I just refuse to ever admit a baggie, straw, etc is mine, lol. I don't know why I bother with the charade however, because its obviously my stuff, lol
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madness00 said:
Hey, welcome to Bluelight.

In high school i'd lie outrageously and never give it up. Things that weren't even well thought out. And i would never go into much detail. When pushed about how ridiculous my lie was i'd just answer in a tone that was shocked that they didn't believe me.

After i graduated college and no longer relied on my parents, i explained everything that i could remember.

Most recently, when i had my 1st 2nd and 3rd dirty urines on probation, i had no reason to lie to the judge. Especially when they only recently diagnosed me with a mental illness that is highly correlated with substance abuse. If you have a well documented MI you can almost get away with murder.
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I still say once it’s up, own your shit
 
To loved ones no, but everyone else ya.. That just shows a complete lack of respect to your people.

My mom was/is like that, will deny til her grave. Once instance I remember making a poppy tincture from a little crop that was pretty potent, I gave her a little and then hid the bottle. Well she must’ve liked it enough to go through all my stuff til she found it.

I knew she took it and she denied it up and down but her pupils couldn’t lie. They were pretty damn small for “having no opiates” at the time.

On the other hand other close family who stay honest with me even if they use a lot more than I’d like, I let them get away with a lot more. Like one family member I’ll take away his drugs if he’s going too far and he’ll gladly oblige, that shows respect and he knows I’m not just trying to kill his fun if I do that.

-GC
 
G_Chem said:
To loved ones no, but everyone else ya.. That just shows a complete lack of respect to your people.

My mom was/is like that, will deny til her grave. Once instance I remember making a poppy tincture from a little crop that was pretty potent, I gave her a little and then hid the bottle. Well she must’ve liked it enough to go through all my stuff til she found it.

I knew she took it and she denied it up and down but her pupils couldn’t lie. They were pretty damn small for “having no opiates” at the time.

On the other hand other close family who stay honest with me even if they use a lot more than I’d like, I let them get away with a lot more. Like one family member I’ll take away his drugs if he’s going too far and he’ll gladly oblige, that shows respect and he knows I’m not just trying to kill his fun if I do that.

-GC
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Dude, you turned your ma out on the poppy train? Damn and then dog her for addict behavior.
 
wudbutcher said:
Dude, you turned your ma out on the poppy train? Damn and then dog her for addict behavior.
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Lol dude you have no idea who my mom is.. She was stealing my pills as a kid then would kick me out of the house so she could get high on em. My first memory at 2 years old is of my mom hitting the floor in a grocery store from an alcohol WD induced seizure. We have a history.. She was an addict long before I was ever born, even used cocaine and alcohol the first couple months she was pregnant with me.

But keep that judgement coming!

-GC
 
Not judging. Something happened to her to make her that way. I’m gettin older, and resentment gets heavy, trust me. Negative actions( lying,anger)by anyone always boil down to fear.
Maybe knowing her history( and being old/ mature enough to source/ concoct tincture) in hindsight was it not setting her up to fail by giving her a tast?
Not judge, retrospective view.
 
As I age, I feel the need to deny a whole lot less. It's a sort of freedom, I am who I am, no need to lie about now.
 
My family is all ex-junkies or ex-alcoholics, so I don't give a fuck about hiding anything from them. I did K and acid with my dad last summer, aswell as morphine and Somas.

My friends are mostly naive and inexperienced when it comes to drug-use; they didn't notice I was high as a kite on acid at an amateur-soccer tournament.

I got caught once by my best friend. He knows I've been hooked on heroin, and I told him that I'd quit. Then he visited and found my stashbox with 5g of brown sugar.
He got mad. I got mad, because he's a drunk and I've never complained about his habits or tried to get him to quit.

Like @Vintage55 above me stated, age has done a great deal. When I got caught being 25, I'd lie through my teeth to anyone.
Why? They made me feel ashamed and I couldn't cope. I wasn't really comfortable in who I was, I wasn't sure who I was.
 
I've personally found that it's much easier to just confess to my bullshit if I've been caught red handed, but I've definitely told my fair share of lies in the past.

It honestly could be as simple as he knows you're going to be upset with him and he wants to avoid that.
 
Depends on the drug I'm on and who's asking really.

Sometimes it's so obvious I have no reason to bullshit someone, other times if there's a chance I can just pretend I was masturbating and that's why I performed some elaborate commando escape move when they walked in, I'll do that.
 
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