Why can't I?

[ijustcant2012]

Im 21yrs old a female, im stuck and don't no what to do I just can't seem to get to my peak I mean I get to the point the sensation but then the guy changes up the pace or something and the sensation goes away and I CANNOT get it to come back I do not like oral......I no most woman think im nuts for not liking oral but I just don't like the guy down there but im,stuck and have ran out.of ways to try and get me there before he goes..........what's wrong with me...??

 

[llama112]

You're only 21 so you've got lots of time
But have you tried masturbation? With toys? If you can figure out how to get there yourself then that should help you get there with someone else, since you'll know what you need.

 

[dieseldog1]

With some woman, that's just the way it is. You can use vibrators either before or after he has his to get yours?

 

[Bearlove]

Can you reach orgasm by yourself? What works for you when your alone? Get the guy your with to do that :D

Why not spend longer on foreplay - if you don't like oral, don't have oral. Get a vibrator, have a nice sexy massage, lots of kissing etc

How long have you been with the guy? Maybe your nervous so cant relax with him, maybe your in a place where you can't relax (fear of being caught, distractions could all put you off).

 

[ijustcant2012]

That could be the issue im not comfortable with him yet but also I was with my precious nd for 3 years and he couldn't make me either but I am able to make myself with a vibrator but.I've only been with the guy I am with now for two months going on three also.im very shy when it comes to.sex so and not very experienced I've only been with three people including the one im with now so I've never really experimented to much fearing they'll think it's weird I can't lol I haven't told him I haven't with him or can't yet lol I just usually take a shower afterwards and get what.us need haha

 

[ParappaTheRapper]

I think its wierd that your name is I just can't 2012 and u also can't in 2014.

What do u think about while cumming alone?

Lol. That sounds like cybering. Let me rephrase,

how is your thougt process differenr when not alone?

 

[llama112]

I was with my ex (first boyfriend) for three years and never got anything out of it. When I started dating my boyfriend, didn't get much out of it at first. We experimented, tried different things, and it worked. I've only slept with two guys in my life but it does take time to be comfortable around someone new. At least you can orgasm while using a vibrator, that is a start!

Don't worry about experimenting and him thinking it's weird. It's perfectly normal!

 

[ijustcant2012]

I don't really no how my thought is different when im alone and with him when im alone I think about the passion between us and how I want it to be when we do it it's like it's a rush he last for a long time but he doesn't put emotion in it if that makes since I like the slow passionate sex I mean I do like the rough get with it sex but at times I just want that passion that turns me on more than anything and when im alone I think about that

 

[augustaB]

Don't put so much pressure on yourself. Sex is something you have to practice before it really gets good.
If you can make yourself orgasm when you are alone, you will eventually meet somebody who can make you orgasm.
In the meantime make your wishes known. My partner likes to hold a vibrator on her clitoris while I thrust in her.
You need to experiment with what makes you feel good.
This is nothing to feel ashamed about, we are all different and have to learn.
Young men are often not very good lovers because they lack experience and just need to despunk.
So don't blame yourself. Give yourself time.

 

[Corazon]

... I do not like oral......I no most woman think im nuts for not liking oral but I just don't like the guy down there ...

Is this just a preference that you are 1000% sure and final about, or is there something like a comfort-zone or whatever that you may possibly get over?

Oral can be pretty cool, if you like it.

I actually knew one guy who was like that and claimed that he loved pussy, but hated getting his dick sucked. Seemed crazy but whatever.

a vibrator like the magic-wand or whatever, that you've already cum with on your own can be cool to use during sex too.

also helps to be comfortable with showing guys what you like, once you finally figure it out.

 

[little BIG Pecker]

Im 21yrs old a female, im stuck and don't no what to do I just can't seem to get to my peak I mean I get to the point the sensation but then the guy changes up the pace or something and the sensation goes away and I CANNOT get it to come back I do not like oral......I no most woman think im nuts for not liking oral but I just don't like the guy down there but im,stuck and have ran out.of ways to try and get me there before he goes..........what's wrong with me...??

Not only physical stimulation but mental stimulation is the key. You have to find that guy that can hit the buttons both mentally & physically that will drive you wild. It's the man's job to get inside the woman's head or maybe vice versa. You guys should tease each other a lot and refrain from sex. Sex is always better as so.. It's kind of like drinking a ice cold Dr. Pepper when you haven't had soda in a while, and you're hot & thirsty on a warm summer afternoon. Man, that Dr. Pepper is good. Orgasm heaven baby :D

 

[ijustcant2012]

Haha Im most positive I don't like oral I don't mind giving it but do not like receiving it and using toys in the bedroom might not be a bad idea because it very useful for me lol also the reading part believe I love doing that but he doesn't he's quick to the point I mean he is passionate but he doesn't foreplay before we do it or anything and I like that sensation of.touch and teasing so maybe I.should open up and tell him and try to get.him into.doing it we'll see how it goes im going to try